This is something that has been on my mind ever since this happened. I'd like a man's opinion on this if possible.
Last year, my spouse left our house late at night in a very angry mood. He stayed out all night, arrived back late the next morning, and told me not to answer the phone under any circumstances. It rang several times, and he was very demanding about not answering it. He also said we'd be short on money.
Later, he shouted at me that he had spent $400 on strippers, described them in detail, and said that he had "almost had sex" with one of them, but didn't, so I "should be happy about that" (I wasn't). I asked him about the phone, and he stammered before making a comment about making a new friend at the strip club. He didn't sound very sure of himself.
I just need to know what this sounds like to others. I believe he lied to me about not having sex.
We're currently separated for other reasons involving domestic abuse. I left soon after this event.
2007-07-12 19:13:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the fast replies, so far.
I suppose I should add that despite the seeming nonsense of wondering about this so late in the matter, some things always strike you in certain ways in certain situations. Cheating is always one of those things.
I was very shocked when I was told, despite everything else that was happening at the time. I just couldn't figure out why or how he could literally add so much insult to injury. It was baffling.
2007-07-12 19:32:00 · update #1
Almost having sex is probably that he had the woman in bed, naked, but probably just couldn't bring himself to do it.
$400 on strippers can be cheap depending on the club he went to.
The phone calls were probably the woman that he almost slept with.
2007-07-20 19:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good thing you are done with that mess! You'll never know what happened that night, Lord knows he'll never tell you the truth. He already told you about the strippers and the $ and you still came up with more ?s. If you did know you'd probably find a new level ? to ponder. It will never make sense and will never be right. Be carefull not to spend too much time worrying about it, instead, go get your hair done. Then find something else in your life you can work on improving, and work to improve it. Rinse and Repeat, breathe in and breathe out, move on and let it go, there is no such thing as closure. Just an opening to a new life for you:)
2007-07-20 13:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he did something with someone and "almost is not the proper word for this". Also if he was demanding that you not answer the phone it was probably because the someone was calling him and not a male friend. I would thank my lucky stars that you are rid of him. I know that you are trying to work all of this out in you mind, but believe me leave it in the past it will only bring out the worst in you. Get your self some good counseling and move on with your life. There are plenty of good men out there that won't treat you this way. You need a man that will love you and not turn to this behavior when the going gets tough
2007-07-18 05:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being at a strip club, tucking or something with 400., almost having sex, staying out all night. After spending 400. and not coming home until late the next morning ( strip club closed many hours before this) What are the chances that he DID NOT have sex? Slim. Very slim. You did the right thing. Get rid of this poor excuse of a man and get a better life!
2007-07-12 19:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If youre seperated now, consider yourself lucky and get the hel out. A MAN doesnt need to have strippers, first of all. He should get all he needs from the woman he supposedly loves, else why marry her?! Second, and more important, is that if there are domestic abuse issues, why do you even care about this any more....... Once a cheat, always a cheat.... Once an abuser, always an abuser.... Go find someone who'll treat you right....... SHEESH!
2007-07-12 19:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Since your husband was willing to go to a strip club and take that much money that you obviously couldn't afford away from your family, I'd say that he's not only a liar but a cheater too. Walk away from this dude. He's violent anyway, there's your way out.
2007-07-12 20:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Love Aura 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you did the right thing by leaving him,he was truly not worth your time of day or night for that matter...and most likely he had sex with the stripper and she got the number..$400 is allot of money to spend on a stripper for that price sex is right on the table...and it's good that you got out of that abusive relationship..keep ya head up
2007-07-20 12:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by capricorn-saturn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all you shouldn't be worried about "almost having sex" you should be worried that he's at the strip club. and he's telling you what to do in your own house. good thing you left him. cause a man like that isn't someone you need. especially one that abuses you. don't ever go back to him. find someone else, a better person :D
2007-07-12 19:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Niniiker 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, I am a woman but it sounds like he either came on to a woman at the club or spent the night with her and gave her his number. Either way, it isn't good.
2007-07-12 19:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It also sound like drugs to me. I wouldn't bet on it being a woman. It sounds like drugs. You did the right thing by leaving. It only gets worst.
2007-07-20 12:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋