Will they come when the baby is born? i just am not feeling a connection.
2007-07-13 04:10:52 · 26 answers · asked by gerh s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I know how you feel.
As soon as you hear your baby's first cry and hold it in your arms- trust me- you will feel it...
2007-07-13 04:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ϑεηηιƒετ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I know what you mean. I feel absolutely terrible thinking I'm not bonding enough with my belly. I'm not as far along as you, but I still feel as though I should probably be connecting more at this point (6 months), rather than still being so strangely removed from the process. Sometimes, when the baby's kicking, I feel like it's somebody else's body. I lay there, staring at my tummy, feeling the kicking and actually seeing my stomach move, and I keep asking myself if all of it is really happening. And I feel weird around other moms or moms-to-be who have their motherly instincts in full gear, while I'm kind of still getting used to the whole idea. Don't get me wrong, of course I love my baby, but I guess it just hasn't really sunk in yet. Hopefully it will, at the right time. I'm thinking I'm gonna start decorating the baby's room this weekend to see if that helps...
Good luck to you and congrats!!!!!!
2007-07-13 04:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by FunnyValentine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal in some women. And you will not definitely develop feelings when your child is born. I felt a connection while pregnant but as soon as I had her, I almost felt like I didn't want her. Of course I did, but it just took time for those feelings to come. I also had mild PPB so don't worry. They may not come tomorrow or even in a month...but you will get that connection with your baby!!!
2007-07-13 04:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the feelings come later. Some people aren't even as smitten with the baby for the first few weeks after it is born because it isn't very responsive. But once your baby develops a personality it will be so easy to love him/her. Don't feel guilty about not loving the baby yet. You don't even know them.
2007-07-13 04:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's fairly normal to not have a connection with the baby yet. lets face it you don't know it. with both of my kids it scared me that i didn't have that many feelings for them before they were born. but believe me they come the minute you see them for the first time and the love grows a little more every day. once you see the love that the baby has for you, you are hooked for life. take it from a person who knows!
2007-07-13 04:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by MotherTeresa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think thats normal for some women, it happened to me with my son. Even right after I gave birth I was so tired I didnt want to hold him and my husband had to force me to breastfeed him (i had schooled him on breastfeeding.)
After I got my nap I held him and it was amazing!
My son had to be hospitalized for 12 days after birth and I was discharged but I stayed at the hospital anyway because i couldnt leave him! I seriously cried everytime i left him to go see my husband and daughter at home.
Don't worry. Its likely that you dont feel a connection yet because its a big change and you dont know what to expect. Maybe this is your first, or an unplanned pregnancy.
Once your baby is born you wont want to put him/her down!
2007-07-13 04:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by AK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes some moms get this way i love my baby but sometimes i wonder how can i just love something that makes me sick all the time kicks the crap out of me so i cant sleep and makes me gain weight...... but its just something i guess that comes natural. when the baby is born and you spend time with it and you look at its face you will know. I had a MC and my neice was born 8 days after my due date and i didnt think i could love her at all but i do she is the most important lil girl in my life. you will be fine babie have a way about them
2007-07-13 04:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you see and hold your precious little one your heart will be flooded with feelings, love, gratitude, responsibility, awe.
Being 8 months along in the middle of summer is uncomfortable. It will be a relief to stop being pregnant when your child is born! And you will see this beautiful new life who is yours to nurture and love.
Psalm 127:3
"Behold, children are a gift of the Lord"
Wishing you all the best for you and your new baby!
2007-07-13 04:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by redeemed 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may come when you have the baby, it can be a really emotional thing! If you aren't quite ready or unsure about it I'm sure you'll have doubts and hold backs. Maybe talk to your doctor about this, it can be a common thing to have feelings of rejection for the baby, this is a form of preterm depression. Your doctor will not judge you, because a lot of women go through this :) Good luck!
2007-07-13 04:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Elle3 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Lets see, you're getting your ribs thumped on, it's hard to breath, you're fatigued....uh, yeah that's okay if you're not feeling overwhelmed with love for the child right now.
But the other mommies are right, at the time of birth there's actually a huge rush of these hormones that give you an intense bonding feeling like no other, if you're around your baby and your man at the time, you will get a very strong family bond with them all :)
2007-07-13 04:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by daisyk 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. That's how nature works. Once you see and feel your baby, everything will fall into place.
Ask the doctor to put the baby on your belly as soon as possible, this will help the baby to bond to you and in a short while it will start to look/feel for your breasts.
2007-07-13 04:20:37 · answer #11 · answered by Hi y´all ! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋