Gay Doubters?

Question

Why do people who are not gay, and don't even seem to know any gay people feel that they can tell gay people they KNOW they chose to be gay? I just don't get this.

Why can't any of them CHOOSE to be gay? Even for a moment, none of them have. It reeks of hypocrisy.

Why do you think people feel the need to ignore someone's real mindset? Is it because they're just generally afraid?

Also for the couple of people who tried to backdoor the "it's a choice to act on homosexuality".

That is not at all what I'm talking about. I'm talking about a physical and sexual attraction to a person of the same gender. Not whether or not you "act" on it. NO ONE can physically change what gender they get aroused by.

Answer 1

My ex wife changed teams after 10 years of marriage and 2 kids. She tells me that she chose to be gay.

My stepdaughter was a lesbian for 6 years before she changed her lifestyle and is now engaged to a fine young man. She tells me that she chose to be gay, then chose to be straight.

I'm straight. Do you believe that there's no way that I can physically have sex with a guy because I don't have the genetic material?

No, who we have sex with is our choice. We could always choose to walk away.

To say that whom you have sex with is genetic is just not taking personal responsibility for your actions.

To say that attraction is the key to homosexuality, not the physical act is a cop out. I'm attracted to Sandra Bullock. Should I act on that whim? I don't think so. That would be an unhealthy compulsion if I did. I would have to work to resolve my compulsion, to get over it, and not to act on it. The same is true for homosexual thoughts. You need to work them out rather than to act on them.

Answer 2

While there is a lack of respect in the tone of most people asking these questions, I think they're really trying to understand.

Right now this is what they've been told. It's like being told the Earth is flat, if noone tells you differently, you'll believe it. It sounds like utter nonsense to those of us who know the Earth is a sphere, but to someone with no exposure whatsoever to any material showing the Earth's real shape, and with noone telling them differently, they'll believe it.

So these people just don't know any better. Someone told them this and it stuck. They don't know gay people, and aren't gay themselves, so they have no first hand knowledge of the topic, and without anyone to tell them different and show them proof, they'll just keep on believing what they were told.

Here they're getting people telling them differently, people telling them that they didn't choose gay, and eventually they'll get it.

But you can't just vilainize someone for their lack of knowledge, sometimes it's not their fault. All we can do is inform them and move on, eventually it'll sink in.

Another example is computers. When they were first getting popular lots of older people were overcomplicating them, they had a preconceived notion that computers are complicated, so they had a hard time learning them. Yet those that had exposure to computers from early on knew that they are user friendly, and didn't have a hard time adapting.

So again, people have a hard time understanding things that they are not familiar with.

We cannot expect all nongay people who know no gay people and aren't well read on the literature to all think that gay is a normal natural way to be if they were told it wasn't. The introduced preconceived notion IS their knowledge of gay people, they need to learn something more.

Don't hate them for their ignorance, merely try to educate.

Answer 3

I don't think straight people will ever except the fact that the Gay people do not actually 'choose' to be gay. Unless there is a strong scientific evidence, but most people really think that what they believe, must be right. It is just plain ignorance, and not being open minded. They should spend all the time learning other that criticizing or discriminating. Why would one want to choose the harder way of life anyway?

Answer 4

I don't think that anyone chooses to be gay. I think they are born that way, and alot of them try to hide the fact by dating the opposite sex because that is what this society deems as normal. They do not admit they are gay until many years down the road when they can accept that they don't have to live in the shadows. There are some people who do choose to explore the same sex, but are not gay.
I have many friends that are gay, and all have said they all felt attracted to the same sex from a very early age.

Answer 5

The earth is around 4.5 billion years previous. I even have taken antibiotics. yet that isn't data that each physique residing issues progressed from a single-cellular organism (a bacteria). The fossil checklist does no longer progression via small differences from a germ to each and all the countless residing species. The flood purely had to be a community flood as a results of fact the reason in the back of the flood replaced into to kill all people different than those on the ark, and all people have been nonetheless residing in a quite small section. "total Earth" can mean as a techniques as a results of fact the attention can eye or the extensive-unfold earth.

Answer 6

I think you would find your answer if you asked them when they chose to be straight. When they can give yo no logical answer, you have shown them the truth. And yes, they are afraid. I could be scared of the dark side of the moon because I can not even imagine what it is like to never be seen or even acknowledged as an important part of space, however I know it is there and did not choose to be the way it is and I accept and appreciate it. This is the same concept for straight people's fear of any alternate sexuality. They can never know what it is like to be on this side of the moon, and do not dare venture over because they do not know what they will find, or if they would be able to go back.

Answer 7

The only thing you can "choose" to do is go against your natural instincts. A gay man married to a straight woman is still a gay man. A lesbian that is taught to suppress her attraction to other women, and avoid situations where she may experience temptation, is still a lesbian. Even the "ex-gay" witch doctors acknowledge that gays and lesbians that try to live a straight lifestyle will struggle with it for the rest of their lives. So if you can't "choose" to be straight, it defies logic to believe that you can "choose" to be gay.

Those that claim it's all about who you have sex with apparently believe that a man that looks at straight porn every day, but waits until marriage for sex, is not really straight until his wedding night. And that a straight man who gets paid to have sex with a man becomes gay, but reverts to straight when he goes home to his girlfriend.

Answer 8

the only choice in being gay is whether or not you want to live your life in or out of the closet...anybodoy can have sex with anybody else...but making the parts fit isn't the only part in being in a relationship. intimacy is a key factor and if you don't have that, then why would you be in one to begin with? can a straight person choose to be intimate with someone of the same sex? no..they can't force it upon themselves any more than a gay person can with straight people. you can choose to hate yourself and therefore "turn" yourself straight, but it doesn't mean that you'll be ''cured"..it just means you're pretending to be someone you're not.

Answer 9

I don't believe that 99.9% of gay people have "chosen" to be gay anymore than a person choses to be born blind, dyslexic, blond hair or any other thing. I do feel that there are a teeny tiny number of people who chose to be gay that really aren't because they are trying to be 'different', get attention or to hurt someone in their lives. (Does that make sense?) Yes, people do tend to be afraid of what they don't understand.

Answer 10

I don't think its a choice anymore then me being a heterosexual is a choice. People like who they like. I guess some people just associate gay with sex, instead of an orientation and having sex is a choice therefore they think gay is a choice. Be with whoever you want, happiness is better choice then hatred and ignorance.

Answer 11

Maybe we all choose our preference. Not just gay, but also straight. I am not affraid of my sexuallity, I am straight and chose to be straight.