Stop using guilt and manipulation to sway my decision on abortion, the best decisions are based on reason and maturity. Do you know how many children around the world are alone and unadopted? They are by the millions. Pro-choice users actually tell you to follow your heart and do what's best when you attack them and their views on the subject. I am trying to make a healthy responsible decision for myself, and my unborn child. Is it responsible to abort? Definately not, is it responsible to keep it? No, not with the means I have now. God is a forgiving god and if it's religion you're all worried about than you've got another thing coming because God would take that baby back in a second and give him/her to someone else more deserving.
Thank you to all the pro-choice users helping me make my decision, and thank you to all of the pro-life users for caring so much about something you probably know nothing about.
I don't see pro-life users ever helping us to raise a child.
Thank you :)
2007-07-13 06:39:16 · 39 answers · asked by Danni D. 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am 17 years old and not ready to have a child.
2007-07-13 06:41:09 · update #1
You MURDERERS piss us off!
2007-07-13 06:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 5⤋
I know it's hard to get over how close-minded and hard-headed some people can be, but you know what? That's mostly what you're gonna get on forums like these. I didn't read your original posting, but all I can tell you is that abortion is a reasonable option, as long as you are mature enough to make an informed decision and be aware of its consequences. Technically, a routine abortion is a fairly simple procedure. Most are done very quickly, and the patient will hardly feel any pain during or after the procedure. (Cramping is normal, though.) Emotionally, however, it can be a very tough experience.
Don't let other people's ignorant / biased comments get you so worked up. Be firm in your beliefs and in your choices. In the end, that's all that matters.
2007-07-13 07:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by FunnyValentine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i answered your question and i'm not pro-life. but i think that abortion should not be taking lightly. it is something that you will have to live with for the rest of your life. regardless of your age. i know many girls who have had abortions years ago when we were the same age as you and they still regret it and have problems to this day. so just think it over and i'm sorry but you are pretty much an adult so don't let age be a big factor in your decision. good luck!
EDIT: please make sure your information is correct in another question you said you were 18 and would be 19 when the baby is born....so how old are you 17 or 18 not that it really matters but it makes you seem sneaky when you put different information down. oh and you seemed like you wanted to keep the baby in your other questions so really think about this decision!
2007-07-13 07:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Supermommy!!! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi my mum had me 2 weeks before she was 17 yrs old!
I am now 43 yrs old!
If you want to abort it's your decision, only you know, I hope you have a happy life and i hope you are not mentally ill after as some of my friends who had abortions are now! Mind you my mum is more mentally ill than all of them as she had me and 3 other kids before she was 22 yrs old! I also hope it doesn't give you problems later in life when you want kids!
take care . Some people live in the fear of god not the love of god! you sound very grown up, perhaps you should have been more grown up with preventing this! good luck! you decide, you have to live with it! Mother theresa was supposed to have said something like " If a mother can murder her own child then how can we tell the world murder is wrong!"
Amazing sentence, not sure even if my god who is love would disagree with that statement!
2007-07-13 06:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is why people want to call her a murderer. Are you the law? Are you God? I myself would not choose to have an abortion, but I understand that calling this girl a murderer will not help her situation. Obviously, it has simply alienated her to the pro-life cause. If you honestly want her to change her mind, then you are going about it the wrong way. If you feel so strongly about being pro-life, then why anger the person whose opinion you are trying to change? Give her the crucial information she needs instead.
2007-07-13 07:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont htink i could ever help you understand religion. I dont think anyone of this day and age really does. By the way im pro choice.i dont know how much tim eyou have left to decided but what i do know is this. it has to be 100% your choice and a choice that you can live with.the only person you cant escape is you. no matter your choice you will feel doubt and concern so go with your heart and not your head. And you will think of the what if no matter your choice.but what it comes down to is whats right for you and can you live with that choice. and that comes with every choice you make not with just having or not having a child
2007-07-13 06:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by zourvina 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not really strongly for or against abortion. I think it's a very individual, personal decision.
My only comment/advice is PLEASE PLEASE inform the father of the baby about what you are planning. I know someone who's ex had an abortion and he didn't even know she was pregnant. It may not have been his, but the was the (strong) possibility that it was. He found out after the fact when she came to him to have him sign papers. He was absolutely crushed. Especially since he didn't even know about it. That was about 5 or 6 years ago, and it still hurts him.
I won't tell you whether or not to get an abortion, because it is a very personal decision, and I really don't know your situation. But please keep what I said in mind and inform the father.
2007-07-13 06:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, well my answer is this; i was 18 when i got pregnant (just after my bday) and i wasnt ready for a child either. i was still in school, my boyfriend left me when he found out, and my dad was gonna kill me! but to this day, i cant imagine had i ever let him go; abortion OR adoption. its only a choice YOU can make, but remember you need to live with that choice the rest of your life. i grew up awfully damn fast when i found out i was pregnant, and i finished school, and i got the stares from classmates, i missed out on senior week, and the senior class trip, but would i change it? would i go back and have had an abortion? NO WAY. JMO though. you really dont need to make a post just to announce pro-lifers piss you off. shoudl i make a post sayign how badly i dont agree with the way pro-choicers make their point? they can be just as rude and callous as pro-lifers.
2007-07-13 13:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes me mad, is when I post an answer that says "It's your choice", and I get bad response.
As LAW right now, abortion is a womans choice. It may not be the choice you or I would make, but if a woman chooses it, the law supports it (for now) and says "yes" it is her choice.
I could never choose an abortion myself, but who am I to tell another women that she cannot have one? I do not agree with it, and I do not condone it, but I am not God, I am not the law. I cannot make that choice for another woman.
But I do agree with others, a lot of the anger is that some women use abortion for birth control. Or have made the choice to get pregnant by not using any protection or birth control.
2007-07-13 06:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by ksmomma3 3 · 8⤊ 0⤋
The decision is yours to make... and while others will tell you "why did you have sex if you can't afford a baby", you alone have the answer to that.
It sounds to me like you are mad at the world, but its because of a decision you and your partner made, not anyone else. So maybe you need to realize that all decisions you make in life will always have a consequence.
If you can not keep your baby, consider having the baby for a couple... many couples are willing to pay for your medical expenses and even compensate you for carrying the baby to full term.
You made a grown up decision to bring a life into the world, so now you need to step up and make a grown up decision.
2007-07-13 06:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Nick's Mom 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Dear friend, You can get support and information at a pregnancy resource center, which you can find by googling optionline on the net, or by calling 1800afamily. Please take good care of yourself and your baby. I am adopted and so happy to be alive. Had my young unmarried parents made different choice, I'd be dead. Now I'm alive, have a family of my own and am trying to adopt a child. Please give your baby for adoption. It is the reasonable thing that makes good and sense out of this situation. Sincerely, Eric
2007-07-16 07:53:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋