I have known my fiance since we were freshmen in high school. He is not a bad person wouldn't hurt a fly. Just got involved with the wrong person and made a bad choice (robbed a bank). We have 10 month old twin boy's together. He is a great father to those boy's they love their dad very much. The thing is we are very yung only 19 years old. I want to stay with him it is just very hard. Please someone i need advice. Again he is not a bad person so don't say oh hunny you have to think what if he gets out and hurts you, he is not like that. He just made a stupid mistake.
2007-07-13 05:09:58 · 12 answers · asked by Colie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Involved with the wrong person"? "Made a bad choice"? "He made stupid mistake"?
Kid...you amaze me. Knocking over a ban is far beyond the 'stupid mistake' phase. In fact, mistakes usually occur through some form of accident. I don't belive he 'accidently' robbed a bank. Of course naturally there are kids involved. Twins to boot. You're level of intelligence leaves much to be desired.
2007-07-13 05:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you've known him since high school have 19 YEAR OLDS (or month?) and he's just now only your fiance? Why on earth did you wait so long to want to get married? What's the point now? Half your life is already gone, you might as well just stay living together - and that's a big deal for me to say, I'm very against shacking up. But hell, they kids should be leaving for college this year, what's the use of getting married now. And what exactly is the question? If you want to stay with him, then do it. Hell you've thrown this much of your life away already, what's another 20 years.
2007-07-13 05:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how can he be a great father when he is in prison.
Second, Did the people he was with make him rob the bank? otherwise he did it of his own free will.
Third, and this is almost a guarantee, he will not be the same guy who went into prison. Have you ever seen "OZ" on HBO?
When he gets out it will be very hard for him to find any kind of job. Don't let his mistake become yours!
2007-07-13 05:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by KEVIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people in prison are not bad people. I think that goes without saying. You're also not providing enough info, sweetie. I assume that he was convicted for robbing the bank. How much time is he serving? If you really love him, you will wait for him. You are very young. You have so much of your life ahead of you. Don't focus on men and relationships right now. While your man is in prison, do your best for your children and lean on your family for support. If you do meet someone else, be honest with your man about it.
2007-07-13 06:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of make sure he has gotten over being stupid. What the hell was he thinking robbing a bank with two little babies at home?
Anyway second make sure you really want to be with this guy. Make sure that you are not just wanting to be with him because you two have babies together. You are young and sometimes at 19 you think you know what you want when you really don't. Believe me what you think you want at 19 is totally different at 24.
Just be there fro him for the fortune of your kids and if you two still want to continue your relationship after her has gotten out of jail and got a good job and is able to support his children, then go for it honey. Good Luck.
Put your kids well - being first and your feelings last. That is what a good parent does. Good Luck!
2007-07-13 05:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Good" people do bad things. Is this who you want to be with, kids or not? Robbing a bank is serious. Where is he going to work after this? You have more important issues, like your sons. Stupid mistakes, he took a piece of gum from the store. think about it.
2007-07-13 05:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by jz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's going to be in prison for awhile, so you need to start building a life for you and your twins. Get your life together like he wasn't going to be in it. That will help you mature. By the time he gets out prison you will be in a much better position to decide how much you want him in your life.
There's nothing you can do for him except keep in touch. So once again, get your life together. Make decisions for you and your twins. You need to think of what's best for you and your twins, because you are responsible for them. He's not going to be around no matter how much you think of him. As you build a profession and take care of your twins, you will become more mature and will be in a much better position to decide if you want to share your life with this guy when he gets out. Keep in touch with him (if you want) but put your energy towards you and your children.
2007-07-13 05:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he gets out he MUST MUST change his playground of friends. Now he has a felony which will make getting work harder but there are alot of compaines who would love to have a hard worker,and i would think maybe he would be willing to work hard for his family, when he gets out and he will hun he needs to just involve himself in working and his family and maybe learn to bend his knee and pray as well,you can join him in that tooo
2007-07-13 05:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what are you asking? Hon, you have already made up your mind.......Good luck. And in the mean time, go back to school, so you will always be able to support yourself. At 19 you have zero salable skills. read minimum wage jobs, read never getting ahead, read being in debt all the time read POOR forever, read never owning your own house, read buying used everything.read driving a crappy car, read everything always needing fixing....... get it???????.. remember, kids and your education are forever, boyfriends, husbands and promises, are not.... ( a little thought from my mom)
2007-07-13 05:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and the question you asked a couple of minutes ago was where was a dance club near chicago.
2007-07-13 06:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋