Does having more ex-lovers or experiences in relationship makes a person better after marriage?

Answer 1

It might make that person a much more skilled lover, which is a great plus to any relationship. You might not be interested in variety ( after all these experiences ) as much as stability of marriage. And that is a very positive thing also. In my own experience ( I was never attracted to boys, adult men only for me ), comparing sexual experiences was never an issue. Success of marriage in my own opinion has very little to do with previous experiences, it has to do with level of maturity and ability to share of yourself. I hope that was helpful in some way.

Answer 2

I think that having past relationships helps in finding out what type of person is right for you. I don't know about the quantity, but the quality of those relationships certainly plays a role. I didn't expect my husband to be "brand new" for me with no past experiences and he didn't expect that from me either.

Answer 3

Of course it does.

Women these days average 50+ lovers easily before marriage.

And then decide to hunker down for the long term monogamy like a bear hunkers down and hibernates for the long winter.

Answer 4

not at all, if anything it makes things worse. cause of the several relationships i think the person tends to get complicated and dont really know what they want and they tend to compare you to past lovers and that cant be good for anybody.

Answer 5

No. Who you are stays the same after marriage.
Your openness/full disclosure/full commitment with your spouse will only improve your intimate, all trusting, safe, wonderful marriage.
Embrace Love.

Answer 6

more ex lovers.they have tried out the field and may be ready to settle down in a marriage

Answer 7

Sure, that way you know who's boring who's not,think about it, marriage should be life-long, if you are thinking to just try it out, you better go back to dating.

Answer 8

Not at all. All it serves to do is make you wish that you had 'saved' a bit more of yourself for the person you actually married.

Answer 9

Good question! As for having ex-lovers and more experience with past relationships, it CAN ruin the person's life, after he/she decides to marry, later on.

Speaking from personal life experience, this can make things more difficult for a person, because I been there, done that. I really did not want to have MANY gf/ bf relationships, but I didn't know any better and wasn't as wise as I thought. This was when I was an unbeliever. I was lost, and I was confused as to what was the right direction to go. But, deep inside, I wanted to love just ONE man, and was looking for someone to marry. But, my problem was, I had the right idea, but did it all wrong. And, boy . .was I sorry for doing things my way.

It was only until, when I got married (to the man I really wanted to love, but did not know now ..I know, sounds strange, but let me explain), did I realize what I did wrong, with my past relationships with the opposite sex. Giving myself to any guy, for sex . .almost ruined my life, and my marriage, as well. I realized something wasn't right, and begged for HELP! And, the only Person who responded to my plees, was God . .because He had the answer I was looking for: Love. God helped me, by teaching me what LOVE is really all about, and it due time, I grew to love God more and more. God also taught me many good things, that I was not aware of, by my own understanding . and I thought I was smart. I was a staight A, honor student, and I still did not know jack! Imagine that! Did God prove me wrong, lol . .and His powers, His wisdom . .He can really do for us, people. .amazes me.

Sometimes, God has people go thru such bad experiences, to LEARN and grow to become stronger, for later on. I believe, that is what He did with me. I really learned from my past mistakes, because God made it all possible for me to. Without His help, I probably would not be married, and be able to let go of my past. I don't compare my husband with my past lovers, but started fresh, living my life all over again . .starting off from where I left of . .as a virgin, at the age of 19. And, also applying eveything that God approves of, as a Christian woman, and wife, in Marriage.

Because I valued Marriage so much, I realized I valued God as high priority. Because of the way my heart believed, God was able to help me, and guide me in the right direction. From God, I learned that He created Marriage, to be the ONLY relationship between a man and woman. I learned, that the love in Marriage, is for life (forever). And, I learned that the only way I can truly have what my heart desires (such as good desires like marriage), I have to ask God for it. He is the only One who can, for He is the Giver of great gifts. Because I desired to love a man, in marriage . .I asked God for it, and I repsonded, because its what my heart wanted.

Having more ex-lovers or experiences, is a really bad way to start, but is not neccessary make the person bad, in the end . .because God does have the power to change the bad ways in people, to good.

The answer to this question is this: Do not judge others, whether they are bad or good, based on what they do or done in their lives. There is a good reason. God will help you understand that reason, because the truth is: NO ONE KNOWS WHO IS GOOD OR BAD, BUT GOD. God has the power to change people. He has already proved to people that He has changed unbelievers (sinners), into good (believers) people. I am His living proof, that He can do miracles.

Angela

God says that it CAN ruin a Marriage, and warns people that there are bad consquences for disobeying His Laws and Commandments. But, if you did not know and understand His truth, before . .. He will forgive you, for doing things wrong, when you truly mean you did not want to, and admit you were wrong, and He is right . .once you become a believer. Only then, can God help people overcome this problem.

Answer 10

Bad in marriage for there's a tendency of comparing them to your husband/wife.