my husband cheated 2 yrs. ago, & it's not the 1st time why can't I get over the fact that he did it w/ her?

Answer 1

You will never get this out of your head...What you need to figure out is, if you can live with this...

Answer 2

Well, I'm no expert. However, it sounds as if you haven't forgiven him yet. And it might not be something your capable of doing. Look, there's no handbook on a successful marriage. If the dynamics work, then they work. But it doesn't appear as that is happening in your relationship.

Point #1. He cheats.
Point #2. It bothers you.
Point #3. It doesn't appear he will stop cheating.
Point #4. It doesn't appear his infidelity is not going to hurt.

Solution: Separate, divorce; whatever it takes for the two of you to get your lives back. It doesn't have to be an unsavoury affair. Just embark on new journeys because it doesn't appear as if conciliation is an option.

Answer 3

Because your subconscious is telling you it wasn't the last time. You shouldn't have to get over something like that. That's a bond of trust with someone you made a life vow to and he to you. That's some serious stuff and not something you can just wake up one day and say 'Ya know, it's A OK he was up in someone else'. Er....a few someone else's at that. Sorry hon. Do good things for yourself! =(

Answer 4

as you have found out by personal experience is that 'once a cheater always a cheater'. if you ask me he's a loser and you could do a lot better. one thing you are doing is allowing him to disrespect you and by you doing nothing to hold him accountable you are actually giving him 'permission'. if you don't stand up to him and tell him to make a choice and hold him to it then he will continue to walk all over you and the sad fact is you will deserve it because you didn't do something about it. one thing you can count on him to do is cheat again and you need to ask yourself why are you letting him do this to you?

Answer 5

Because you shouldn't? Only 2 years married and he can't keep his pants zipped tells me you need to be elswhere.

Counselling for both of you if you think you want to make a go of it or look the other way and enjoy the part of him that is yours.

Not how I would want to live my married life.

Answer 6

Because you don't want to move on the marriage has crippled you. The same thing happened to me and now he is with the other woman. Thank God his cheating problem ain't my problem anymore it's hers. He still trys to come back hahahahah

Answer 7

because it's hard to accept the fact that he did all the intimate and private things he does with you with another woman. the thought of my man passionately kissing another woman, the things he whispers in my ear, the way he holds me. all those are so personal that i wouldn't be able to wrap my mind around it if he did that with someone else.

Answer 8

first of all you are hurt as to what he has done to you and you havent done nothing to be done like that i know that feeling i was done that way in.2002. the same year i dicorced now, my.ex. wife everytime yo look at him the madder you get this i know dont drop to his level hwe will do you that way again i really feel for you on this matter really . my opion?

Answer 9

because he cheated. thats the one thing that a spouse could ever do to be unforgiven. sneaking around and lying to your significant other is unexceptable and you have every right to be angry. and your a better person then me to take him back. cause he would be out.

Answer 10

it hard to get over the fact that he betrayed you, but if you
really want this marriage to survial you are going to have
to deal with it. talk to someone about how you feel.

Answer 11

Because it's infuriating! I hope you came up with a most evil revenge scheme.