what to do if you tried everything in last five years to forget your first love but you cant.?

Answer 1

I got maried. Now I don't have time to think about future also.

Answer 2

You are perhaps not able to forget, because you don't Want to. You are holding on to her too hard. Is she married or is she still single? If she is single, does she know how you feel about her? If nothing can be done, and she is gone, and u truly feel you need to move on, you must sincerely make an attempt to give others a real chance.

You know, I know how love is. I am able to relate to you becoz I fear I might be the same way down the line, about someone I love.

Are you willing to use all your life in her memories, or do you truly want to move on and make a life of your own, have your own family... with someone who will return your love and be there for you.

It is your choice ultimately.

Memories can't be erased, but their impressions can fade with time. If you dont want it to fade, it won't. It is up to you.

I feel your pain.

Answer 3

You watch your journey into and out of the love. Do not force to forget. Just watch yourself when you try to forget. Forcing something on mind brings conflicts. Be aware of the fact that you had fallen in love with the person. You had spent very good moments wit each other. Try to observe yourself now into and when you first walked out of your love. Introspection will simply enhance your self-knowledge. Try to understand the definition of love. Love does not bind people. Is it not true that you wanted to own the person you loved. Love is never bondage. Experience the beauty of your love when you are free. Never think losing you love means defeat. It is other way round. experience the joy of love. Love is never understood from the point of view of ownership. We make mistake when we do that.

Answer 4

you cannot hide your past... you can however just let it go...trying to bury it with something else will never work... you must confront the true reason why you can not let go and do this without emotion because getting emotional is the trap it creates a steroid release from the brain to help soothe the pain and after awhile this can cause an addiction to the steroid released ... so you feel better for awhile and then subconsciously your mind starts to drift back in that direction and it is only doing it so the brain will release the steroid again[this is how people become chronically depressed] SO WITHOUT EMOTION YOU MUST ADDRESS THE REASON OR REASONS YOU DO NOT WANT TO LET GO... and every time your thoughts stray that way you once again must WITHOUT EMOTION ADD REES IT AND LET IT GO...if you keep getting emotional you are in for a long haul

Answer 5

Trying to forget can lead to total memory loss. Best try to remember all the good experiences you ever had. Start making lists and don't stop for at least a week for every year you have lived. Enjoy!

Answer 6

Never forget. It is part of who you are!

Take all that you did right, all about the first love that was so memorable and take it to the next step.

Find a new love to never forget!

Answer 7

I don't know if what worked for me will work for you, but I married my first love. We'll be celebrating 36 years of honeymoon on the 17th.

Sure, I'd had girlfriends before, many infatuations, and a few 'almost loves'; and have not forgotten a single one of them. My wife sometimes threatens to pack up me and all my stuff and send me to one of them!

Enjoy the memories. They will mellow with time.

Answer 8

I'd imagine what the next five years would look like if I didn't forget him. That would haunt me enough, I'm sure, to force me out of it.

Answer 9

don't forget about it. you had fun for the most part didn't you?
just be glad it happened and be thankful for the lessons you learned from the person and the great experiences. be thankful they taught you to love in the first place. don't be so heartbroken, it's life and you're growing.

Answer 10

Instead of trying to erase memories, try to put them in perspective. Whatever you think you could have done or should have done then, you can't go back and do over.

And don't keep wishing the other party had not made mistakes, or hoping he or she might realize they were wrong. If they ever do, fine, but don't count on it. Hope sustains us, but only if it's realistic.

Answer 11

Why would you want to? Your first love should always hold a special place in your heart. Don't let that experience hold you back but cherish it because it was something special.