Dealing with left over Bad Feelings?

Question

What do you do when you have on-going anger/resentment/hurt feelings towards someone you are in a relationship with? I have gone through a lot with this person, there are still problems, but we are getting along well at this point and are trying to resolve the lingering issues. Every morning I wake up angry at them though and having other bad feelings towards them, even though nothing has happened to cause these feelings. I have been forgiving, trying to forget and move on from negative things, but these feelings are very stubborn and show up inappropriately. How can I work through this, for my own peace and serenity?

Answer 1

I suggest that you talk about these feelings with the people around you and ask them what do they feel about it and arrive at a logical solution . i have another solution to this problem there is negative energy sorrounding you and your home so i suggest that you have a look at the following .

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Answer 2

One word: Closure. The whole reason you two are getting along well, is because you are ignoring your problems. It doesn't matter if the problems are something in the present or the past, the longer you ignore them, the worse you'll feel about them. The only way t finally relax about this, is to address these problems in a reasonable fasion. Arguments are a constructive part of a relationship, as long as you include constructive criticism.
Don't say, "You always do this" or "You never do that." Instead, say. "Honey, I was wondering if you could do this a little more" or "Not to be critical or anything, but don't you think it'd be better if you do it like this."
Other problems other then daily behavior might be bothering you, like perhaps an event in your boyfriends past. The only way to address these is to actually tell him that there are things we need to talk about. When you do talk about the problems, make sure your both sitting down. Lean back in your chair. This will give less of an attack appearance, and more of a "I'm ready to hear whatever you have to say" look.
Make sure to listen carefully to his side of the argument, and put yourself in his shoes. What would you have done in his situation. Usually it's the same thing he did. If it isn't, calmly tell him what you would have done. And don't say "Well you could have..." that will only put him on defense mode, and when that happens, the argument is pointless, because it'll no longer be constructive.
If the argument gets to heated, then just take a break. Do something you to enjoy, and then come back to it.
The only way to move forward is to bring absolute closure to past events.
Hope this helps!

Answer 3

First of all, I dont think you have been able to forgive. Forgiving means you might not forget, but you no longer hold resentment towards the person you are forgiving. Hun, it isnt healthy to live like that, especially when you feel you shouldnt be angry and the person hasnt really given you any current reason to be angry. I think you should talk to him (however many times it takes) and maybe get to the bottom of the thing you are holding back. You cant be in a relationship with unresolved issues. It isnt fair to either one of you because not only are you constantly suffering, but you will be mad at them everyday and they have no idea what they have done wrong because it is an issue that has already been resolved in their head. Talk to your partner and try and let go. If you cant let go of your anger, then maybe it is time to let go of the person. You are damaging yourself and your partner mentally otherwise.

Best of luck to you!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Practice meditation and Yoga.

Answer 5

you say nothing has happened so I think you are right these are old feelings that you need to get rid of or get away from this person if you can

Answer 6

well due to lack of understanding