If someone told you they regret some things from their past what would you say?

Question

You would probably say we all mistakes just forgive your self and move on (or words to those effect), but if you found out they were talking about the fact that they had murdered a child in their past, what would you then say??

Answer 1

When I read the first part of your Q it was an easy answer.
But the next part is beyond me. Even if I'd like to forgive, I do not think in my mind it would ever be possible.
Murdering a CHILD! No, I cannot get over it.

There would always be a fear for that person.

Answer 2

Depends in which way, because maybe that person didn't mean it murder with his own hands. maybe this person was indirectly the cause of the childs death. Or for all we know this person could have been a child at the time too, and it could have been an accident, and this person just didn't want to accept it that way and it haunts this person. It could have been self defense, we get some evil children in today's life.

But I would tell this person to see a psychologist or something!

Answer 3

I'd encourage him to turn himself in. He should completely have regrets for something terrible like that.. and maybe if he truly has regrets it means he still has a soul in there somewhere. So maybe you can guilt him into turning himself into the police.

It could have been an accident (a negligent accident) He could have killed a child with his car, maybe while under the influence, and he says it's murder because his conscience is eating him up inside. Perhaps hes already served his time or paid his debt but is still haunted. In that case, he needs to work through it and learn to live his life again. One way to do that is to give back, to give of yourself, to prove that he hasn't forgotten what happened and he still lives with it. Another way is to get some therapy to learn what exactly was his responsibility and what he can let go of..

Answer 4

No, I would say where there's a will there's a way or you are never too old to start enjoying life and having fun. Well reading the second part of your question is hard to decide. It depends what situation they were in when they murdered a child.

Answer 5

it's not up to you to say anything. If this is true, the fact the person has confessed to you, shows they have come to a time where they are willing to admit to their past behaviours.

All you can do is suggest they talk to someone else, like the police, counsellor, priest or the Samaritans.

It's an awful guilt to put on your shoulders too, and really you should talk to someone too.

To say something so serious, which may or may not be true, indicates a lot of problems this person has.

Answer 6

It depends on the circumstances, some are acceptable such as accidents, When accidents do happen where a child is killed the person often refers to themselves as murderers unjustly. A friend of mine was involved in a car accident 15 years ago and her child was killed. Now even though the accident was not her fault she still thinks she murdered her son. In those circumstances there is usually no consoling them. If your friend killed a child out of malice then he/she does not deserve much consoling sorry

Answer 7

Regret is a wasted emotion. It changes nothing, and represents guilt. We are here to learn how to live a life that is honorable and provides opportunity for our spiritual growth. Murdering a child, to me, is no worse than murdering anyone. Malice of thought, revenge, and lack of respect for the victim displays the murderers inability to use impulse control. Murder does happen in the height of rage, and is not premeditated. Emotion is very strong, and negative emotion has the ability to cloud ones judgment. Murderers are not welcome in my social activities.

Answer 8

The past is the past.
The only person who is worried in this situation is you, if you are regretting the past.
You can never get it back.
So we all make mistakes, that's how we learn.
If you found out they had committed a serious crime then you are obliged to report it.
Doesn't matter if they are your closest friend.
You have a moral responsibility to report anything of this nature.

Answer 9

I would say that that is something you will regret for the rest of your life and that you will have to learn to live with carrying the burden.

Answer 10

It depends on the circumstances ... I'd have to know more

for example whether it was a stupid, careless thing like drink driving ... or....


dR bad
I don't think I need to go on