I don't like my bf buying me things at all bc in my life people hold it over ur head if they get u something then ur like a slave to them for what they bought u, he has done it with sex or saying he should get to do what he wants since he got me such and such, well I've been upset too about an abortion i had to get which was his child, and he tells me all the time to just forget it bc it was needed to do bc we couldn't support a child, yes i'm on bc but it didn't work even with condoms. and my family is on the verge of a divorce with my parents that of course i would be upset. well he goes to his mom and tells him i'm upset but doesn't tell her y, and that i don't like him buying me stuff, she says well thats good, make her go dutch and buy her own ticket, and whatever she needs on our date tomorrow. he says he will buy the ticket but its with her debt card. How would u state her answer, does she like me, hate me, bc my own mom would tell my bro to ask the girl whats wrong not go dutch
2007-07-12 20:17:05 · 7 answers · asked by babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
right now i can't buy anything bc of the cost of school, paying my parents off, and car insurance and gas that i only have $20 to last 2 weeks on and most of the time my parents dont buy food that will last more than 2 days(this really does happen with my bro living at home) that i have to eat at work or hope to eat something he hopefully buys me
2007-07-12 20:28:27 · update #1
first of all, sounds like you shouldn't be with this guy of yours...not all guys are like this.....and why shouldn't you be upset about the abortion?? That was your baby...you should be able to grieve at the choice you made...If I were you, I would run away from this guy and quick...he sounds so cold and callous....what man would say just forget about the fact that we killed our baby....??? I don't mean to say it that way to upset you, but that is the truth of the matter.....
Find yourself a Bible believing church and talk to someone their....there are also groups that counsel women who have had abortions in every city...seek a Christian based one and go to it...they will not condemn you, they will try to help you see that even though you did this, God still loves you and He always will....etc....
Don't worry about the mother, sounds like you should be questioning whether or not you should stay with this guy....think about it .....you are in my prayers....if you want to talk email me....
2007-07-17 10:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Julie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please take it from someone who really understands what you are going through. Your boyfriend isn't ready for the kind of relationship you want. He is immature. First, he takes advice from his mother instead of coming straight to you to see what the problem is.
And about the abortion, a understanding boyfriend would talk to you and talk you through your depression. Guys are so detached from things like that because it happened to you. It was your body that it was done to and it's your conscience that tears you up inside.
No one should have to face that alone, but most young girls do.
Please think about everything that has occurred in your relationship up until now and try to see it from different eyes.
He isn't supportive and if anything has brought more grief into your life.
He can get over it because he doesn't have to deal with it like you do. You need someone to talk to and time away from him. He's bringing you down.
2007-07-18 13:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by Little Sister 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like this guy is treating you like a prostitute and you shouldn't give him the time of day. Tell him to stick it. Honestly if this guy loved you he would buy you stuff just because he could and he knew that it would make your day with no expectations whatsoever... Trust me... you can do so much better. You need to find someone who will respect you as a lady and not some @$$ hole who is going to try and buy his own satisfaction from you... Good luck with your decision and hope that this helped you out.
2007-07-19 16:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by PO3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is an abusive, dishonest family. Even if you live elsewhere with him, he will continue the same behavior. Get out of that relationship. It won't change, and it will just upset you even more. You need to face one big challenge at a time. Get counseling for the divorce of your parents. Then only have relationships with people who are healthy.
2007-07-13 03:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your the one that said you don't like accepting things from him. She didn't tell him not to buy you things. She only said to do what YOU told him to do. She was telling him to respect your feelings. Most people go dutch on dates now, or take turns paying. My boyfriend pays for most of our dates because he's working and I'm in school, but sometimes I treat him just so I don't feel like I'm taking advantage of him.
Your probably just taking the stress from the rest of your life and looking for outlets to release that stress.
2007-07-13 03:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OH, MY GAWD, GIRL!!! DUMP THIS PIECE OF S!!! he has treated you very badly. you do not deserve this!!!!! i could go on and on and on and on and on, like your history has been with this family and this guy, but, girl, it's not going to get any better -- GET OUT NOW!!!!! no matter what you have to do to get out, GET OUT!!! you are SO MUCH BETTER THAN THIS!!! get some help -- some counseling -- even if you have to go to a church preacher or free counseling center. SAVE YOUR LIFE HERE -- YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY & BE TREATED WITH RESPECT AND LOVE!!!
2007-07-13 03:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by eclecticmoon 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is everything you don't want your next boyfriend to be.
2007-07-21 01:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by jojo muffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋