Where to begin, so much to write and get of my chest so please bare with me..... I have been In a relationship for 10 years and we have had 3 children, our first born died 6 years ago, last year I suddenly realised/thought I know longer loved him and pushed him away...he was so devastated and he tried for 8 long months to win back my love but to no avail... The honest truth Is That I did love him and I have no idea why I pushed him away.. I hurt him very badly and It It something that hurts me to think about.. well anyway, he moved on and met a new girlfriend which I excepted..It was hard at first. He has been with her a month. The thing Is me and my ex have been sleeping together for the last 2 weeks, he says he wants to come home, and I want him to..I know what I have lost and ill never make that mistake again.. But he does not want to hurt ths other girl as she was there for him?? What do I do, shall I give up? .......Obviously I cant write everything exactly right, just the basics
2007-07-12 13:06:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not the end of the world for you. Tell him how do you feel about it. Try to propose for a better way for both of you to be together again. You have to wait for his decision as it is difficult for him to end their relationship that way. Give him ample time to think it over. But of course you also have to communicate withy him frequently. After your time table is over and he was not able to decide, then that's the time to give up and move on to the next chapter of your life.
2007-07-12 13:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First stop sleeping with your ex since at this point and time you are the "other woman" and if/when she finds out she will not only hurt but betrayed.
If your ex wants to truly be with you and start a life with you and your kids again then he needs to be honest with this other girl, let her go and be available to start a "new" relationship with you.
Losing a child is devastating to say the least and I can not imagine how hard it has been as well as probably a normal reaction to try and pull away from someone that was also linked to the child you have lost. It is a miracle that you have realized it at all let alone have the opportunity to possibly rekindle your love with your ex.
My heart goes out to you and I pray that if your ex leaves her you two can rebuild your lives and that if doesn't you are able to let him go and find your own happiness.
((((((BIG HUG))))))
2007-07-12 20:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda going through the same situation now. I dont know your whole story tho. With me it was a bad situation until we split up. I was devestated when we did tho, i begged him back for about 5 months, and with in those 5 months I met someone wonderful. You need to give more than basic info to get a good honest answer. With just what you said i think you should just say goodbye. There has to be a GOOD reason that you guys split and what you dont realize yet that once things are back to "normal" everything tends to slip right back into the way it was. And that has to be B_A_D!
Now as for me, I stayed with the wonderful one, filed for divorce, and the ex wants me back now. And yes it still hurts everytime I see a tear in his eye., but you have to live for you and your children, and not a nonproductive relationship.
Good Luck
2007-07-12 20:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years plus children vs 1 month. Not a hard decision. If this girl cared about him at all, she would let him go. Think of the baggage she would be getting!! You would do her a favor to take him back. Take him back! Talk it out. You have serious history and that is worth so much in the big picture. Believe me, 1 month is nothing, she will be fine!
2007-07-12 20:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by escher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and him have ten years and three children invested and they only have a month. he has to be honest with her , i'm sure she will be upset but after all...it's only been 1 month.
If you really love him work through it. Just make sure he is really going to end the girl and not keep her on the side.
2007-07-12 20:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've been sleeping together after the break up.... then i would think that there's a pretty decent chance. Or, he could be vindictive like me, and just be "with" you as a sort of revenge.
But when it comes down to it, just ask to take you back, and if he says no, then theres not much you can do...
2007-07-12 20:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by asdfasdf 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well if he wants to come home, and you really want him to as well, just tell him that! Only if you are sure tho, don't want you saying you want him back then turning round and deciding you don't want him afterall! If you are sure, just tell him you love him and don't know why you let him go, and leave it up to him whether or not he comes back.
2007-07-12 20:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by pablosgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to make a choice but also needs to hear from you that your not taking him back to just dump him later on.....He will need to know that before he lets go of this other girl.
2007-07-12 20:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been with the other girl a mth. And you 10yrs. This other girls doesnt mean anything and you better make sure he and she realizes it before you get back with him.
2007-07-12 20:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, you have to do what is in your heart. i have to say though, i question his motives. if he wanted to come back that badly, he would tell the g.f. right away. don't wait around for him to choose. is he the type that would try to get even?
2007-07-12 20:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋