my friend, a guy is having this problem now. he likes a guy and i can tell that he's struggling to find his own identity and feel depressed. so it is possible to be straight but having a crush to the same sex?
2007-07-12 16:55:11 · 10 answers · asked by oohay 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, it is. More over people struggle with their sexuality often. Tell your friend to calm down and join the masses. Just because you find someone of the same sex attractive doesn't mean your gay. BTW, if you were so be it. It is no ones business.
2007-07-12 16:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by DeCaying_Roses 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality isn't so much a question of being gay or straight. It's more of a continuum rather than an either/or. It's pretty normal for people to have some kind of attraction to or fascination with a person of the same sex. Many people, though, are taught that this is entirely wrong, which leaves them very confused, ashamed, whatever.
I also think that people are much happier when they can accept themselves wherever they fall on the continuum. I think he should pursue the interest and determine whether the attraction is genuine.
2007-07-12 17:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by rikkilyn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if he thinks this was the first time he had a crush on the same gender. It often can surface after many years of a child having some kind of influence when they were small. It can be over come if he chooses, but he may have had these feelings before and feels comfortable talking to you about this, Tell him to fess up. It often just does not come out of the blue.
2016-05-21 03:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by bianca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. The characteristics of the person the traits and things you like about them are what you have a crush on. Unless the thing you like is the way her/his look in a pair of jeans. But even then that could just be jealously. Sorry the point, don't worry so much about it. Crushes come and go, and happen with all different kinds of people. It's harmless really.
2007-07-12 19:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of how your friend feels. If he can find a safe harbor where all is well and he wont be hurt for doing so he will. We all do. The real truth is that in learning to accept ourselves with so much shortage of information. Alexander the Great wasn't in much of a closet when he accidentally got too far ahead of his soldiers and fell over the enemies wall, even though clearly homosexual, he would not have thought it to be so much fun if the enemy, no less homosexual, had got their hands on his sweet rear.
2007-07-12 17:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People put way too much pressure on this.
It's very simple. Do you like men?
Do you like women?
If you like men, you're gay. If you like women, you're straight. And if you like both, you're bi.
The important thing to realize is that it doesn't matter that much. Do whatever you want. Do you have to put it on a job application or something? Just relax.
2007-07-13 00:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by xXx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible has long as he knows he likes the opposite sex more or isn't going out with him or maybe hes bisexual
2007-07-12 16:59:38 · answer #7 · answered by Table In My Room 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would consider it to be bi if he is still interested in women or he is just now beginning to realize he is gay
2007-07-12 17:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope! it's one or the other
2007-07-13 08:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by aihsertal 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
no, no it isnt. thats like saying "is it possible to swim, but not get wet."
2007-07-12 16:58:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 6⤋