If I was talking, chatting with anybody, it's really hard for me to find a topic. So usually we just keep quiet and don't talk anything, except if the other ask me first.
2007-07-12 16:00:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi Cheryl. It's best to avoid any topics on which people might have strong opinions. For example, avoid religion (unless you're at a Bible Study or an Atheist convention), and politics.
Avoid subjects that might be unpleasant, such as sickness, injury, and death.
Do not reveal too much about yourself, at least not right away. Let the person gradually discover you.
Avoid any racist or sexist stuff--even if the other person starts it.
Don't swear, or talk about sex--even if the other person does.
That's enough about what NOT to say, so I should talk about TO say.
Think of your passions. For example, if you like sports, try that topic, but be ready to drop it if the listener shows that he or she is not interested.
The trick is to make people feel good about themselves, without insincere flattery or patronizing.
Common ground. If you have children and the other person is a parent, you know where to go with that.
Shared hardships. If you're a nine to fiver, talk about work in as postive a way as you can.
The very fact that you asked this question tells me that you are shy, maybe not very self-confident, but certainly sensitive to other people and (I suspect) smarter than most people who just go ahead and bore people.
2007-07-12 16:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People love to talk about themselves! So if it's someone new, ask them what they do for a living, then just listen and nod approvingly. They will think you are brilliant! =-) If that's a short or painful subject ask them about their family. Got any siblings? What's your crazy aunt like? Got any pets?
Here's some more,
Who do you like for President? Why?
Crazy weather we're having! It's so dry! (wet! or if you are in Florida, hot! smokey! LOL)
Have you seen the latest House (or other TV show)episode on TV?
How 'bout Boston Legal! (again, other TV show)
Did you see Transformers?!? (Spiderman?!? Shrek 3?!?) What did you think?
Did you see in the news where spiders crawled into that kid's EAR??
If the Borg where to meet the Jawas, would the Jawas be assimilated, or would the Borg be dismantled? (o.k., that one you will have to reserve for chatting with nerds, LOL!)
Take a quick visual assessment of the person you are talking to. Do they have a team shirt on? Do they have cool piercings or tattoos? A really good hair cut? A spiffy car? A cute dog? A good natured (or horrible) child/sibling? Any small random thing asked about another person can start a conversation.
For parents, grandparents and your date's parents, ask them about cute stories about when you or your date were young.
And if all else fails and you just can't think of anything else to carry the conversation, tell them you'll be right back, you're going to grab a drink.
BTW, I gotta go get something to drink; I'll be right back,....
2007-07-12 16:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chiere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always ask questions about the other person. For example, what they do for a living; family; favorite recent movie or book; compliment their tie or other clothing. Be up to date on sports or the news. Allowing the other person to talk makes them feel very comfortable. And, they think you are wonderful. Smile alot, don't fidget and always look them in the eye.
2007-07-12 16:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 01:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it helps to find something to talk about by looking around the area. if your at a bolling ally ask if they wanna join you for a fun game. then things will pop into your head then as long as its appropriate then just say it.
1. scan the area for things to talk about, notice things.
2. dont be afraid to say something when it comes to your mind (just make sure its not going to get you into trouble too much)
2007-07-12 16:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by ldsironman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about the topic, it's about feeling comfortable talking about everything and nothing.
2007-07-12 16:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try "What do you do after you have said hello" by Harris or Eric Berne in transactional analysis.
2007-07-12 16:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do after you have said hello ,is really amazing
2007-07-12 23:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋