We all hear the arguments about pro-choice/pro-life. Ok, fine. But what makes people think that adoption is always a better answer than abortion? Abortion is selfish, but is it not also selfish to throw an infant into a system that's going nowhere? U.S adoptions has never been at a very high rate. With the recent trend of celebrities adopting overseas and naive people following in their footsteps, I'm sure it hasn't risen any. Can one say that being bounced from foster family to foster family, and seeing God knows what horrors, is what's really in the best interest of that child? I'm not looking for an arguement, just looking for opinions. Personally, I'm pro-choice but neither abortion or adoption is an option I'd take. What are your views?
2007-07-13 06:32:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Rachel- I agree with you. There are tons of couples that adopt each year. And I do applaud them. I'm glad the system works for them. I guess my point is, adopt, but do it here first. Teenage pregnancy is at a all time high. More and more kids are being thrown in the system.
2007-07-13 06:43:36 · update #1
Wow Ladyluckinor, wetbacks?? I'm speechless
2007-07-13 06:44:48 · update #2
I am also pro-choice but I feel that adoption is a better way to go (as long as the mother can deal with that). At least you are giving the child a chance to have a good life. It may be true that a lot of kids grow up in foster homes but a lot do get adopted, too. Not all kids in foster homes have it bad, either. There are some really really great foster parents out there that can provide a child with love and support.
Oh and by the way, ladyluckinor. You are reported. That comment was really uncalled for and hateful. You should be embarrassed.
2007-07-13 06:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by Maid of Constant Sorrow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised to hear how misinformed you are about U.S. adoption. Maybe you should do some research. When you talk about children being thrown into "the system" I am not sure what you mean. There are numerous loving couples waiting for babies. The babies will not be thrown into any system, but adopted immediately! I think you are talking about abused or neglected babies that are taken away by the state and put in foster care. That is something very different entirely. If you are pregnant and choose adoption over abortion - then you as the birth mother are able to contact an agency and choose the adoptive parents and the level of contact you want from them and the baby (open, semi-open or closed). The baby is never in a system, but goes from the hospital to the adoptive couple.
Abortion is a personal choice and needs to be a personal decision. A decision I know that no one would ever take lightly. I am glad we live in a country that gives women control over their bodies. I would hope that if someone was pregnant they would look at both options and pick the one that is right for them.
2007-07-13 06:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by twinsmama06 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I also am pro-choice, and like you, the two options are not for me. People should take precautions (no thanks to the government's "abstinence" only programs) and understand that without the use of contraceptives during sex, then pregnancy could occur. It makes me both angry and sad because I live in a town with the highest teen pregnancy rate in the entire STATE. The local high-school even has a day-care program for teen mothers. The drop of their kids at the school's day care (which is free) and then pick them up after class. I see 14 year olds go into high-school pregnant and graduate four years later with a 4 year old, a 3 year old, a 2 year old and a baby. What chance do THOSE kids have? The other problem is that MOST of them are children of undocumented immigrants...arg. Sorry, adoption isn't a great option either
2007-07-13 06:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad outcomes make all the headlines. In my three plus decades of pediatric practice I encountered many wonderful childless couples who were fortunate to find a child to adopt and who make wonderful parents. Sure, there were a few adverse situations, but they were in a small minority.
Foster home placement is a different issue. Foster parents are not always appropriately screened. Sometimes their motives are financial rather than altruistic. Foster children have often been taken from parents after suffering abuse and neglect. It makes for a bad mix.
There is less of a stigma from being a single mother than there was 50 years ago. While I admire the efforts many of these young women put into parenthood, and applaud the efforts of supporting grandparents, I often find myself wishing that the child were put up for adoption. I just feel for childless couples who cannot find infants in the US to adopt.
Its understandable why young women seek abortion, but if they would take a little effort to seek out an appropriate social service agency perhaps they would make a different choice and make a childless couple very happy.
2007-07-13 06:52:43 · answer #4 · answered by greydoc6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infant's are adopted very quickly in the US. There are so many people that want to have children, but they are not able to. Most people looking to adopt, want a newborn.
It's sad how many wonderful, loving people aren't able to have children when there are so many people that are irresponsible in getting pregnant, and they think abortion is a form of birth control.
Other than rape, If you are old enough to make the decision to have sex, then you should also know the consequenses and be responsible by using a method of birth control to prevent an unwanted child.
I have heard horror stories about late term/partial birth abortions and the baby grabbed the doctor's finger. How sad is that. If you research abortion, they describe and show pictures of what it does to the baby. (yes, I consider the fetus a baby)
There are people who believe abortion is ok and that it is a great choice for women to have, and there are people who believe abortion is murder and a sin. It is a subject like religion and politics, not something to be discussed.
2007-07-13 06:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by forever8true 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point, but I don't completely agree with you. Our adoption system isn't perfect by any means. I am also pro-choice (even though personally I wouldn't get an abortion).
However, there ARE hundreds of people that want to adopt...problem is most people want to adopt a newborn. Some adoption agencies have adoptions where the birthmother is able to select the parents for her child and therefore they are not going to cycled through "the system".
My aunt and uncle struggled through fertility problems, in-vitro, and several miscarriages. Adoption was an answered prayer for them...shortly after adopting their little baby girl, they were blessed with another child.
Wow ladyluckinor...congratulations on making the most ignorant, uneducated, and slightly racist comment I have ever seen on yahoo answers...that is quite an accomplishement!
2007-07-13 06:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by edmistonlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2,000,000 couples waiting to adopt. Some of these people grow impatient with the slow American adoption system and go to Third World countries where adoptions are much quicker. Other than the fact that it takes a long time for adoptive parents to get a child, the US adoption system is good. The foster system is a different issue.
I know a woman who put her son up for adoption. She's quite pleased. She chose the parents for her son; and she got exactly the type of parents that she wanted.
In Planned Parenthood's latest report they admit to performing over 260,000 abortions, yet they make no reference to any adoptions that they facilitated. It's a shame that this organization receives hundreds of millions of taxpayer dollars.
2007-07-13 11:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Richard M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have an a open adoption and the mother can pick a couple to adopt her child- the kid never goes into foster care at all.
Abortion kills the child giving it no chance at all.
Adoption gives the child a chance at a good life.
To Ladyluckinor: My mother had me when she was 18 and married - so your idea is not the best. Many many women have children at 18, 19, 20 years old and are good parents who take care of thier kids and dont need welfare so none of your precious money goes to pay for them.
2007-07-13 06:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gotta say I agree with you on this one! Im pro-choice too. But when it comes down to it, neither option sounds that great. Its sad to take away a child's chance at life with an abortion, though its just as sad if not worse, to throw a child into a system thats not working and have them grow up in potentially horrible conditions.
Its heartbreaking and frustrating. We need to come together as a country and demand that our children, because really, thats what they are OUR countries' children. They deserve better. Certainly our tax dollars can be put to better use in providing for what is the people who will be our countries' future!
2007-07-13 06:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by LeJess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having made the choice to abort a pregnancy due to it causing me harm and losing the baby anyway....let me tell you all....it was the hardest decision I have ever made. I hate people who call me a murder! I would have rather had the baby, but it just wasn't meant be! I have always wanted children...and my background...abortion is a sin....so when I did what I did....It was really hard for me.
Now, I finally have the most beautiful son in the world...and most likely can't have anymore kids...but I am so blessed to have my son!
So, please...don't call me a murder....don't call me a sinner...don't tell me I am going to hell....
Unless you have been in this situation...you have no right to judge!
Adoption is great....but why are so many Americans go out of the US to adopt children....what is wrong with US children? Maybe it is the system...I don't know....but it is a good question..
2007-07-13 07:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by poopsiemom031904 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋