Ok I have had enough of it already every where I go I hear how huge I am and am I sure I'm not having twins or how I'm not suppose to be this HUGE yet or my favorite omg why are you breaking out your not suppose to be breaking out like that at the end of your pregnancy your suppose to have that "GLOW". Why why me why does the world feel they need to comment on how huge I am oh and when I say no my doctor said I am growing perfectly and I am at just the right size for 28weeks they say oh I would get a second opinion. Oh and all these woman have been pregnant before I have been there with one of them when someone called her huge and she just started crying but for some reason she thinks its different with me.
Sorry I'm just irritated with everyones comments about me and needed to vent
2007-07-13 04:50:42 · 31 answers · asked by ?????? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yeah I know I am kinda on the sensitive side and everyone else knows I mean they thought it would be funny to get me a t-shirt that says " Don't blame me I'm having a hormonal moment" =/
2007-07-13 04:58:54 · update #1
lol, dont u just love people that think they can measure the size of your pregnant stomach with a quick glance... especially the ones that have had babies before! Welcome to the world... where everyone thinks they know it all! Not too much longer to go, hang in there!
2007-07-13 04:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by carryon50 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a bit of the opposite problem. I'm six (calendar) months along and I'm barely showing. I'm due in September. There is a woman at my church who is due in December, but in comparison to me, she looks as though she's due any minute. It's just been int he past couple of weeks that I've received comments about my finally starting to show. I WANT to look more pregnant. The other day I wore my maternity jeans and a regular blouse. I just looked not thin. Eh. Also, I was on the thin side before I was pregnant, weighing about 170.
While I value the advice of my friends who have been pregnant, I don't take it at face value. Nor do I with the comments and advice I get from my doctor. I take what I hear and learn and evaluate it and do what I think is best for my baby and me.
Just tell them if I'm not suppoosed to be this huge, then why am I? Or, in terms of the second opinion, I'm not you.
If the person is somebody you don't know, and is not pregnant, but looks like she could be ask her when she's due. That might shut her up. It's rude, but sometimes rude begats rude, though I try not to be.
2007-07-13 12:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Vegan_Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations on your pregnancy and your baby!! Please do not let everyone else's opinion ruin or take away from this beautiful moment in your life...and when I say moment, I ,mean that after a few weeks, that is exactly how this pregnancy is going to feel, like a few moments instead of 9 months!!
Second, hormones!! They may be making you feel a bit irritated and overwhelmed with all of the pressure and anxiety of pregnancy, because lets face it, even though it is a joy and exciting, it can be scary and uncertain. The baby growing, developing, making sure that everything is okay and going right. This is natural and okay. People should be supporting you and reassuring you as a mother-to-be, not commenting on your happy belly growing, which I might add, is a BEAUTIFUL THING AND YOU SHOULD NOT BE ASHAMED OF!!
I know women worry about how they look when they are pregnant, but you should look at your belly as the baby growing, not fat. Rub your belly, put scented oils and lotions on it, massage it and enjoy the amazing miracle that is happening to you.
Finally, for all of those people who are giving their opinions on your break outs and body changes and belly size, they are just wanting to have a piece of the action. They have experienced a pregnancy before, obviously, and them sharing their opinion is a way for them to feel apart of this experience with you and even though they are bein unsensitive to your feelings and should havea more tactful way of talking with you, them giving you their opinion is about them, not you. Tell them that at this time, you are not wanting to hear anything regarding your size or skin condition unless it is positive. Tell them that this pregnancy is a positive experience for you and that unless they have anything positive to say, to not comment at all. You want to be in a positive frame of mind for both you and the baby's sake and that is the end of the discussion.
SHAME ON THEM FOR NOT RESPECTING YOU AND YOUR FEELINGS!!
Good luck and remember everyone's pregnancy is different, all different women carry their baby's differently and their body's are different, there is nothing wrong unless the doctor's say so. DO not apologize to anyone for how you look, feel, or grow during your pregnancy....you are beautiful!
2007-07-13 12:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the exact same way. I am six foot tall and filled out and when I was pregnant with my second one I actually had a (and I hate to use this term because it's awful) fat woman who I worked with and liked tell me that I looked too big and maybe I was having twins. When I curtly told her that no, I am only having one. She continued to tell me to get a second opinion!!
I couldn't believe it. I am a larger woman now and I would never ever ever tell anyone that they are too big when pregnant.
Oh and if you want to read a really really funny book about loving a larger woman, go get Jenifer Weiners' "Good in Bed"
or "Little Earthquakes"
Little Earthquakes is about 4 pregnant women, one of which is larger. And the main character in Good in Bed is Cannie who is a size 14, and her ex boyfriend starts an article bi-line named, "Loving a Larger woman!" It's hysterical and real.
p.s. Since reading these books I have taken a very sarcastic tone to my answers of the dreaded question, "are you having twins?" Try that, it may go right over their heads, but at least you will know that they are ignorant and stupid!
That will be fun
2007-07-13 11:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Katie C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they see you as a strong person who would take any comment without getting sensitive about it, isnt funny how people think our personalities remain the same even during pregnancy. You know maybe they should read the t-shirt they got you more often, to remind them that hormones change during pregnancy and our ways of being affected by dumb comments like that do too. By the way everyone goes thru this, my aunt told me i was showing and gaining too much wegiht when i was only 4 weeks pregnant, i had actually lost 3 pounds from morning sickness. !!! LOL
2007-07-13 12:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by YE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time someone comments on your the way you look say your doctor thinks your perfect, whats there excuse for looking the way they do? It got alot of people to stop saying those comments to me. I also like to curse them with the flu, it doesnt work but it makes me feel better lol. Or you could always ask them how far along are you especially when you know they arent pregnant, they might get the point. Dont let them bring you down, all pregnant women are BEAUTIFUL!! Besides your growing a person in there, how cool is that! :) best wishes
2007-07-13 11:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by DragnFlyzBaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone is an expert on pregnancy, and cant wait to give you their fantastic advice. i say f'em. when someone acts like a dumbass, just resolve to make sure your baby doesnt act that way. and yes you should be breaking out and yes you can be huge and healthy. your body is going through a gigantic change and theres no cookie cutter reaction for all women. im sure you look lovely but youre getting stressed. you dont need that in the last trimester. go to naturalmoms.com, theres a bunch of herbal remedies and facial recipes and things that will make you feel pretty.
2007-07-13 11:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by shantastic9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh it gets worse!! I am 32 weeks and thats all people talk about is how huge I am. I just tell them well dont'y ou feel skinny now and don't you feel stupid for complaining how "huge" you are even though you are a size 2!!! I just dwell on the fact that I am carrying a baby and they are not. I get the joy of feeling her and they don't. But I do know how annoying it is, I hate to say it but it does get worse! Im sorry!!!
2007-07-13 11:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People always feel the need to tell you how huge you are when you're pregnant. I just ignored it. We all have to vent sometime and as long as the doctor thinks you're fine then you are fine. As for feeling or looking bigger than you should, the shorter you are, the bigger you look because the baby has no where to go. Also, women carry different and therfore will look different.
2007-07-13 11:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Button 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost punched a girl at work who looked at me and said, Haven't you popped yet? I felt like popping her in the head with my fist.
Unfortunately it gets worse as you get farther along. Especially if you are carrying in a way that makes you look farther along than what you are. I found telling the ruder ones to "F**K *FF" usually stopped any further comments from them. For the people I am close to, looking at them and pointing out that what they just said was not the nicest thing you have ever heard from them usually makes them do some backtracking and apologizing. If that fails, just go bezerk and then blame the hormones!
2007-07-13 11:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by babybugs1980 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understandable. I had the opposite responses because amazingly I stayed pretty small through my pregnancy.
"Are you sure you are eating enough?"
"You're starving that baby"
"I bet she's dieting, that kid is going to turn out so screwed up" (behind my back)
My daughter was born at 8lbs even, 21in long a day before her due date.
Everyone has to put in their two cents because everyone thinks their pregnancy was better than someone elses.
My SIL was the only one to remark on how fat I was, and now through her pregnancy, her doctor has told her that she is gaining too much weight!!!
Smile sweetly, tell them that the baby is just fine, and dont forget to send them an announcement with your happy healthy baby's picture on it!
2007-07-13 12:05:27 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋