hmmm how come its a bad thing if a teen gets regnant?? ps.im 16?

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i mean ikno now that it sorta is and sorta isnt.. (me im waitn till im married) but anyway, i hear alot of ppl sayinng wait until ur married etc. util u have a job.. but isnt that also true that even an adut can go throught alot of stuff that a teen can go through?

and that God did create the female With a menstral cycle and eggs and that it activates around 11 or older>>
if so many ppl have a problem with this then y dont they just go aroun tying evry teens tube then???

the talk probably wnt work, some teeens will do it anyway, i mean if adults can do it y not us?? alot of adults r noot stable enoug 2.

FOR CHRIST SAKES THEIR HAVING BABIES AT !# IN INDIA AND OTHER COUNTRIES STILL 2!
and 4 anyone who say that were not old enough or supportive, i have seen younger than me make million of dollars by becoming an entrepenuer way more than some adults would make in a month..
btw, since adults can have sex wen they want to, and wat r we suppose 2 do wen we get da feelin?

did u ppl even read my questin??i said im WAITING DAMNIT!

at y age u reallycant do anything i can thik about what i want and when i want,.having a child is bullshit..nothing but a waste of time

girl alive i dont party i dont do anything im not social at all.

Answer 1

I had my first child when I was 17 years old. I missed out on so much that life could have offered me. I didn't attend my junior or senior proms, couldn't "hang out" because I had a newborn at home, lost a lot friends, went through a lot of drama, was known as the school whore (even though just about everyone there was having sex), had to get a job, couldn't go to the college I wanted because I had to work full time so I had to settle for a junior college at night. Adults are telling teens to wait so that they don't have to deal with this. I know what you mean about teens are still going to do it and I know how teens feel so I am not one to preach on abstinece (although it is great it's not reality) but instead on safe sex. I know it sounds stupid but when teens get the feeling maybe they should go masterbate. I know it sounds terrible, but I think that adults today need to realize that times are changing and teens today are not the same as they were. I also agree with 100% on the fact that some adults can not handle a child as some teens, but again I believe that that is a very small number. Adults are looking at teen pregnancy from a financial and statistical point of view where as teens look at it from a more emotional and physical point of view. Adults have already experienced what a child brings therefore have a little heads up when they tell teens not to have sex, but I think that they forget what it was like to be a teenager. My suggestion...if you are going to have sex have safe sex....condoms ,birth control, etc and way to go on deciding to wait.

And to comment on some others adivce.....it is hard, but it can be done. I graduated high school, worked a part time job until graduated full-time after that, paid for everything myself, and I am currently attending college with a 3.8 GPA!!! I hate it when people completely down every teen girl that gets pregnant and says that can't do it. If the situation occurs and the teen gets pregnant try to tell her that she can do it and maybe she will. With everyone saying that teens who get pregnant will never make it or anything out of themselves no wonder they don't. How would you like it if someone was constantly telling you that. Until you have been there and done that don't put someone down. To everyone that is a pregnant teen you can still make something of your life...it is hard work, but it is reachable dream.

Answer 2

It has to do with the way modern society views adulthood. Like, waaaay back in the day, and this was all over the world, you were considered a man/woman when you reached puberty. That was the original purpose of a sweet 16, or a Quincenera, or the Jewish thing [sorry, i don't know how to spell it: but I do know what it's called!] But now its when you're 18, or 21. Also, back in the days, there was no college or things like that. You learned reading, writing, and math, and you used your talents to make money. Nowadays in order to be successful, if you're not like an actor/singer, or something like that, you have to go to college, and all that jazz. College and other types of schooling is already hard without having to raise a child at the same time. I mean, mary was like 15 when she had Jesus, and Juliet was13 [romeo was like 16]. I understand where you are coming from though. Adults don't understand that teens have the same urges as they do, saying they're not mature enough, or whatever. [some teens aren't so...] But like I said before, if you want to make it in the modern world, having a baby as a teen is a major setback. And about waiting until marriage, I agree 100% with this, but that causes people to rush into it, [and a marriage definately isn't something you should rush into] which causes an even higher divorce rate, and things like that. Me, i'm waiting until I'm older & hopefully married.

Answer 3

You are right in a way there are many issues a 30 year old mother can have just the same as a 16 year old mother. I am a mother of 3 and I had my first child at the age of 16 so I know all about it. The reason's why if I could go back in time, I would have waited were because at 16 years old you dont realize how much is ahead of you, like when all my friends were going out every weekend and sleeping late on Saturdays, I was at home with a infant changing diapers and making bottles. When everyone went on a senior trip that is suppost to be one of your best memories for the future once again I got to stay home and be momma. Dont get me wrong I love my daughter more than anything and wouldnt trade her for the world but if I could I would go back and just postpone having her a few years, a young teen mother misses out on so much that trust me you will want to do.

Answer 4

Because if you're gonna be a momma at your teens, your friends are still gonna be out partying while you're at home taking care of the baby. After 1 month of pratically getting no sleep (babies are a nocturnal bunch), changing diapers, and sterilising bottles, you'd start to wonder however you got into that mess in the first place. Even adults have a hard time taking care of babies, but since most (if not all) have a stable income, they can very well (at least more the average) afford to hire a nanny or somebody to help, which i think that a 16-year old cannot afford to do. Unless if that 16 year old is filthy rich, or unless she plans to leave the raising-the-baby part to grandma or grandpa.

And while they're having babies at India at quite an early age, the quality of life the children experience are not really what you would want your child to go through.

Answer 5

DO you know how many teens I have seen who are one welfare because they are working at a minimum wage job? DO you know how many of them go on to get a good college level education? Or how many of them have babies by more than one or two daddies? Serious here... I't s rediculous. You manipulate yourself...if you know what I mean. It's that simple.

Think of this, you're say... 15 and you get pregnant. That means no mor eparties, no dances, changing diapers, one mouth you have to feed, and most people at 15 don't have a job. And at 16 or 17, you still only work part time, unless you drop out of school, which leads to not having a good education. Just ask a friend of mine. 23, has an 8 year old son, a 3 year old, and an 11 month old. No high school education, and is supporting herself and her three kids on un-employment because she doesn't have the skills to get a better a job. Think about that!

Answer 6

I reckon if you want to start haaving sex and keep on having sex go for it! Just be responsible. I am 28 now, but I started having sex when I was 16, I used a condom every single time. With regards to having kids..... I personally wanted to be financially secure and really have everything I wanted, and my husband wanted, first so that there was no resentment that this child ruined mine or my husbands life. I know people say that all you need is love! That plays a big part, but your child deserves both security and stability. I just dont think that a 16 year old or even myself at 16 can or could have provide/ed that. I think that the female reproductive cycle starts so early to promote all the necessary hormones to prepare your body for child bearing. Like your hips and breasts developing etc. I think I might ask that question. Look out for it if you would like a response.

Answer 7

God did make the menstrual cycle to start generally between 11-14yrs old. A long time ago girls were forced to be much more mature than girls are now a days in America, you know 14 & 15 yr old boys would work the field & girls that age would be cleaning & making dinner. Kinda the same thing for some of the countries that do that. I guarantee you a 14 yr old girl in India doesn't act like a 14yr old girl in America. Most 14 year old girls in America can't cook a pop tart in the toaster without almost burning down the house & they rarely want to clean up after themselves much less a whole family.

Answer 8

Age does not indicate how good of a mother you will be. The only issue I have with teen pregnancy is that they really are not capable of providing for their children and themselves like an adult can. A teen girl's body is still growing. When they get pregnant, the body focuses on them more than the child since their body knows that it has to get baby ready quicker than usual. Calcium loss in teens, and later development issues are quite common in teen mothers. Teens need to focus more on their education, and career than worrying about doing adult things like having sex. There is plenty of time in any teen's life to have relationships, then later kids. While teen mothers can work hard, and provide for their children, but it is a longer and harder road that way. Instead of having to struggle so much, why not wait until you do not have to struggle so hard, that way all your focus can be on that child, and not on you catching up to provide for them.

Answer 9

Let's assume for a second that your talking hypothetically not that your actually thinking of having a baby in the US when your a teenager?

Yes your reproductive system starts to function when your a teenager. The hormones start flowing and getting the body, be it male or female, ready to fulfill it's natural purpose - procreate the species. If you look back in history, pay attention in history class now, humans haven't always lived to the ripe old ages they do now. For the species to survive it was necessary for humans to breed at a younger age. Funny thing, as we've developed as a species life expectancy and birth rate survival statistics have increased dramatically. We aren't the only species that does this, but we've learned that the best breeding stock is the older & wiser of the species. In some animal species, (apes) only certain males and females within a group are allowed to breed, why because that insures that the off-spring will have the best odds of survival.

Even though it's best to wait longer to reproduce for a variety of social-economic reasons, our bodies continue to prepare for it at an earlier age. As I recall from my teenage years, kids didn't "develop" until well into 9th (14/15) grade. Now days I notice my kids friends develop as early as 10 years old. This probably due to our much more advanced nutrition and medical care than even 20 years ago.

So, while you may be physically able to reproduce at 16 years old. Socially, western civilization demonizes it. Look back at what happened to the early rock singer Jerry Lee Lewis, when he married a 14 year old, this happened in the 1950s. Only hillbillies (i.e. ignorant, back woods, Larry the Cable Guy types) would let babies get married and have babies.

So it really doesn't matter what is socially acceptable in India, assuming you live in the USA your going to be held to this societies standard - like it or not. Of course, you can do like many teens do and buck society, but a baby isn't something that you can take back to the hospital for an exchange. A baby if forever. When you have that baby in your arms for the first time it will be amazing how fast you will mature and want one thing over all for that child - "not to make the same mistakes you did." Baby's having baby's is huge mistake in 2007. Don't be stupid.

PS - to comment on what Rebeca said - it can be done, that is not the point. My sister did it, but she also made major personal sacrifices that were not necessary. Her entire adult life was spent being a Mommy/Grand mother. She never ever knew what it was like to live on her own & make her own choices. When I saw what she went through, plus my brother who married to young to a 19 year old, only to get divorced within 12 months of his son being born; I made a pact with myself that I wouldn't get married until 25 and no kids until I'm married. Married at 27, first daughter was born when I was 29. Wife and I just celebrated 21st anniversary yesterday and have two very healthy but hormone whacked out crazy teenage daughters.

PSS - my sister died of ovarian cancer 3 years ago. She spent years fighting it and IMHO - never got to enjoy the backside of life that she so richly deserved.

Answer 10

Spoken like a true 16 year old.

Honey, you have no idea. Most people live and learn. At 16, the living part hasn't been done.

I had my first baby at 35! Can you imagine-over twice as old as the teen moms. And it changed my life, however, at 35 I had a career, a husband, lifelong friends, a master's degree, and a bagful of experience to draw from.

Now I am the proud mother of two daughters and in addition to feeling like I have won the lottery for those blessings, I have also had time to live a full life on my own terms, as an adult, and dammit if I didn't have fun. Teen moms get none of that--not the education, the experience, the time to become women...none of it.