I'm just venting, you don't have to read this.?

Question

I am so disgusted in myself for crying. Who do I think I am? There are so many people who have it worse than me. I mean yes, Grandma has pancreatic cancer, and dad needs a kidney transplant, mom is telling me I have an "attitude" Chelsea is really messing with the wrong crowd, grandma and grandpa (dads side) are getting really old and live in another country- we dont even speak the same language, so it isn't like I can spend time with them or call them. I feel like I'm falling apart, my friends all went away for the summer, I have no way of contacting them.(cant check their emails, phones, ect) I have to face the fact that boys will never like me, i'll never be pretty and my family will never respect me. yes, I can truly say that I am hating myself right now. I'm done, you don't have to answer if you took the time to read this whole thing.I was just venting in a random topic.

Answer 1

i know how you feel. just about. not completly but i know. i as a person am physicly messed up and my parents don't know. i know something is wrong but i'm embarassed. my mom is furious with me for one stupid thing and another that she has a reason for, and then guy i like just told me that he likes a different girl. no one responds to anything i say, and those who do can't be there. life gets hard. sometimes it helps to know that someone knows what your going through even if they can't do anything. i wish you luck and hope things get better for you.

Answer 2

Honey, everything is going to be okay.

There's no reason to be disgusted with yourself. The issues that you are dealing with are important, and valid.

I know how you feel, because I've been there. My grandfather died, my other grandparents live on the other side of the world, and they can't read English, let alone emails. But it sounds like you and your entire family are going through a really tough time right now. Please don't let arguments among each other get you down too. I know that your family does indeed love and respect you, and try your best to give them a little wiggle room if they don't always treat you as well as they should: they're probably feeling awful and worried too, half of the time.

As for not being pretty and boys not liking you... I know this seems difficult right now, but please trust me when I say that things get better. As someone who knows exactly where you're at, I really need you to believe that who you are as a person, and what you look like, are actually beautiful and good. I know you're getting pulled in a million different directions, and you feel like you have to be perfect in every possible way... but really, it just isn't true. You have to find what you love to do, the way you love to live, and just live it. When you're happy with yourself, it shows. And that's the most attractive quality possible in a human being, not prettiness.

I would know. I was so worried about being perfect and pretty that I sank into bulimia and depression. I don't mean to imply that that's what will happen to you (it probably won't, and I certainly hope it doesn't), but from personal experience I can tell you: it just plain isn't worth it. Worrying about looking pretty all the time, worrying about attracting boys, and trying to take care of everyone else all the time... it's just not possible for one person. And it doesn't need to be. *You don't have to be perfect to be beautiful, wonderful and lovable.*

But I guess these are just random ramblings from some internet person, and I really hope that you'll seek comfort in your family. You sound like you're carrying so much burden on your shoulders right now, and it seems like it will at some point overwhelm you... it doesn't have to be that way. I hope you feel better soon, and that your grandma and dad get well, and please email me if you ever feel the need (you can message me from my profile).

Answer 3

First of all it's a good thing that you cried, cause all of that just had to burst through you somehow and holding it in won't do you a bit of good; glad to hear that you cried, besides crying is good for the soul and cleanses your eyes.
Who do you think you are: You think you're a woman with too much to handle right now and that's what you are. Now the good news is it won't last; nothing ever lasts. It may not seem like it right now; it is going to get better - remember it's always the darkest before the dawn and that light is down at the end of that tunnel and it's waiting for you to find it.

Answer 4

I dident looka t your pics. Looks dont matter. His mom is trying to keep the sparrow in the nest and you are the Wind beneath his wings. His mom WILL eventually come to accept you when she see's how happy and how much more full and satisfying his life has become. Then "MOM" will come full circle to get her son just back into her life and with the FULLNESS of the understand that YOU are the "Center Piece" of his life not her. Gen2:24 Matt 19:5 Mark 10:8 1 Cor 6:16 Eph 5:31 ALL THESE BOOKS STATE THIS FACT Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Answer 5

Well, its called life, you just have to deal and confront your problems. If your not happy right now do something about it. Try to learn another language, relax, do yoga, or something. If you can't hang out with your friends, make new friends. There is number of things you can do. You dont feel pretty, well manicure, pedicure, new summer hairstyle will help. Try new things...

I can't say I've been there, but I have had problems well I have felt like I was falling apart. YOGA super helps.

Answer 6

Keep your head up. It may seem like everything is coming down on you, but it will get better with time.

Do something right now to forget about it. What ALWAYS makes you feel better? Whatever it is -- just do it. I like going to the movies. It helps to be lost in another story to forget about your own for a while. And if thoughts of your dilemmas pop into your head, push them out as best you can.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Hey, sweety, I love ya. You have guts enough to vent to the whole world. lol That is pretty brave--in my book. Can you think of any hobbies for the summer. Do you like reading. Maybe go to the library and get yourself a book. Books are a good escape--can take you into a whole different world---or around the world. Just be brave--like you were just now--to vent. Just remember that some old woman loves ya. ;-)

Answer 8

Teen hu.................. you sound like you are under a lot of pressure from moving, family members having bad health, and total chaos in the house hold do to all those things. no one has time for you at home and you have no friends were you are now moved to. am i right? Hun take a deep breath and let the tears flow then take a nap and you will find that you will fill a little better but it wont last in less you try and keep your chin up and get involved were you can. try not to take some things to personal but most of all try to keep Bessy.......... for me it helps when i am down. i hope that help you some.

Answer 9

i know how you fell, my parents are not in the best of shape and unfortunatly both sets of my grandparents are gone. Just remember that there is always tommorrow to have a better day. I also felt that there was no man for me in this life, and now i have two to choose from. That just gives proof that there is someone out there for everyone. Cry your heart out and fell better. :)

Answer 10

how you are right now is ok
it is ok to be a mess when we are a mess

no need to think of the future
or to think that it is going to be better in the future
it might not be better in the $#@@# future

how you are right now is ok
it is your right to be so
and anyone who tried to positive think you away from being you is just afraid to be with life as it is

the way it is is ok love.

who knows ...you might be right...
certain boys might not like you
(boys are stupid azzes sometimes anyway)
you might not be pretty .....
some people are so called "pretty" and others are not

some people might think i have a face that only my mother would love
and she is pretty pizzed at me right now!
whatever

it is ok to be you and to like or loathe yourself
it is part of being alive right now and to be you
anything else would not be you

got your vent .....
and raise you a vent!