I'm constantly picking fights with him. Why is this? I honestly don't know why I feel this way. Any suggestions or opionions??
2007-07-13 04:10:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you love him? It sounds to me like your bored and maybe looking for excitement . Are you having an affair or thinking about having one? You need to sit down and talk if you keep treating him badly he is going to get fed up . You might lose him and then what ? I'm sure there is someone else out there that won't find him so annoying . You better think about what your doing or you might find yourself all alone .
2007-07-13 04:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by feistyirishme7 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore all the people that say to leave him or get divorced. That is the easy way out.
You need to sit down by yourself or with a counselor and figure out why you are unhappy. Maybe you're just going through something or feel un-appreciated. Maybe you're stressed at work and bringing it home.
Then you need to sit down with him and talk about it. Honestly. Like someone else said maybe he feels your resentment and is mirroring it back to you and that annoys you. Clear the air, but remember that he may have some things to say about you that might not be so flattering. As long as it is all done in love and fairness, being honest about it all will help. Don't let it turn into a fight or name-calling. And don't tally up who did what to who.
There are some good books out there as well. Try the Power of a Praying Wife or Towards a Growing Marriage. Remember sometimes changing your own attitude is the first step. You just have to suck up your pride.
Prayer is a powerful thing....that is the first thing you should do. Pray for him, yourself and your relationship.
Good luck!! I'll be praying for you too!
2007-07-13 05:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it because of something which he has done that made you feel this way? You will need to first establish the reasons why you are feeling this way when you are around him.
He might not even know why you are feeling this way around him and to him, he might be confused of your actions, and felt compelled to stay away just to avoid getting into fights with you.
If you are not able to find out the reasons why, think of the reason why you choose to marry him in the first place. If he has indeed done soemthing wrong this time to make you feel so unhappy, you need to talk to him about it - not in fights, but a calmful manner because arguments will make you feel a lot worst.
If it is an external problem that is causing you to feel this way towards your husband, you will need to face it and change the way you treat your husband, because your husband will mirror your behaviour and potentially treat you the same way you treat him as well.
Make some time together and have a heart-to-heart chat with each other to sort things out between the two of you and perhaps, better communication could possible bridge that gap between the two of you.
2007-07-13 04:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jose 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-09 05:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by manger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. My husband was truly annoying though. It won't get any better until you can figure out what it is that will make you happy. YOU, think about what used to make you happy, before you were a WE.
2007-07-13 04:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by lissie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why your unhappy and quit blaming him for it. We create are happiness its proven. Women tend to go thru this in late to early 30's and thats what alot of divorces are over is because they say, I am just not happy, and guess who gets the blame--the man....
2007-07-13 04:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have someone on the side or are you thinking about someone else? because i feel that way exactly and I'm having an affair..
2007-07-13 04:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, do you love him? Perhaps your annoyed by him because he is annoying. Is there something wrong with you? Do you want out of the relationship?
2007-07-13 04:13:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it obvious, you don't want to be married to him or you have oppositional disorder. Why are you making his life and yours miserable, get help or get out of the marriage.
2007-07-13 04:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by sara r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karl has a husband????????????????????????????????
It is you and you need to address your own problem first and soon before he gets totally fed up and leaves.
Are you a gay couple??????
Old Guy
I see Kar i, oh
2007-07-13 04:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋