problems in marriage?

Question

ive been having problems lately with my husband. We've been married almost a year come september 23rd and the past week he had to stop smoking pot cuz he got a DUI awhile back and has to take classes for it. But since he has quit it seems like im getting b****ed at every 5 min. sure some of it is my fault but he tells me to have common sense and get my head outta my ***. sorry we think to compleatly different ways when your not smoking. But my problem is ive been thinking bout getting a divorce but we have a 4 month old daughter and I dont wanna lose her and I know he will make me leave her here with him if i do leave. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

get counseling..

Answer 2

OK I don't have a kid of anything but I do know what you are going threw.When a someone stop smoking pot.They do have a mood change.because when a person does smoke pot a lot.they get use to it.and when they are high they are in a completely different world.so now that he isn't getting high.his personality haves change.but just give it time and everything will come together.after he gets use to for not being high everyday.but if things don't work out and you really want a divorce you can always go to court and you get the main guardian and he can have vistitation rights.and since he haves dui and everything i think you should be good with that

Answer 3

Most states lean towards the mother in parental custody but if he has a DUI and your recodes clean it shows some neglect on his part If he can drink or smoke and drive he can watch kids that way. I would recommend seeing a concealer but if that is out then there really is no other answer to be happy or live with the fighting. Never try separation most of the time it will lead to divorce. Good luck and hope it works out.

Answer 4

Every marriage has problems, working through them and sticking it out when tough times come is a must, because every marriage will encounter tough times. It is how you both deal with them that can make the difference between long term happiness or divorce.
He is not happy with the situation right now and is taking it out on you. The bible says a kind word turns away wrath. In other words, be selective in how you reply to him when he is picking on you. Reply, don't react.
Example of reaction..Yeah, well if YOU weren't a dumb *** and got a DUI...
Ex. of reply..John it's hurts my feelings when you say that, you know I'm not good at....
If you are serious about getting a divorce, speak to an attorney, he can't MAKE you give her up. He is the one who has been irresponsible in getting a DUI, and that is in your favor.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

if i were you i would give the marriage a chance. try counsiling or if you don't think he would be up to that then try telling him exactly how you feel. say things like "when you say these things to me it hurts my feelings" instead of "i hate the way you b**** at me". sometimes the way we say things can effect how others respond or take it. you are not in the wrong here and he is also doing a good thing by detoxing. try looking at it from his angle too. how would he feel if his marriage crumbled? how would YOU feel? more importantly, how would it effect the child? you guys are still newly weds and generally newly weds go through this type of thing. me and my husband did and we made it through the rough patch and have been married almost 4 years now. pray on it and if you really want it to work out, it will.

good luck!

Answer 7

I agree get counselling, he is experiencing withdrawals and yes he is thinking differently. Read up on the effects of smoking pot and how it can affect the brain and personality. It has been linked to many mental health issues due to the introduction of hybrid and hydroponic grown plants.
If he is being physically violent with you then you need to consider the safety of your baby and yourself as it is just not on. Being abused by another person is their lack of self control and they can convince their victim/s that they brought it on themselves. It is a very complex cycle and it is very hard to get out of as there are usually threats that frighten the victim into staying with them. I feel this might be the case here with regards to you saying "he will make me leave her here with him". He knows you will not leave her so you will stay. This is why you need to find help and support before someone is seriously hurt.
There are telephone numbers in the front of telephone books you can ring for help and support.
Best wishes and seek help now before it is too late.

Answer 8

Actually you could leave settle it out in court and the judge
will see that your a more fit parent. He has a DUI smokes
pot you can use all of that against him. So I would leave
as soon as I can.

Answer 9

I pitty your Daughter. Married for one year! You going to tell me you did not know how this guy was before you married him. Do you use drugs too?

You both were given a child. Its your responsiblity to raise it. This is not a request or a matter of nature. You and your husband performed an Act that God santifies it by giving a child.

I believe if this child is harmed, abused and grows up poorly on judgement day God will question the Parents.

What will you say?

Answer 10

Try doing something else together besides what u 2 uses to do. If you smoke of drink try to quite with him. Sometime its hard to just stop something you been doing for a long time. Its not as easy as it look. Hang in there things we get better with time.

Answer 11

First, he is being abusive and you should not accept this type of treatment as normal no matter what is causing it.

Second, how can he possibly make you leave your daughter? He is the one with the drug and alcohol problem. Do you have family that you can stay with? I am not saying you should divorce him; but, he is obviously not ready for a family.