To me when you get married you should really be in love with the other person...... Do people just fall out of love? I see so many divorced people who hate thier ex..it doesn't make sense.....apart from them cheating or something like that..
2007-07-13 02:02:36 · 9 answers · asked by mattbf2003 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got married at 18, too young. We grew up to be very different people, and woke up one day to realize we were strangers about 6 years into the marriage. We have a beautiful son together and he is a great dad. I did not remarry until I was 39, and I believe it took me that long to really "get" what a marriage is. I have a wonderful relationship with a loving, strong man, and have never been happier.
2007-07-13 03:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly over time, my ex got more verbally and physically abusive.. I tried time and time again to talk to him.. didn't work.. I left and begged for counseling.. he said he'd go, but had one million excuses to not really go.. He said he was sorry and knew it was wrong, but if I hadn't ... (fill in the blank) he wouldn't have... The last time, he did it in front of my then 2 yr old who screamed all the way to the police station for Daddy not to hurt Mommy.. over something so insignificant I could no longer make excuses.. enough was enough. My little girl deserves better and so do I. And, no, I don't hate him, some small part of me feels sorry for him because I know he has lost everything and still doesn't understand why..
2007-07-13 09:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex started a new life completely separate from the kids and me--he simply resided in our home while I took care of everything. He didn't converse with me, but simply hung around as evidence as to how much I was taken for granted. We didn't do much together or talk with each other. We were able to have fun together & vacation together, but whenever responsibility and real-life crept into the picture, it was clear that I was on my own. Now, I see how he struggles to have a normal relationship with his own children---conversations are awkward, he avoids calling them, rarely tells them he loves them, etc. Some personalities just don't mesh. People can alter some of their behaviors but their personalities are their personalities. My ex was insensitive & irresponsible--I found that difficult to work with; he seems to have met someone whose personality meshes with his. Sometimes we & our personalities aren't "put to the test" until after the vows have been uttered.
Note: Oh, yeah. And he did have some text messages from a female co-worker, one who had never befriended me.
2007-07-13 09:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by ophelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people fall out of love and grow apart. They often get married because they think they're in love, when if fact they're just best friends.
alot of the time, people bring past issues into the relationship.
2007-07-13 23:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got divorced because the love was gone. I was too young when I married my first husband. Not sure that I knew what being in love was. I also was extremely naive. I still respect him because he is a wonderful person and an awesome father.
2007-07-13 09:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Husband and i divorced because he was abusive, we both loved each other, but he was taking steroids and became more and more abusive with every day(it was for medical reasons). We loved each other enough to end it before it got to the point of no return, he passed away a month after the final decree was issued.
2007-07-13 09:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't "fall out of love"; my husband molested our two little boys and half the church kids where he preached. At that point, the very sight of him disgusted me. I hated him for a long time because he threw away what could have been a wonderful life for our family. Now I just feel sorry for him.
2007-07-13 09:24:43 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 14 years of marriage ( 17 years together) she cheated on me with my former so-called best friend. We divorced, he divorced his wife, they married! Yeah, I hate em'! They are grown, but what they did to my daughter and his twins is not fair.
2007-07-13 09:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by i know it all! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't hate my ex, although people have told me I should.
He is an alcoholic, and got worse during our marriage. I had to go through years of counseling to get myself right from the emotional and verbal abuse. He refused to admit there was a problem and refused to get any type of help. Bottom line, he chose his alcohol over his marriage.
Sad, but sometimes you have to leave a situation.
2007-07-13 09:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋