i tell them that iam sorry for being such a di(k head to them for the past 2 years.i never went to their wedding and quit talking to my sister altogether when i found out that she was gay.i ran into my sister and her wife at the calgery stampede and we had a long talk and they told me that it pretty tough being gay at times and the way that i acted towards them hurt them.
2007-07-13 06:32:06 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
gifts are a nice start, but money doesn't buy forgiveness. you have to rebuild your relationship. let her know you love her and that you are there for her as her brother. and mean it!
2007-07-13 11:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's great that you recognize and are coming to terms with the hurt and ill feelings that you have with your sister. Family is so important. The best thing that you can get for them is giving your apology for being as you said a "di(k head".
Give them your acceptance. Give them your love. Get related again.
It's a big step and no doubt difficult to do. But it's of way more value than a toaster or blender or even money or a gift certificate!
2007-07-13 13:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by Eric G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are on the road to recovery already. Just be there for them from now on and prove to them that you are a loving and caring brother to them both. If you feel the need to get them a gift since you missed the wedding you might try a gift card to Victoria's secret, this sends a message that you are with them 100% not just putting up a false front but that you recgnize them as your sisters and as sexual beings that are no different from yourself. Matching flannel shirts are always nice too. Good luck.
2007-07-13 13:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont buy their forgiveness. I think that if you say your sorry and truely mean it that is a gift in itself. I think that a good gusture that you can do it take them out to dinner or make them dinner at your place and talk to them about what you were going through when you found out that she was gay and getting married. Tell her that you are sorry and would like a relationship with them both. Tell her that as your older brother it is your responsibility to protect your baby sister and you are sorry for being the one to cause the pain. I think if you try to develope a relationship with them she is will more then happy to accept you.
2007-07-13 13:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Agent_m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's wonderful and I'm very proud of you for doing so! Just the fact that you talked together is a great start. Continue to do so, tell her you love her like a good brother should and mean it -- that would be the best gift you could actually give her and her partner. If you want to do something monetarily, a weekend away might be a nice idea for them. I am so very proud of you, Dearest. I knew you had it in you.
2007-07-14 00:27:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them both, together, that I was wrong, and tell them why, I would ask for their forgiveness, and tell them you want more than anything to be their brother/brother in law again, and that you're there for them. Wait until the anniversary to send a gift, until then and going forward, keep the lines of communication open, if only with at least a card or kind note.
2007-07-13 22:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you did not go to their wedding, ask them what you could them as a belated wedding gift.
By doing this, you are acknowledging their being together and it would be a good start towards getting over the past 2 years of you ignoring them.
2007-07-13 21:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. A long letter expressing your regret and wishes for a renewed relationship is a good start. A present will depend on what you know of their needs and interests. Try to make it appropriate. And if you're not the only one in the family who feels this way, it would be a nice gesture to write to other members of the family and explain how you came to see the error of your ways. Maybe you can organize a family reunion. Good luck to you.
2007-07-13 13:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by TG 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to treat them as normally as possible. Being "different" in any way is difficult. Being treated like you're not different is the the best gift you can get. It wouldn't hurt to give them a belated wedding gift also...
2007-07-13 13:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by DustysMomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for them is accept their relationship and be a part of their life. I can't say I condone gay relationships, but I would have to remain a part of the life of one of my kids, or my sister/brother, or other close loved one.
2007-07-13 13:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by SweetPandemonium 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing you can get them to combat what you did. all you can do now is show them that youre sorry - and really, genuinely accept their relationship. dont avoid them anymore. be open in your relationship with them (not too open so as to make it seem youre making a show of it, but open enough to show you mean it).
keep in touch with her.
invite her over for dinner, whatever.
treat her like you would have treated her al this time, had she been straight. but dont make an extra effort, dont push, or overdo it.
2007-07-13 13:37:51 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋