i never thought that my husband (of 3 years would cheat on me until i checked the online history on our computer and discovered that someone has been visiting the ashley madison website which is a place to go and connect with other people who are disconnected from their relationships or married and looking for other options or something. now the only reason that i haven't gone off is because we also live with my husband's brother (who is in a commited relationship from what i understand) so it is possible that he is the one that went to that site but then again why would he go to a site for married people and he's not married? last night my husband slept on the floor for some dumb reason i don't know but i woke up and he was there on the floor. every friday he goes out to the bar and never invites me (which i have asked a question on her before about). am i just trippin or do i really have a ligetamate excuse to blow up here?
2007-07-12 18:32:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i mean i don't want to be one of those wives who is constantly drilling her husband and falsely accusing him of stuff. i just feel like something isn't right and i am worried about what i should do about it. we have kids together and i can't just pack up and leave or kick him out over this but i just want answers. what should i do? serious answers only please!
2007-07-12 18:38:41 · update #1
Go with gut is thhere anything else suspicious. But DO NOT blow up yet i could be your husbands bro, and accusations and mistrust kills. Hed lie anyway if he was doing it and say it was his bro. Besides try creating an activity and leaving him alone see log in times and see if they match up, Whats done in the dark will come to the light. INVESTIGATE> Get 007 and find out what's the deal dont take the case to the jury unless you can get a guilty vertic.
2007-07-12 18:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious discussion with him, it sounds like something is clearly not right. At the very least you can get it out in the open, I would avoid throwing accusations in regards to the website, but rather ask him what is wrong and or what is going on. Tell him that you are there for him and you just want to know what is troubling him, if anything. If he says that nothing is wrong, then you may bring up the sleeping on the floor and or the bar.
Sleeping on the floor is a huge sign...
Whatever it is, something is wrong. You need to find out, and the best way is communication; but try to do it calmly and get to the bottom of it and hopefully you can salvage the relationship before the problem(s) get out of hand.
Good luck
2007-07-13 01:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by georgeishere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why he's doing this? It's because you're allowing it. Why doesn't he ask you to go to the bar with him? You've been okay with him going without you-that's why. I think you should go up to the bar every Friday and just check it out-see what he's up to. As for the History, I would delete all the history stuff off the computer one day. Then, the next day - check it. Ask whoever you're living with if they've been on the computer-if they say no, then you know it was your husband....
2007-07-13 01:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ericka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks suspicious. BUT...your brother in law could be the culprit, as well. Married or not.
I would simply ask your husband about it. Ask him what's up with the website thing? If you blow up, turns out it was your bil, you are going to feel horrible.
As far as the floor goes, maybe he was hot, uncomfortable, or you were restless and he couldn't sleep. I do the same myself, sometimes.
2007-07-13 01:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm kinda trippin but I'd watch things....take a breath. Calm down. None of the the things that you mention means he's cheating. Maybe it's time to check in with him in general. See how he's feeling about your marriage. It could be nothing so just be calm.
2007-07-13 01:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should just ask him if he visited the website. If he did then you can ask him about the relationship because if you dont he probably just going to cheat.
2007-07-13 01:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I f i were you,i wouldn't say anything untill i really find something.Keep an eye on him.Check everything of his.Fallow him on fridays.See where is he going,with whom? and why?.You need more time to find out,but right now you don't have much of a dirth on him.
2007-07-13 01:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
over reacting . no he.s cheating on you . my opion?
2007-07-13 01:39:14 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋