marriege proposal?

Question

Please help me coz i in dilemma. I got a marriege proposal from muslim kashmiri man. I am malaysian. So far he is a nice man and coz of long distance we only met 2 times only when he coming to indonesia. he said he love me and want to marry me. Please help me to make decision. I admit that i really love him and afraid if i take a wrong decision to marry him. i heard people (internationally) said if a foreigner want to marry local (myself), they only want to get PR. Some people said foreigner want to marry malaysian because they want to stay in a peace country. I also heard people (not only malaysian said) indian man love to play with LOVE words. They are always successful when they use their love words. Please help me. I really need advise from all of you before i said yes to his proposal. Thank you.

Answer 1

Now if this man really sincere with you & want to marry you he can do it as there is a legal provision through which any Indian citizen can marry a foreigner in a foreign country. The Foreign Marriage Act, 1969 clearly provides for the procedure where such marriage can be legally solemnized & this is applicable to Kashmir’s living in India. Just he has to file a notice for this marriage in his Indian Embassy while he is staying in your country after at least 30 days of his stay there & get this marriage solemnized according to the provisions of this Act. This is basically a civil marriage & it requires that your country's laws should not be against such marriage between any foreigner citizens. This marriage is valid & is recognized not only in both your countries but through out the world & you get a proper marriage certificate of this marriage as it is a registered marriage & a proper record is kept regarding it. The man will be bound to follow all the rules & regulations that are provided in this Act & although he being a Muslim won't be able to marry a second time after he get married to you under this Act as that will be an offence of bigamy which other wise is not an offence under the Shariat law applicable to Muslims but after coming under the provisions of this Act he will be debarred for getting second marriage till subsisting of this marriage, this is a legal point which not every one understands specially the Indian Muslims & who ever understand this, avoid such provisions of matrimonial laws where second marriage becomes an offence for them. When you ask him to go by this enactment for getting married if he is really honest & sincere with you he will agree to marry under this Act otherwise he will insist on marriage under the Shariat law that allows a four legal wives at a time to a Muslim. This is the best way to check him.

Answer 2

An important decision you are going to take in your life and that will change your life style very much . So be very careful. You have to collect lots of details before you finalise this decision . You can approach Kashmir police department people and give them the details of the proposed boy whether he has any problem with them . Do not panic. Approach somebody from India and get the maximum details of their family and other particulars. If unknown person wants to marry in some other country for some reason it is your duty to know why he is interested in you. Please verify everything before you say yes to this BOY. All the best . Please do not panic, things are in your control only Take a deep breath and then prepare to act accordingly . All the best yours VRVRAO

Answer 3

let me tell u that i too is an indian guy and living in india only .. yeah i must say that we guys r very sentimental ctaring and love to hav love........but i must admit this there r so many cases (as so far i hav seen i my life) that the many indians try to befool ppl make there wrong use , even sometimes they ruins up others life... u might think that y am i condemning my own countrymen >>.this is becoz u reallly need to b helped.!!!!!!!!!
u should also know this muslims may hav more than one wife......perhaps he may be already married

pls make right decesions after havineg intensely thinked upon my advice and deeply have a glance at the matter that do he relly luves u on not

Answer 4

It's not about marrying a foreigner. You should never marry someone you don't really know. You've only met this person twice. Even if he was a local or whatever race he was, you should get to know him better before you marry him.

Answer 5

well lifetime commitement cant be made impulsively,i will advice try to figure out all your doubts and discuss with him to test him,for example tell him that u will go to stay in india rather then him moving to indonesia,similarly try to ask him abt things answers of which will make the picture clear and still if u wish to marry him invove a few well wishers who u know well,so that they can keep a trace on u & help in case u get into trouble,bottom line play safe,all the best

Answer 6

Marry a man about whom you are 100% sure. Just 2 meetings can not be sufficient to know each other fully. Satisfy yourself that he is indeed what he claims to be and that he wants to marry you for love only. Your apprehensions could well turn out to be true. So you should never say "Yes" till you are perfectly sure.

Answer 7

Marrying a person whose culture is vastly different will definitely invite problems. If you had the opportunity to learn his culture and adjusted with his family and fathomed his mind, then you could have gone ahead. In the present scenario, it seems more than likely that you will encounter problems of various sorts and will have a bitter experience. Curb your temptations and find some one you really know.

Answer 8

i think u should not marry him. But u said u really love him? and u only met twice in ur life time???is it just an infatuation or real love ( with someone u only met twice in ur whole life??), that's somethng only u could answer,and u r going 2 make choice of ur lifetime. u r going make one of the biggest decision in ur life, its u who has to live with it all ur life, so choose wisely, follow ur intuition. i thnk its clear in a way in which u had asked the question. Better play safe than sorry dear.

Answer 9

Girl, he is soo playing you. Where are your parents in this matter? You need to consult them. Also, do the research on him, etc. It is true that Indian men play games with women because they are idiots. Plus, you only met him twice. You need to get to know him better than that-take more time to get to know him. Plus, if he is Muslim...he may have more than one wife already AND he could be a terrorist since he lives in the mountains.

Answer 10

You can accept whatever you like my dear, you are full of age. But if I were you I would think twice before marrying a 20 year old boy, even I would say that 23 years is quiet young to get married... Are you sure he is looking for a wife or for company? Or for somebody who resolves his problems? I mean you are not talking about love. You say that he thinks that you are good for him, but is he also good for you? If I were you, I would be very sceptic, because he might simply look for somebody to provide him.