it has been going for more than a year now, and i just cant get it out of my head....
any good advices to forgetting it
2007-07-13 01:53:32 · 23 answers · asked by SiuTongChoi 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can never forget it,
just tell your self that it is in the past and you are not that person anymore.
You have learnt from it, now it is time to move on,
Basically you need to forgive your self we all make mistakes x
2007-07-13 01:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to re-address it.
Good ways to do that would be to find a counsellor you feel at ease with and chew it over with them, or you could write it down in a diary. If it is centred around a person (maybe you hurt them or something happened to them) then you could write a letter, even if it just goes straight in the bin once you're done.
It does take a long time to get over some things, or rather, learn to deal with them. A change of scenery can help, and it is a good idea to keep yourself busy. This could mean getting a new job, taking up a new hobby or moving house.
My way of reconciling myself with things is the knowledge that I have learned from it. And I do - I will never make those mistakes again. I've come across similar situations again and handled them differently and it's worked out better. So actively striving to do it better next time around might help you make peace with yourself.
It's in the past now, which you can't change. But you can change your present and influence your future. So get out there and make a difference :)
2007-07-13 11:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by ~ Arwen ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you've done, so any advice could end up being completely inapropriate.
I personally believe that everything we do in life and everything that happens to us, good or bad, shape the people we ultimately become.
If you did something stupid/bad in the past, but the regret you feel from that experience has taught you to be a better person, then the event is not something you should regret.
Learn from your mistakes. Make yourself a better person.
2007-07-13 02:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by JoesyGirl22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a number of tried and tested ways to ease regret and the feelings of associated guilt.
Firstly try and put right what went wrong. This way is difficult and you may loose face but try.
Alternatively and certainly my prefered method is alcahol and drugs.
I have lead a totally regretful existance and find that alcahol provides a fairly permanant numbing of the feelings and rohip gets me over the really bad days.
I would also try crack but this is can mean the effect of the alcahol is lost too quickly.
2007-07-13 02:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet that whenever you replay whatever scenario it was in your mind you just see the negatives. I suggest that one year on it is time to reflect on what positive lessons you have learned from the experience, and there are some.
Because you will have altered your negative view of the situation to a positive one, you can move on with a new perspective and leave the baggage behind.
All the best
2007-07-13 02:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont brood on old things. Past is Past. Start Day Dreaming of good things. Make castles. Live in Today. Plan for the future. When ever feel like flowing in the regret mode remember your girl friend, pet ....
2007-07-13 02:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Guruji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And u will not 4get it in the coming years ....that I promise u...
As a matter of fact, u will 4get the intensity of that event but it is alomost impossible to 4get it all with relevant details...
Time is capable of heeling things over as it is always said, but I think it does not really work 100%... as it surely depend on the incident itself and what ur role in it was, and whether or not u had an effect on it, and whether or not it was so tangible or ibtangible...
The only way to keep it off your head is TO DEAL WITH IT, AND TO FIND A WAY OUT OF IT; i.e., Confrontation & Spelling it out, loud & crystal clear,,,
Or, u could simply KEEP IT OFF YOUR HEAD, really...; meaning, every time it comes to your head, just ignore it and aim to remember another issue that has another meaning in your life...and try to find the POSITIVE ONES rather...
I could imagine the difficult situation u r n @ the moment, and I do hope u would b able to find ur way out...
Best of wishes for u of A MEMORY LOSS...
That's the only way out of it, but u wouldn't want that to happen, would u ?
Take care...
2007-07-13 02:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when i lost my virginity against my emotional will, I really regret it and problem wasn't forgetting, but getting rid of the pain, shame and guilt that i was feeling when I thought of it. and the only way i moved on was come to terms with what happed and accept my blame and look forward and not dwel on the past!
2007-07-13 02:20:51 · answer #8 · answered by DarK-AnGeLs-OpiNioN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't forget it if you are guilty to somebody, be humble yourself and ask forgiveness and tell him or her, and be friend and nothing else. As I know forgiveness is the way makes you feel get away from sin and you will be free. It's not easy to do this things, but at least you do the best.
2007-07-13 02:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by rockstones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all regret things. Its just why we regret it that makes it bearable or unbearable so to speak either do something about the thing you regret or you simply have to forget about it no use living your life on if this happened or that happened
2007-07-14 12:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋