Has anybody actually divorced their spouse because of a porn addiction?

Question

If so, what was the breaking point for you? The lies, the deceit, the emotional infedelity ... it's too much. It's nerve wrecking and when you always have to check up on somebody and wonder what they're doing.

Answer 1

You don't share a lot of the details of the rest of your marriage (understandably!), but I think all those things would have to be a part of your decision to divorce or not. Things like: what else does he lie about or hide? What is he doing to try to break this addiction? Do you have kids? What effect does this have on them? (Even if they never actually know anything about the porn, they WILL be aware of the lack of trust between the 2 of you; how well does that prepare them for healthy relationships when they are older?)

Personally, I still see it as cheating. He is cheating by turning to someone else (yes, those are real people, and online technology is allowing more and more interaction at various levels) instead of being willing to work harder on YOUR relationship.

The link below is a story I think you should read. (If the url doesn't work, I have it on an email, and will add you to my contacts if that would allow me to send it to you.)
That wife actually is not divorcing, so it doesn't directly address your question - sorry. But, it does make it clear how deep and dangerous it can get. IMO If porn is not such a big deal (and not an addiction) then why can't/won't he stop for you? Married people choose to give up all kinds of things for the good of their families and for each other.
Your self-respect should not be one of them, nor should trust.

I understood your question to be one of considering whether or not anyone else has felt that porn addiction and resulting behaviors were sufficient reason to choose to divorce their spouse (not whether or not that specific reason would carry the legal weight you want). If you also wanted info on what is legally accepted as grounds for divorce, then I have included a url or 2 for that kind of info because I think it varies state to state (and of course, country to country).

Good luck with your decision. (Don't let anyone tell you how you should feel about this. You already know how you feel, and your feelings matter. They ought to matter to your husband.)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I divorced my husband because of his porn addiction. He did not have time for me because he was too busy jacking off in the bathroom 5 days a week. I finally divorced him because he was not sexual with me for three years. I asked him to go to counseling and he did...but did not stop his addiction. He lied, cheated, was sneaky and let his daughter and wife leave instead of giving up his porn. So yes...people divorce their husbands because of porn.

Answer 4

From experience, a divorce based on this would be court ordered to marriage counseling first thus deferring it to a later date. Porno addiction is a medical problem and can be fixed with time and help so the Judge feels this would not be a good cause for granting a divorce without first trying the counseling. If youre adamant on the divorce find a diferent cause that wont cause a kickback

Answer 5

Like anything in life, moderation is the key. While I am not against porn by any means, too much can cause termoil.

Personally, unless he spends hours upon hours on the computer neglecting you and the family, what's the problem.

A little collection that you relieve stress with when alone is a healthy thing. "Emotional Infidelity".....personally I see nothing wrong with fantasising about a porn star 3000 miles away I will never meet. I would be much more worried about the office co-worker my spouse spends 8 hours a day with in terms of 'emotional cheating'.

Answer 6

.Go to counseling first, these things can get fixed or cut down to a minimum size.
Porn can be a good thing when not abused which is increasingly being abused by both men and woman today.

Hon you need to talk to your husband about this and offer counseling, it might be free through work your never know.

Answer 7

I left my husband for that, essentially. The thing is, it started out as "innocent" looking at porn. Then it became an addiction, like everything with him did, then he started to sex chat with women and then he was even attempting to meet up with them for sex. My husband was bipolar and had numerous addiction problems though. Porn was just one of them. The breaking point was when my very young daughter found a foul photo he had printed up and left laying around. I gave him an ultimatum and he chose his addictions over his family. My daughter and I are WAY better off. Online porn is dangerous for the addict and I hate it.

Answer 8

Yes. Why? Because after so many years he then decided we needed to do some swinging and quite frankly, that was something I was not going to do. Plus, I was tired of porn and thought our sex life sucked as there didn't appear to be any love involved. When I finally told him no more he said I was frigid - I told him he was a pervert. Either way - I knew I wasn't going to change my mind about things and it didn't appear he was going to - so we parted ways.

I will not let porn be a part of my life ever again and have made that clear to everyone who even dares bring it up around me. It destroys relationships and makes sex meaningless.

Good luck with your marriage.

Answer 9

Yes.. My husband would rather have sex with himself. It went from bad to worse. No sex, then cheating and then mental and physical abuse.
A husband isn't suppose to put off his wife to watch porn. It is never a good ending. It made a women feel unloved and inadequate.

Answer 10

I think you should be more concerned with the fact your man hangs out with womanizers and treats you like a doormat. THEN you should address the whole porn issue.