They usually do this to further their career or save up money but the longer they wait, the shorter the time their children's grandparents will have with them.
2007-07-12 15:17:56 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
selfish???? it's their life and their marriage... it makes perfect sense to save up money first-- in fact, if anything that's fairer to the child
2007-07-12 15:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by cast.no.shadow 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Um, that's one way to look at it. But it's still the parents and/or married couples life. It's their money, yes. It's also their responsibilities that are coming with a child. And it's also whether or not they can even have a child. I mean, something with one of, or both of their bodies could make it so they can't have children. They might not have the money or the resources or anything else like that to give the child a good, healthy life. (And home, and future). And theres no guarantee that there even IS a grandparent. So no, I don't think they're being selfish. I think in some ways they're being smart
2007-07-13 11:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not at all, its their life. that isn't a fair thing to say at all, this way they get their life together, its better for the child too, they would be comming into a very secure environment and yeah basically everythings in order with their parents lives, they actually are ready for a child, they've already lived together for a while and know they aren't going to divorce anytime soon, i mean they say the first 3 years are the hardest right? and having a child will probably make them feel trapped if it didn't work out, so yeah its smart, i think if any "grandparent" said that, i would totally be pissed, that would be selfish of them, that just would be totally out of place if anyone said that
2007-07-12 15:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sofia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think theyre selfish. I think it depends on their purpose for waiting so long. I mean if a couple is waiting for a couple years to further their career and have enough money to support their growing family, then i wouldnt call that selfish. But there are couples who completly focus on their careers and bank accounts a bit too much and when they FINALLY get to where they wanna be, theyre kinda "old" to have children (no offense to anyone).
2007-07-12 15:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by Buттerfℓyεїз 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
isee what your saying but, i think it would more so be selfish for the grandparent to pressure the couple into having children befor they are ready. being a parent is hard enough, having kids to early is even harder. if a parent waits untill they feel they are really ready it will make it much easier on the children as well
2007-07-12 16:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general having children or not is for selfish reasons. But waiting to have kids a couple years isn't any more selfish then wanting kids. Now having a kid at 60 that is a different story. I have two kids who are now grown. My hubby and I waited two years to have kids. Wanted time to ourselves first. Selfish - perhaps, but good too.
2007-07-12 15:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to enjoy each others company before having children. It all depends on what there finances are too. Children are expensive. The grandparents will be happy just to get gran kids at all.
2007-07-12 15:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. As a newly wed I know that I want to enjoy my time with my husband right now. Plus were finishing up school so to bring a child into the situation right now,with less money, would be selfish.
2007-07-12 18:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In case you didn't know, some people (like me) don't want to have kids.
There's nothing wrong with that, either.
It's also not selfish-- the couple may feel as if they won't make good parents.
Couples who do not have children often turn out very happy.
For exapmle, I know a couple who doesn't have kids. And guess what? They're multi-millionaires. Not bad, if you ask me.
2007-07-13 03:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by tillbaka i tiden 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really. The life span of people nowadays has gone up to 80. Giving them grandchildren when i can't hardly support myself is even more selfish. I can't give the best to my children i could and leaving them in the hands of no one? Isn't that worse?
2007-07-12 16:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Troy Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody can say when a couple is comfortable enough to
bring another life into this world. I was married at age 24,
and waited until i was 30 to have children. i wanted to make
sure i got to do things i wanted to before kids come along and i don't get the chance. i also wanted to make sure i was
mature enough to be a mother. my father died 6 years before my 1st son was born, i wish he would have got to meet him but i don't regret waiting, and i think i'm a better mother for it.
i live and breathe for my kids.
2007-07-12 15:24:20 · answer #11 · answered by Mary S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋