Here's the thing, I have already. I have told him over and over again. I mean his parents sleep in two different bedrooms and have since my hubby was 15. I just want affection and I guess all in all I want to know that he desires me in every way. I know this sounds like I want a fairy tale but.... I don't know. I have run out of things to do.
2007-07-13 00:31:10 · 16 answers · asked by southern comfort 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him with love
2007-07-13 00:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Gengis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question is; Was there affection before you married?
Either way....Perhaps he is influenced by what he has observed over the years from his parents. You take the initative and start out slow and slowly build on that. You may also want to encourage him along to way.
He has been like he is for quite some time, do allow time for him to redirect his thinking as far as affection goes.
2007-07-13 07:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by acbyrd4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest and don't speak to him in code. Men tend to say what they mean and not leave so much to the imagination. Women however seem to give hints and expect the man to understand what the hint is a lot of times the man is not complying to your desires because he did not get the hint. Just set him down in a very not threatening way (remember he is a man) and explain.
2007-07-13 07:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Allison H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, quit telling him and show him!! He probably doesn't know how to be affectionate, so gently guide him to where you want him to be. Don't push. This is going to take some time so be patient. And, be realistic. If it is a fairy tale you want, read a book.
2007-07-13 08:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he affectionate to you before you got married to him? Did you get all the attention and affection you needed before you said "I Do!" Did he received love and attention from his parents as he was growing up?
If the answer is NO, then either you have to show him OR accept him as he is.
2007-07-13 07:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its not something he's witnessed in his childhood... it wont be easy for him to be affectionate. But its is possible. I never hugged anyone.. till i met my husband (who was very affectionate) lead by example... Tell him you need affection & if he wont give it.. ur gonna take it! u give the hugs n kisses & touches.. & see if it pushes him in the right direction! Invading personal space isnt easy!
2007-07-13 07:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Carol x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him what to do. Show him. That way he will learn from you and will be able to react to you in the way you want him to.
This may take quite sometime though. But be patient!
2007-07-13 07:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by attyjudz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont undrstand,are u sleeping in different rooms?go out and buy the sexiest thing you can find,cook him supper,with candles,bubble bath,then you come on to him,im sure he will get the picture,but not all guys are romantic. good luck.
2007-07-13 07:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by marie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop Trying.. if it's meant to happen .. it will ... without making it the center of your life ...
Cheers,
SC
2007-07-13 07:37:14 · answer #9 · answered by chidioc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump his bones when he least expects it and aftewards tell him does he have any questions about what it is that you want?
2007-07-13 07:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about waht both of your desires, wishes and fantasies are and work towards both people's
2007-07-13 07:39:31 · answer #11 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋