My b/f & I were engaged after 2 months of dating, 6 months later, he postponed the wedding b/c of cold feet (claimed he wasn't ready).8 months after that I found text messages after he returned from an out of town interview to a girl I never knew existed until right before the trip when he mentioned meeting up with an old friend. The messages were flirty/he invited her to his hotel room with lingerie.He lied about the details of the messages while conforting me.She said nothing ever happened, but they were flirting our whole relationship. He was sorry & said he'll never do it again, a week later I found out he sent her pics of his __!But when I asked if he'd corresponded with her since his trip he denied it.I broke up with him after talking to her and confirming.He begged for me back and was so sorry. We're dating right now and he wants to get married next year. What do I do b/c I'm still not over it, as I can't help but think will it happen again and why did he lie to me so many ti
2007-07-12 13:28:19 · 11 answers · asked by lauralmiller13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would cut my losses sweetie. For one, you should've known that there was trouble when a guy proposes after only 2 months of dating. I mean - that's crazy and shows he doesn't really think through things before making decisions. I don't think he's mature enough for marriage and the trust between you is broken. I would move on and find someone else to date who is more mature.
2007-07-12 13:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bad, that is so aweful the things he did, and i don't blame you for still not being over it and not having as much trust in him as before, i really would put off getting married for awhile, i would tell him you don't want to be engaged or get married until you are sure this is what he wants and he can gain your trust back, i understand he had cold feet, maybe he was using this woman to see if getting married to you is really what he wants,,,,but until all the woman are out of his system i'd put getting married on hold, date for awhile and see if things change, he has a lot of making up to do.
2007-07-12 20:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are back together with this man why?
Obviously you are not over it. Until you are, I suggest you not marry this man, or even be in a relationship with him. It's obvious you dont trust him, and what kind of marriage will you have if there is no trust?
Of course he's sorry and it will never happen again, that's what they all say when they get caught.
2007-07-12 20:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by DelinquentGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Enough said. Regardless of what your heart thinks you need to listen to your brain. You deserve better, I promise. It doesn't sound like he is going to commit. If the two of you are meant to be together, leave him and maybe try again in a few years. He may just have some growing up left to do. Don't let him walk all over you in the meantime.
2007-07-12 20:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would give him the chance to run before I started shooting but that would be my only chance I gave him....LMAO....but seriously HECK NO I would not give him another chance. He will think he can continue to get away with it, and if she DID go to that room, I guarantee you that they DID do something. DO not be a mat for him to walk on, be strong, stand up and realize that you deserve SO much better. Hes trash and you will get over it.
Good luck!
2007-07-12 20:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi --
it's up to you whether you give the guy another opportunity again or not.
if it were me, and he messed up again, he'd be toast. i couldn't put up with a person who routinely sneaks around behind my back.
i'd also extend the engagement, not set a wedding date until you find out whether he is trustworthy or not.
that's my best advice, and i sure do hope things work out well for both of you.
hugs
2007-07-12 20:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go thru premarital counseling and hash out all those feelings. You can't ignore that...plus you probably don't know the full truth.
Please don't marry this man without counseling. He needs to figure out why he thinks it is okay to do what he did and what was he gleaning from that relationship...he needs to learn how to fill it himself...
2007-07-12 20:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you feeling happy when you write about this man? IF you are feeling sad or miserable, he probably isn't your guy.
2007-07-12 20:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by goodness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat. Kick his *** to the curb.
2007-07-12 20:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dirty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't marry a guy like that
2007-07-12 20:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by Discovery 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋