Wife moved out now, no job,no money wants me to help get a car.?

Question

Wife moved out now with her kids (7 y/o and 13 y/o, to where I don’t know two days ago, after I told her I am not driving your 13 y/o son around town at 9: pm as the price of gas is now. She use the car that evening and didn’t put gas in the car, told me she needs my card. I told why u just get the gas while you out, she had money, I told I just pay the bills. You pay for gas and food. She get mad. Her son suppose come home at certain time he late. He doesn’t respect anyone especially his mother, unless he needs something badly. When if you say no, he goes in a rage by slamming kitchen cabinets, hallway doors and also hitting the wall with his fist. Then he starts playing the TV loud. I told I not let a 13 y/o boy run this house. I told him if you don’t like the rules in the house are, get out of the house. I told that in front of my wife. She told me I was wrong to tell him that. I told her this kid not running over me in my house. He does not have respect for my wife or me. She stay home the next day from her temp job, soon I got home she packed her things and left. She told I was wrong to tell a kid that. I told her you told me I am not their father. I can’t punish them. I have an 8 y/o daughter from prior marriage. She just a doll, respects everyone and even to my wife. But my wife thinks I treat her like a princess. I told that what a father suppose to do. I treat her daughter the same way. But my wife doesn’t spend time with her kids. By taking least 30 minutes out of her day, each day to listen what they have to say. They will respect you. She never told her kids about her spending problem (checks bouncing) every week. Her complaints every week is the bank fault. I told her, she needs to budget and we make it; I never had a money issue until my wife. I told her pay a bill on time, she doesn’t. She got a school check; I deposit for her its bounce, she doesn’t know why. Found out she call the school tell them she never got the check and both show up she put one in her account they took the fees she made, and never told me what she did. They put a stop payment one I put in my bank, now I am short in my bank because of her. I told I need her to give me back the money. She said I am not working and no car, I get to you soon as she can. And tell about her son football equipment in my car she wants back. Wants me call my friend about a car for her, she not working, no figure. I really think my wife is bipolar. Should I assist her, give back her son equipment? I know I never get my money back from her. I am seeking a divorce now. She had someone take my belongs while I was at work before?

Answer 1

I dont think you will miss her when she is gone.

Answer 2

Dear NewYorker,

Hon, you have said and done the right thing. This woman's son is only a bomb waiting to blow and she's the one who made him. Give your wife her son's football equipment back. Do not call your friend about a car for her. Change all of your checking accounts and credit accounts in case she has checks or credit cards. See a good attorney and get your divorce. She was a mistake. Enjoy your daughter. Let it go. :)

Answer 3

If I am understanding this right...She wont allow you to correct her children, but she lets them run wild? She deposits and withdraws a bad check expecting you to cover it? She is constantly bouncing checks and blaming others? She left on her own?
If I were you, I would be celebrating! Give the woman her boys things AND her walking shoes! You are in a good position here my friend. She abandoned you and left the house. If you don't have children together, then there is no child support that can be ordered. Just simply get a lawyer and call it quits.

Answer 4

You married a user and should have settled for a prenuptial agreement before you married her.
Throw her son's stuff out of the car and tell her to get a life.

If you cater to her every whim, you are a foolish man. Learn your lesson in never marrying women like her again. Get on with your life and enjoy it to the utmost enjoyment.

Life is too short for losers and you are living on borrowed time. Remember that today is the first day of the rest of your life. Get a job, start a clean slate, and God will take care of you...understood?!!

Answer 5

first thing you do is go to Home Depot and buy new door locks and install them! then you give her back her sons football equipment, have her go to your friend for the car, otherwise YOU will be responsible for the payments. I would buy her a 1 moth bus pass and that would be all she would get. why ruin yourself finacially over a liar?

Answer 6

Tell her that she is on her own. She is the one that decided to leave she has to stand on her own. She sounds like she does have some kind of mental problems. I would just change your locks, block her from getting into your bank account and cut her off. If she trys to talk to you tell her to talk to your lawyer. Divorce her and move on.

Answer 7

she left u because u were attempting to discipline her son, its best to get out of this marriage, and move on. get out of this as soon as u can she is a user and separate the bank accounts, and move forward with the divorce, as u will never see eye to eye with her about her son.

Answer 8

She moved out. You dont need to help her with anything. Change the locks, and proceed with your divorce.

Answer 9

YES YOU SHOULD GIVE BACK THE SON'S FOOTBALL EQUIPMENT HE'S 13 AND A BRAT BUT LOOK WHO HAS RAISED HIM, BUT AFTER YOU GIVE IT BACK GET THE DIVORCE AND STAY AWAY FROM THIS LOSER

Answer 10

Just tell her how it is. You have no job, no money and no support in your life from her. Just learn to say no. She will get over it and if she doesn't then you should have thought twice before marring her.

Answer 11

Be happy U are FREEEEE... Find somebody else with less headache.