i've been with him for a year now. he says he loves me but he cheats on me. when i break up with him he either beats me or trys to break my belongings. the worst part is i'm pregnant n my baby is high risk (gastroschisis if anybody knows wut that is). i dont want to put my child in danger bcuz the father of the baby keeps beating me. n the stress from when he breaks my belongings. he practically forces me to stay with him. how can i break up with this guy without being beat or having my stuff broken.
2007-07-13 03:59:10 · 24 answers · asked by The Queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and im only 14 so i cant just take off
2007-07-13 04:08:38 · update #1
I have been there! I will tell you something it took me 6 years and couple of children later to leave and wish i did it sooner because the effects it has on my children who witnessed things has been bad. My son's are in there teens now and both have had some counseling. My regret is I allowed my children to live through it. Leave now do it for your unborn child. Go to a refuge. Leave when he is not around. If you have to leave things then do they are not as import as you and your child.
2007-07-13 05:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by sweeteternity825 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the police, get a restraining order against him and try to move somewhere where he wont find you, maybe your parents house, an aunts house, a friends house, anywhere....i hope this helps. You shouldnt even give him the respect to tell him your breaking up with him. One day when he's out of the house, just pack a small bag and leave. Someone can always come back for the rest of your stuff. And remember the police and there to help you and there are lots of services out there for people in your situation. Use the internet....good luck
2007-07-13 04:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by eva m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stuff is only stuff. It's not important. If you can't get it out when he's not there, leave it behind and walk out the door. Go home to your parents, go to the local women's shelter, go to family or friends, go to a local crisis intervention center, but go. And don't look back.
And report him and his beatings to the police. If he's the father of your baby, he will have a legal right to see the baby, and maybe have custody, unless you can show that he's an unfit parent. If you don't want your baby to grow up under his influence, you have to be strong now, and protect the baby from him.
2007-07-13 04:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he beats YOU and you're pregnant, he will beat the child too. Get a restrainging order and get the HECK out of that situation! Every time he comes around, call the cops. Find someone to stay with that's not afraid of the jerk...that will protect you. Tell him you're sorry, but you will not accept this kind of life anymore. Walk away, make a better life for your baby, and don't look back!
2007-07-13 04:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You call your local domestic violence hotline and speak to an advocate. There are alot of services that could be available to you and your unborn child. Most of these places can do protective orders that keep him away from you and some even have financial assistance available to help you to move if that's something you need to do. Counseling can also be offered. Please call them and at least speak to them, you don't even have to give your name if you don't want to. Don't stay with this man. You have a baby to think about now and chances are your abuser will only get worse.
2007-07-13 04:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO family, or friends in the area. My first call would be to the police, if he beats you that's a crime and they will take him away. While he is gone, I would leave and go to a friend/ or family member's home.
If you have none in the area, they have support groups that you can find on line, that will help you. They will put you in a safe home, then you can work on finding a safe place away from him.
2007-07-13 04:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, obtain an order of protection and get his a** put away. From someone who knows- its only going to get worse and someday he is going to try to kill you. He doesn't love you. He just wants to own you, if you stay with him you are agreeing to be his property. Worst of all you are going to bring you child into this home. Get out. Do it now.
2007-07-13 04:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah (the bear!) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a local safe house. They take single mothers and abused women in that need help. Most police departments or sherrif departments have contacts. Most are not known to the open public as it is a place to hide more or less.
2007-07-13 04:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Pat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move all your stuff out then leave him a note telling him to get lost. I know you are never alone long enough to move. Next time he hits you call the cops press charges and when they take him and lock him up move then. There is absoluitely no excuse for a guy to abuse a woman. Get out soon!! If not for you for your baby.
2007-07-13 04:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a local womans help group, theyll help you out of this. Get a protecive restraining order against him for your safety. If in the meantime if he touches you again have him arrested for domestic violence and do press charges. Make the call, theyre in the yellow pages. Good luck
2007-07-13 04:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋