I am 33 years old and my husband & I will be married 10 years this nov. I have lost all sex drive/interest in sex & I really want to want to have an interest, I just don't. I love my husband very much and I know he truely loves me but I can feel this is putting a strain on our marriage and I just don't know what to do. I have talked with my dr, who put me on Lexapro (for depression) but I have been on it for 2 months and don't notice any change. any suggestions?? Please help.
2007-07-12 15:19:42 · 15 answers · asked by flashmnp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some anti-depressants can cause loss of sexual desire.
How about planning a weekend away, sexy room, nice dinner, and give it and him your all!
2007-07-12 15:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ♥Be Happi♥ ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lexapro is absolutely famous for destroying libido as a side-effect. While it may help with depression, you may be sure that it will also eliminate any sense of sexual desire. I know from experience.
Switch drugs. Lexapro may, honestly, be the entire cause of the problem.
Also, start having sex nightly. The female sex drive is different from the male sex drive in that it must be activated. The more you do it, the more you'll want it. It just takes getting started. Eventually, you might find that your desire exceeds your husband's, but that'll be ok.
2007-07-12 15:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your doctor gave you Lexapro, that would suggest there is more going on than low sex drive. The Lexapro is likely to make that worse, not better.
The sex drive in both men and women is driven primarily by the hormone testosterone. It declines gradually in women as they get older. You may need a little boost. Ask your doctor for this, and make sure you understand why you're on Lexapro. You may not need it.
2007-07-12 15:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lexapro, may also deminish your sexdrive. I took it, and it did not help mine. If you are on blood pressure med, it will also contribute to the loss of sex drive for women and men. I would check a herb book and see if they suggest anything natural first. If at all possible, I would check into a weekend retreat to rediscover love. I know they have them some places, but I do not have a list handy.( I am at work right now)
2007-07-12 15:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have fallen into a rut, especially if you have children, then its hard to concentrate on feeling sexy or having sex when your mind is on potty training or keeping toddlers out of stuff. The antidepressant may have made matters worse. I think you have to find your passion again, go back to what you used to do before, stop going to bed in just anything, stop wearing mommy clothes all the time, If you fix up, it helps you and it turns your man on. Also try new things, keep it exciting. Relax and let your mind fly free. Good Luck.
2007-07-12 15:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your doctor - the medicine may be making your sex drive less than what it already was. I think you need to start feeling good about yourself. Loose a few pounds if needed, start working out, color your hair -- do something for yourself. Once your self-confidence is back - you two will be hitting it off in no time. Stop blaming yourself -- Maybe call up a counselor and speak with her - it could be some underlying issue. Did you 2 argue, have disagreements regarding stuff.
Good luck.
2007-07-12 15:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Suzi 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yeah, tell your doctor it didn't work and get another doctor. You can't just medicate yourself without finding out what is going on. Did you have a check up? There are several medical conditions that cause a low sex drive including hormone issues. Thyroid and diabetes also will effect your sexual interest.
Get some medical help to rule anything medical out and then start seeing a counselor. Its possible you are depressed but just handing someone a prescription isn't going to tell you that.
2007-07-12 15:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
What about a mini-makeover? Some new sexy underwear and bra's - maybe a new haircut and some new makeup. Find stuff that makes you feel sexy - when you feel sexy it makes all the difference. We all get in a rut where we walk around the house in an old t-shirt and pj pants. Not sexy.
Do you exercise? I've lost a few lbs recently and I noticed a difference in myself - I have more energy and since my clothes are fitting nicer, I'm feeling good about myself.
2007-07-12 15:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
See your doctor. You could have a hormone imbalance that simple medication can take care of. You are much to young not to have a strong sex drive. Try some sented, edible oils for massaging... :-)
2007-07-12 15:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is actually some "viagra" type stuff for women...I find that I'm much more likely to rally if I'm well rested and not stressed so maybe its alifestyle change in your future-
2007-07-12 16:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋