when is the right time to say 'i love you' in a relationship?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for just over a month, we liked each other before we made things official.

I'm crazy about him! and sometimes I need to stop myself saying the 3 words out loud incase I scare him off :P...also when I say it I want to mean it.

I would rather wait for him to say it first, but I was just curious...how soon is too soon? when is the right time to tell your other half those 3 little words that mean so much!

Answer 1

When you are sure it is love and not just infatuation. There is more to love than just attraction, it's a connection. When you both love each other it will feel natural to say 'I love you' because you will be emotionally and spiritually close.

Answer 2

When hubby and I got together it was about a month when I came out and told him I loved him I was scared of telling him to soon because I didn't want to run him off but when I told him I found out he had felt the same . I guess when you know that you really do love him then you should tell him . I never realized there was a time when it is too soon to tell someone you love them. If you feel it then you should say it , But don't just come out and say it in the middle of a conversation wait until you feel it is right.

I hope it all works out for you .
God Bless

Answer 3

I know what you mean, it's hard to contain those feelings.

I would wait at least three months. The first three months are typically the honeymoon period, where everything is good and wonderful. Three months gives you time to learn each other's quirks and make sure you really do feel that way about him.

Say it only if you mean it, and don't say it while you're in bed together. You'll know when the time is right. Good luck!

Answer 4

One month is way too soon. You are feeling 'lust' and 'new love excitement', not lasting true love. You have to actually know each other really well before you know for sure it's the lasting kind of love. THEN, you say it. Give it at least 6 months, unless he says it first. Right now, just say you love being with him, you love the way he smiles, you love his personality, etc.

Answer 5

Hi Dearie,

If you can still stop yourself from saying the 3 words out then its not yet time. When its time, you will just spill it.

Listen carefully, Loving him is dependent on you not on him. Are you ready to commit? 3 words is about the smallest of the commitment you are about entering. If you are really crazy about him then act crazy spill it now.

Sincerely yours

Nuch

Answer 6

My husband and I were dating a month. He said it first. I'm a firm believer of when you know you know. It's nice to hear the other person say it so you could wait but if you really want to tell him there shouldn't be a set time to wait.

Answer 7

i would ahve to say that you have a while to go with that one...a month is a very very short amount of time, and love isn't what you feel when you first meet someone and are crazy about them...that happens after you are with them for a long long time and you still want to be with them through the good times and bad.

Answer 8

One month is too soon. I think that 3 months is too soon as well. A lot of couples break up when they get to 5 months, I would wait til then, if you make it that far you will know whether it's time to say it.

Answer 9

One month is too soon. I think that 6 months is too soon as well. A lot of couples break up when they get to 7 months, I would wait til then, if you make it that far you will know whether it's time to say it.

Answer 10

A month is WAY too soon to know. What you're feeling now is a strong affinity, but it ain't love. Wait until 6 months. See if he's still the same guy. Then tell him