Ug! I understand that he's probably just curious about what they look like or what they're up to now or whatever, but the fact that he tried to delete history, and said it was "none of my business" when I asked if he had contacted them.
I feel like looking up my ex's...and adding them to my friends list, just to be an brat!
2007-07-12 13:48:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just to be AN brat?
WTF????? you say A brat when the word does not start with a vowell or in some cases is a word that sounds as if it starts with a vowell.
2007-07-12 13:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be upset! I can understand being curious but if he wants to look up ex's and delete the history he was trying to keep something secret. Which I look at as cheating. If he contacted those girls and they know what he was thinking and he knows what he was thinking but you dont-then they have a little secret now between the two of them and he has basically said their secret is none of your business!
You are his wife-you have every right to know if he contacted them and what he said. If he was so innocent in what he was doing then he shouldnt of cared if you had sit right beside him while he wrote the email.
Contact you ex's and put them in your top friends just for spite. Show him how it feels and start deleting all the history even when you just go online to do something meaningless like checking the weather. Show him how it feels and let him be the one looking for advice on what to do about it
2007-07-12 21:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly natural to be upset ... I would be pissed ... not at the fact that he was simply looking up his "ex's' to see what they have "they have been up to" .. that is one thing ... but when you obviously delete the history on your computer ... I mean ... come on guys ... don't act suspicious. That's why we get mad! If you are not doing anything wrong then why delete the history? In my opinion ... it's one thing to say yeah this is what i have been doing ... nothing to hide ... look if you want ... alright then ... but deleting history kinda damages the "trust factor" in the relationship. And if that is your Husband and you ARE indeed his Wife it is your business. You are eachothers business! Til death do you part .. uhmm or a divorce ... but anyways .... this is my opinion and mine alone ... agree or disagree... if it was my hubby i would be upset, but i wouldn't carry on and add my ex's out of spite. That will get you nowhere it wouldn't fix anything ... only add gas to the fire. I would tell him how it makes you feel ... if he listens he's worthy of being with you and if not ... well ... he probably doesn't give a sh*t.
Good Luck!!
And remember Karma Folks. What goes around comes around so beware of the 10 fold! :D
2007-07-12 21:25:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you being upset, and he may have hidden the fact because he new it would upset you, if he isn't hiding anything he should'nt be so secrative and tell you it's none of your bussiness, this is your bussiness, he is your husband, like i said, if he has nothing to hide and is not doing anythign wrong he shouldn't be deleting things and shouldn't be hiding anything he's doing, i'd have a big talk with him and tell him how your feeling and ask him how he'd feel if it were the other way around and you would of done that.
2007-07-12 20:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'll be honest, I've looked up ex's on facebook and I've even looked up one of my husband's exes. She and I are actually friends. I dont think there is anything wrong with him looking for them, so what? He married you didnt he?
However, the part where he deletes the history because he says it's "None of your business" is a concern. My husband has all my passwords to everything and he knows he can go and look whenever he wants, and vice versa. We just dont have anything to hide from one another. Personally anything that has to do with my spouse is my business.
Dont be immature and add an ex just to spite him. He might do something worse out of anger.
2007-07-12 20:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by DelinquentGurl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He knew you would react and you did just that. Its never a good thing to look back even for curious reasons.. like an ex anyone. Keep on the look out but do not nag at him or let it bother you right now.
2007-07-12 21:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by mahalga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been looking up his ex's on facebook as well...I think that is very rude and disrespectful of him to add them to your friend's list...Have you brought this up to him? Your feelings, that is? Sounds like he is hiding things from you...You should have a serious talk with him about this situation and hopefully he'll be honest....
2007-07-12 20:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Strawberry shortcake 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may have deleted the history because he knows how you would react, just like you did. But, I do wonder why he would even be interested in knowing about his exes. I would keep your ears open on that one.
2007-07-12 20:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by flashdman11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to grow up and move on. You have every right to be upset. The more you show him you are upset, the more he is likely to do similar things. My advice is to ignore him for awhile. Don't cheat or anything, just ignore him, and see what how he reacts to that.
2007-07-12 20:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by enbsayshello 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand him looking up his ex's to me thats not really a big deal....what gets me is why he was so sneaky about it and then ignorant once you comfronted him about it. So I would say that the way he acted gives you good enough reason to be upset
2007-07-12 20:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by Amy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋