Well I am 21 and separated (not divorced yet, though don't see her), no kids from that, I have met this really nice woman who is 28 and separated also (not divorced yet either) with 2 gorgeous girls, naturally there is some contact with her ex for their kids. But obviously could become quite a messy situation. Does anyone wish to offer advice? please none of the simply get out or go for it , at least expand and elaborate thanks.
2007-07-12 19:04:03 · 13 answers · asked by Jesk 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before you take anything a step futher, I would make sure your divorces are final.
Make sure you are always respectful and courteous when her daughters are present. You give no descriptions of your soon to be ex or this new nice woman but say her daughters are gorgeous? As a mom of beautiful daughters this gives me a creepy feeling. (Sorry if this offends!)
You are young, have a failed marriage already, so I would say take it slow and be sure of what you want and why you want this woman with the gorgeous daughters.
2007-07-12 19:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You guys may want to clear the "problems at home" before you begin a relationship. By getting a divorce or at least legally separating you are getting the ball started in the right direction.
If you each let your previous relationship just fall to the back burner, they could cause big problems. First of all you don't want the drama and second why start a "possibly good relationship" off the heels of a relationship that is still in turmoil.
Just get the ball going in the right direction( serving paper, getting legally separated) then pursue the " love interest.''
Hey there is nothing wrong with waiting, plus this will give you time to get to know each other without the pressure! Good Luck!
2007-07-12 19:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do not enter into a relationship with individuals that are separated. It will not end well in the long run.
The fact that she is 28 and has two kids is not the issue at hand, obviously you are ok with the situation.
However going through a divorce is a difficult thing, you know this. If you want any chance of a meaningful relationship with this woman then I would suggest waiting until everything is finalized. Let some time pass.
2007-07-12 19:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by georgeishere 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are 21 and already divorced once. You are only a big kid and didn't really know how to be a husband. You are NOT equipped to be a father either.
Although the age difference of 7 years is not a big deal, intuition tells me that you are too young and she is too mature for you. I am not even asking if you have the earning power to provide. Running a household of 4 people is nothing romantic but inundated with daily issues.
At your age, you should live a couple years without another serious relationship.
2007-07-12 19:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait to pursue until both divorces are finalized. Kids always makes the situation a little more complicated, but if you see this going somewhere, go slow and take baby steps. It sounds like you really like her daughters, but the soon-to-be ex-husband might pose a small or rather large problem. It might be kind of weird at first but just be cautious. You tend to get attached to the kids so be careful, but you never know this might be exactly what you are looking for! Good luck!
2007-07-12 19:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by redflash92 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First i decide for to furnish you a pat on the back for not wanting to return between him and his lady buddy. that's plausible that the help on him having a gf is out-of-date, and he's not seeing her to any extent further. it is likewise plausible that he remains seeing her and attempting to have a relationship of a few form with you, to boot. the only concern you're able to do is have a face-to-face talk with him and locate out what is going on. If he quite does have a similar ethical values as you do, he will understand once you lose him because of the fact a very magnificent guy would not placed the two one in all you in such a clumsy place. If he does have a gf, whether he dumps her for you, it style of spoils each and every thing, because of the fact which you will possibly often contemplate whether he'd do a similar concern to you. sturdy success.
2016-09-29 21:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young...
So...
I'm gonna cut you some slack....
Are you INSANE?
Leave that married woman ALONE!
You're MARRIED?
Give it a little time & try to work things out with the woman that you vowed to...
Messy is not the word for the potential disaster &/or fatalities that your urge for a new piece of @&$ can cause.
RUN.
You need to work on building a nest egg to retire on-
You haven't resolved with your wife, but yet you wanna stasrt a new relationship?
Dawg....
Man to man...
You need to repent from seeing this new chick-
Save your money & become financially stable
Then you'll be able-
~1 Trillion
2007-07-13 08:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Bruh Luuh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both of you need to wait for a divorce. You both need time to heal from the prior relationship first otherwise you're just gonna take his place with her and become the "rebound". Y'all need to give it some time, then see what happens.......
2007-07-12 19:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ericka 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it could get messy.You tell her you like her a lot.Whoever gets divorced contact the other one.Don't get involved yet.She has kids,let her mind be on her husband for the kids sake.
2007-07-12 19:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you marry/date a person with kids you are marrying/dating a package and all the headaches that comes with it. And it will be alot of headaches and you will be an outsiders in alot of situations where you are suppose to the the head of your house.
2007-07-12 19:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by J R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋