I am a 24 year old who was just married over 1 yr ago. Hubby is incarcerated and has been for over 8 yrs, but we have been together for 2.5 yrs. Don't get me wrong, i care and love my husband dearly and i know he loves me in return, but i felt like i was putting my life on hold. He does not have long, only less than 2 years. Recently i started venturing out and seeing other people. I feel like people look at me in a bad way because i see other men, even though i am married. But in my heart, i feel like this is not wrong because i have to take care of myself and my son, by myself. No one can really judge me because they dont walk in my shoes and dont know what i have been going through. I honor my marriage and cherish my husband, but i am not for sure if i want to stay with him now. It's not because he's disrespectful, but i want to see other people. I need advice, before i do somethin i will regret later. Please help......
2007-07-13 02:42:22 · 9 answers · asked by lockeandkey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know you do not want to stay with him. The sooner you accept that the better off you both will be.
2007-07-13 02:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are contradicting yourself. You say you love your husband and honor your marriage, but you are seeing other men while he is incarcerated. That is not honoring anything. If he has been incarcerated for 8 years your relationship already had some obvious constraints put on it and you are feeling the brunt of it now. Marriage is difficult under the best situations but yours was limited from get go. He needs to be made aware of how you are feeling. It would be unfair to blind side him with no warning. You can't fix something you don't talk about or acknowledge. Respect him (whether incarcerated or not) and your relationship enough to at least start there.
2007-07-13 09:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by madevali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are writing and asking this question should be proof enough that you are not happy with your current situation and want out. You need to do what is best for your child. When your husband gets out he will have a hard time finding a good job to be able to provide for you and your son.
the fact that you are venturing out to see other men shows that your heart really does not belong to your husband,
true love would keep you home.
2007-07-13 09:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by penny c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I question why you would marry someone that is incarcerated to begin with? But putting that aside, you are married and took vows and shouldn't be seeing other men on the side - that is wrong.
2007-07-13 09:48:57 · answer #4 · answered by alyanna99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so you married him while he was incarerated? How did you meet him if hes been in for over 8yrs? You just need to be honest with him and tell him you dont want to be married to him anymore and go to a divorce lawyer
2007-07-13 09:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by llexiann30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years, it's a wonder you haven't come to your senses and divorced the jailbird.
2007-07-13 09:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy with your situation, as I know that I wouldn't be if I were in your shoes, then you need to seek a divorce so you can move on and find happiness.
2007-07-13 09:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I would divorce him now, if he finds out you are cheating how will he react to you or those you are with?, he will be finishing 8 years, so a murder charge probably will be nothing to him
2007-07-17 06:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel for anything. this is not ur mistake that is kown god only so dont feel
2007-07-13 10:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by vijay k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋