Sex life is great. You have all the fun when you are in the dating period. But can it get better once you get married? Can marriage offers something more on the sexual experience? If so, what are those? This question is not for those who would wait to have sex until marriage.
2007-07-13 05:20:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very rarely will it get better. There are a lot of people who say it will, but if that were the case why is adultery so common in the USA? The more you get to know someone and the longer you're together, then yes, maybe it's easier to please each other in bed. The problem is QUANTITY. Even if you have the great sex with your spouse, what does it matter if you're only getting it once a week? It's common to have sex even less often than that once you've been together for longer. I'm not saying everyone should have boring sex everyday, but if you're not getting any, then it's not good.
2007-07-13 05:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It Definitely can be better! It takes such a long time to learn exactly what your partner loves....you have your whole lives to "practice"?? How can that be not great?? Marriage only sucks the life out of sex b/c people let it...you get too bogged down w/ life, and stop caring. Don't do that, look for ways to keep it interesting....tell each other what you like, don't like, need, etc. You have no idea what truly great sex is until you hit that connection of perfect "oneness" I can't explain it, but for sure!
2007-07-13 05:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dj 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If I had it to do over again, I would wait to have sex until I was married. I regret dh not being my first and only.
That said, though, sex can get better as time goes on. Dh & I get more enjoyment out of each other now than we did way back when.
We're a week away from our 21st anniversary & we're both more in love and get more out of every aspect of our relationship now than we did when we were dating or at any other point in our marriage.
It's amazing how much more intimate and passionate you can become when you know each other for that long. The key, though, is good communication and utmost trust with each other.
SG
2007-07-13 06:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's using the great sex to reel you in, once you put the ring on her finger, here is what your sex life will be.
If you want to, it's ok if she wants to, if she wants to, you had better want to, if you ever expect to again.
If I had a dollar for everytime I heard "Is that all you ever think about? we just had sex last week!!!" I'd have an extra 26 bucks every year to claim as income.
And before you all go on and on about how I need to make every effort to make it better, more interesting, more romantic etc. etc. I have tried everything that has been suggested. Talking only results in "I just don't need it as much as you"
Bottom line, don't get married, the children that you will have are the ones that will truly suffer when you finally kick her to the curb.
2007-07-13 05:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tom S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you dont take each other for granted it can stay great married or not. The longer you are with somone the more you learn about their likes and dislikes. You dont just turn into this all knowing sex maniac because you got married. nobody comes to your door and say now that your married heres the book with all the good sex stuff to try.
2007-07-13 05:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, marriage is more than just sex, so if the rest of the relationship is just eh, then yes. I bet the crush shows him more attention, admiration at attraction than the wife, and that's why the intense crush. I'm a strong believer in marriage, and when problems arise I believe in working on it prior to breaking it up. A crush is a good sign there's problems. The grass is not greener on the other side, it just seems that way at times.
2016-04-01 02:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Bonnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can get better if the couple relates well to each other and keeps the lines of communication open.
marriage is about committment and life and responsibility, living and it's no longer the "fairy tale"
i think it's a personal choice to wait until marriage for sex... and rare.. it's up to the individuals, and there is nothing wrong with that whatsoever!
take care
2007-07-13 05:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I had a conscience and felt guilty every time I had sex, it got WAY better after marriage. Also, my hubby has learned to be able to know if something is hurting me, or if I am enjoying it. You learn new and exciting things that enhance the relationship. Have fun with it.
2007-07-13 05:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by buttrfly52 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
for those that say it gets better its because you feel more confortable with the person you have married and can be more eager to try new things with him/her than with people that are with you periodically.
for those that say it does nor its because of the predictability. You know what to expect so it because a routine rather than a suprised rush.
The truth is somewhere in between.
2007-07-13 05:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you. While it can get better after marriage generally it doesn't because other things get in the way.
2007-07-13 05:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋