I am not happy about what i have.. what's wrong with me?

Answer 1

"Success is getting what you want,
Happiness is wanting what you get"

Very simplistic, but most home truths are.

I suggest some contemplation to write down all the things your are grateful about and for in your life....

Make sure the questions you ask yourself every day are positive ones....

Work on your life purpose, goal setting, motivation and contribution back.

Here is a short report I published that has some great tips for all the above.

Help yourself with my compliments, and ...... HELP YOURSELF as no-one else can do it for you.

http://www.personal-enterprise-self-help-resources.com/support-files/accomplish-anything-you-want.pdf

some simple goalsetting tips here:
http://personal-enterprise-self-help-resources.com/support-files/2006-goals-tips.pdf

Daily Motivation quotes, self help tips & self improvement resources free here:

http://www.free-daily-motivational-self-improvement.com/index.html

GOOD LUCK



*** Live Well - Laugh Often - Love Much ***

Answer 2

You're probably exposed to people who "have" a lot more than you (either in TV, other media, or in real life), and are in a very materialistic or perfectionistic culture. It's a scientifically verified phenomenon.

My suggestion is, try to imagine, realistically, the chain of events after you acquire a certain thing you want. People generally overestimate the level of happiness or the amount of time they would be happy after they get what they want. Most probably you'd just be as miserable and would want something else.

Another thing you can try is socializing with the less fortunate in society. Not only (this is a bit crass) does this give some downward comparison (we tend to view ourselves better after comparing ourselves to those who have worse luck) to cheer you up. You may also discover secrets of true happiness from those who "have" so little, AND you'd have the opportunity to help those in need.

Me, I'm happy with what I have. It's what I AM and what I want to be that is my everyday concern. Haha.

Answer 3

the other side of the eqaul-to sign of your problem may read: I'm happy about what I don't have. your problem simply defines the fallibility of humans (in this case given voice). we may all feel the same at times but we hardly articulate them. but if you find yours to be beyond 'normal' then there is a problem.
make your mind all over- assure yourself that by entertaining such desire, you really achieve nothing but trouble with yourself and others. the 1st step to solution is mental reformation. sit at a quiet place and deliberate on it. you wan't to be better than you are now, you wan't to change that perception.
assure yourself that you can. from then. try to feel content with anything that comes your way and assure yourself that that's the best. see the other person's and simply admire it. ask the other person how he feels about yours and u'll be surprised he may cherish yours too

Answer 4

Happiness is generic, and is applied to almost
every kind of enjoyment except that of the animal
appetites. It ia a state of well-being
characterized by emotions ranging from contentment
to intense joy. These include: bliss, joy, joyous,
carefree, jubilant, exultant, cheerful, playful,
amused, fun, glad, gay, gleeful, jolly, jovial,
delighted, euphoric, ecstatic, thrilled, elated,
enraptured, comfortable, harmonious, and
triumphant. Societies, religions, and individuals
have various views on the nature of happiness and
how to pursue it.

Only saint-like persons, who feel that they are no
longer interested in the external world, think
that happiness is within. For many persons,
nothing can make them happy. Our minds are as
different as our finger prints - no two are alike.
Listening to loud music makes one happy and makes
another unhappy. Hence, there can be no single
definition for happiness. It is probably
impossible to objectively define happiness as
humans know and understand it, as internal
experiences are subjective by nature. Because of
this, explaining happiness as experienced by one
individual is as pointless as trying to define the
color green such that a completely color blind
person could understand the experience of seeing
green.

As a state and a subject, it has been pursued and
commented on extensively throughout world history.

"Call no man happy till he is dead." - Aeschylus

"Happiness is a positive cash flow." - Fred Adler

"Many persons have a wrong idea of what
constitutes true happiness. It is not attained
through self-gratification but through fidelity to
a worthy purpose." - Joseph Addison

"True happiness arises, in the first place, from
the enjoyment of one's self, and in the next, from
the friendship and conversation of a few select
companions." - Joseph Addison

Happiness is often associated with the presence of
favourable circumstances such as a supportive
family life, a loving marriage, and economic
stability. Kali Yuga, the age of darkness, is the
time when these favourables are difficult to find.

Unfavorable circumstances - such as abusive
relationships, accidents, loss of employment, and
conflicts - diminish the amount of happiness a
person experiences. In all nations, factors such
as hunger, disease, crime, corruption, and warfare
can decrease happiness. However, according to
several ancient and modern thinkers, happiness is
influenced by the attitude and perspective taken
on such circumstances.

From the observation that fish must become happy
by swimming, and birds must become happy by
flying. Aristotle points to the unique abilities
of man as the route to happiness. Of all the
animals only man can sit and contemplate reality.
Of all the animals only man can develop social
relations to the political level. Thus the
contemplative life of a monk or professor, or the
political life of a military commander or
politician will be the happiest according to their
own psyche.

The following is the self-reported positive affect
(i.e. positive emotion) during the day by 909
employed women in USA:

Activities and their positive effect index:

Intimate relations 5.10
Socializing 4.59
Relaxing 4.42
Pray/Worship/Meditate 4.35
Eating 4.34
Exercising 4.31
Watching TV 4.19
Shopping 3.95
Preparing food 3.93
On the phone 3.92
Napping 3.87
Taking care of
my children 3.86
Computer/Email/
Internet 3.81
Housework 3.73
Working 3.62
Commuting 3.45

Interaction with partners:

w/ friends 4.36
w/ relatives 4.17
w/ spouse/Significant
other 4.11
w/ children 4.04
w/ clients/customers 3.79
w/ co-workers 3.76
w/ boss 3.52
alone 3.41

Further, happiness is not entirely psychological
in nature - it has got a biological basis too. The
neurotransmitter dopamine is involved in desire
and seems often related to pleasure. Pleasure can
be induced artificially with drugs. Use of drugs
is not some thing new, it has been used by many
including Sanyasis since millenia.

Answer 5

I think that's normal, especially in today's world of MTV and MY Super Sweet 16 etc etc.

If you want to change it, a good way to start is to remind yourself daily of everything good you do have. (Remember mom telling you to count your blessings?)

Answer 6

I don't think anything is really wrong with you there might be something wrong with the way you are thinking?