she never talks 2 me about anything. the only way i know about my body is school health class. i taught myself how 2 shave and she picked out my first bra. she told me to keep supplies in my backpack for school. thats it! every time when someone asks if we ever talk about things my mom says i don't like to talk about it. she gave me a book but i like 2 be able 2 ask questions not read. even from a website. is there a way to ask her or another way to ask people questions beside were the world sees?
2007-07-12 14:14:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You can always talk to a doctor or a counselor at school. That's a pity that you can't talk to her. My kids can ask me anything. I don't make them feel ashamed about it. That's the way it should be.
2007-07-12 14:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a close family member or adult friend that you could ask? Not everyone is comfortable answering questions about sex and part of that is due to how their parents handled it. Kudos to you for wanting to be able to get answers - I see so many young people who just take sex way too casually and don't get their info first. In fact, if you can't find someone to talk to, you can email me directly at thejezowskis@yahoo.com. I have two kids with one more on the way, am 31 and I think I have a pretty good handle on how things work. My mom basically did the same thing and I took sex ed in 5th grade and honestly got nothing out of it. Nothing I hadn't read already that is. lol Best of luck in your search for answers and remember, I'd be happy to help you and if I don't know the answer I'll find it for you!
2007-07-12 21:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by thejezowskis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Casey, My mom was like this too Bless her heart. Anyway they didn't talk about things like this when my mom was growing up and that's what she learn on how to handle the TALK as they call it not to have the talk. I learn about girls periods and how our body changes, sex and all we should know from classes at school and from some of my friends. I just wished we could of had the talk when i needed it.Try to find a site that has open questions about things like this. That would help you out a lot. A Friend.
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2007-07-12 21:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by poppy1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and Soda pop. I learned "on the streets" or from asking friends and their Moms way back when. (I am in 40's). My mother still has not talked to any of her 8 kids about the "birds and the bees". I am very bold and like to talk with her but she finally answered why she didn't talk to us about it after 40 some years. Her mother died when she was 13 and back then you learned from your Mom and maybe she would talk with you. I guess that is why there is so many terms for body parts, where baby's come from, etc. NO one talked about it. I guess I never moved when she was pregnant with me and neither did my brother. It was not until she was pregant with sibling #3 who was very active that she rushed to OB/GYN and was concerned. I guess he thought she was a looney-tune. But then he understood he had never explained it and asked if my brother and I were "okay" (not mentally retarded. Well, we are both with very high IQ!
I have learned not to push my mother. I call her an "ostrich". The more questions I try to ask her about her childhood and my grandmother, who I am named after by the way, she shuts down. Her way of coping.
At least your mother gave you some advice and helped you with your first bra, etc. Maybe that is all she knows.
Ask a good friend's mother, another relative, or school nurse who you feel comfortable with and thank goodness for the internet now adays!
Just remember, I don't think it is because she doesn't love you but she may have her "issues" and try and find other topics of conversation and appreciate the time and things she does talk to you about!
P.S. My two nephews have a mother who was an only child and no cousins that were boys, so she was clueless as they are "maturing". So last summer I got out my nursing books and showed the pictures of EVERYTHING- male and female. They were 12 & 13 at time and VERY interested in having sex to be cool in school. What their friends had told them was Hilarious!! They did not know how to have sex!
So, I drew pictures and everything for them to understand==sort of didn't get it.. They kept wanting to get up from the table and when school started told all their friends that sex at that age was NOT Cool and girls COULD get pregnant, etc. (Also, showed them pics of diseases-- that really got them!!!) I even photocopied the pictures of diseases on male and female parts for them. One day I got a call from their school principal!!!! Come to find out--- all the boys and girls had copies or saw them and the sex talk STOPPED. The principal wants me to give the "sex talk" next year! LOL
But I am sure my nephews will be interested again but they can be safe and knowledgable. AND they also know what it costs for 18 years of support of a child!!!!!
2007-07-13 00:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mar S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say : Mom, I know you don't like to talk about but I have some questions about puberty. You gave me a book and I 've used websites but they just don't answer my questions and since you've already experienced it than you can help me out. Then you ask her whatever you have questions about and If she hesitates to answer then just say, mom, I know this isan awkward situation but I really need you right now and it will be helpful. It shouldn't be any harder than that. Good luck.
2007-07-12 21:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by ChocolateEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, try and ask her something completely ridiculous, like " is it true what Michelle says about jumping up and down to prevent pregnanacy? Hopefully she will see this as an indication for her to do her job
2007-07-14 23:22:23 · answer #6 · answered by D G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom is the one not comfortable talking to you. Do you have any former babysitters, friends' mothers, teachers, etc that you are comfortable talking to? If you have any questions, feel free to IM me and I'll do my best to help you out.
2007-07-12 21:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by immortality1231981 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is. My mom died when I was 12 and I wanted to talk too. So I talked to my older sis, my Aunts, and cousins, and my Granma. Hope this helps.
2007-07-12 22:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by soda_pop_girl000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to stop her in her tracks and say...we will talk about this ...please...."unless you want me seen at the local free clinic?..something like that Make her step up and stop pushing off it seems shes been dreading to deal with since you were born. good luck. remember just stay nice and go in with a written list to show how much it means to you dont give up:}
2007-07-12 21:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by misque77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do an internet search--you can find out any answer to anything, just beware of the source. Things ending in .org or .gov are most reliable; .com are least reliable.
2007-07-12 21:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Corozal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋