They have been together for three years and have two children. They have gone down this road numerous times and just keep stearing back down the same road. He constantly keeps quitting his job. He has not had a job for three weeks. The last time he went without a job is was six months. They do not qualify for unemployment. My friend does.. But only if she leaves him. He has another kid that he never paid an once of child support until he was forced to by the government. His mother has been covering his butt. Paying for everything absolutely necessary. They have burned all bridges. They have been evicted. He has no licensed for refusing to pay tickets. All he does is sit at home and play video games. They have undergone interventions, marraige counselling, separations. etc... He always promises to change but returns back to former behaviors. Every time he manages to get worse. The last time he actually put his arms on her and shook her for touching his PS3. Please what should she do?
2007-07-12 15:14:53 · 16 answers · asked by teah47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, it sounds like she has 3 children to raise. I would leave him and tell him that after he gets his life in order,then maybe they can make it work.She shouln't feel like she has to stay. A good marriage takes two,not one.
Pitch the video games in the trash along with him......
2007-07-12 15:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Patty C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You reported your husbands a heavy pot smoker. Google pot to ascertain the way it transformations pot human beings who smoke brains. Your husband does not comprehend what hes asserting even nevertheless he sounds like he ability what he says. you ought to take a seat quietly no longer arguing and tell him which you rather desire to be with him yet you like him to hunt for help to get of the weed. It wont ensue over evening yet while he makes the 1st step to the drs then thats a initiate. once you communicate advise what you assert and what you like out of your existence. you ought to remember that those little ones are going to advance up with a father thats no longer likely to coach them that smoking pot isn't the existence that they must be residing As mothers and dads we are those that provide our infants the suitable and incorrect messages. If hes no longer keen to alter then its your job as a function kind and mom to take steps to bypass away him so as that your little ones to have a gamble at a extra suitable existence. Dont make excuses for a guy that cant be a guy.
2016-10-01 12:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by barrantes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much can be done. She picked the guy, then married him, then had 2 kids. Plenty of opportunities to know the truth and she kept her head in the sand.
2007-07-12 15:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must love this Guy. However. Only she can make the decision to leave him. When she has had enough she will go. The only thing you can do is be there for her.
2007-07-12 15:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she married him for whom she WANTED him to be and not who he really was. She married a fantasy and now blames him for not living up to that fantasy. Obviously SHE hasn't grown up and take responsiblity for HER choices since she CHOSE to marry him as he was. If she didn't want to marry the man he was then she shouldn't have taken those vows to begin with.
2007-07-12 21:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, you know what she should do. However you need to mind your own business and stay out of their lives.
2007-07-12 15:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a pat on the back for me for marrying the champ
2007-07-12 15:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes dont just stay for the kids it'll make them sad to if he really loved her he'd do it on his own
2007-07-12 15:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by DeAnn L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend have a job? What do you expect when all she does is fleece him?
2007-07-12 15:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by cynic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave.
what the hell did she stay so long for?
i know she has kids, but dang.. can't stay just for the kids sake.
2007-07-12 15:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋