my wife confessed to me that she had sex with seven men before meeting me. I can't get the images out of my head, on the other hand I'm not sure I believe her. I have asked her for their names, I intend to call them to find out if she's telling the truth.
2007-07-12 12:57:03 · 41 answers · asked by Johnny Guano 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it go. Your wife has had a fairly normal sex life prior to her marriage. She had a right to live her life however she wanted to. There's nothing illegal about it, and personally, I think there's nothing immoral about it either. My assumption is that you were a virgin prior to your marriage. If not, then not only are you being unfair, you're being a real hypocrit.
When I first read the question, I thought you were talking about something serious. I thought you were saying that during your marriage she had affairs (since that's typically what "affair" means).
Really, the green monster has gotten hold of you. Your obsession is a bit scary and weird. I'd recommend therapy.
P.S. let me quote an answer you gave someone else on another question:
"love the married ignoramuses on here..."it's okay only if youre married"...for 3/4 of human history, 'marriage' didnt exist...so if sex was a 'sin' then the human race wouldn't have advanced very far, would it? My advice to you is, live your life, talk to a lot of people, read, experience things for yourself."
2007-07-12 12:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas C 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Lol sir theres no point in asking the men that your wife shared her body with before you with if your woman is lying or not. Who in their right mind will lie about somthing like that unless they purposely want to end the relationship but are too coward to verbally say so. And sir if you have a problem believing your woman 9x of10 the two of you had trust problems period...or maybe its you. If your woman told you such a thing the next thing for you to do is to decide if you wish to proceed with the relationship or kick her to the curve. Although shes done nothing wrong to you since it was prior to your relationship and you cannot seem to get passed the fact, the two of you need to discuss the next move or else someone is going to get hurt and you'll be writing a series of these on Yahoo! Answers. Kudos to you for allowing me to talk my head off lol.
Love ya and best wishes!
P.Dub
2007-07-12 13:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a wuss or what, so what if she had sex with men before you were married, were you a virgin? even if you were, what happened then happened. do you not trust her or feel you can measure up to the past lineup????? Why call them, that would make you look like the biggest fool in the century, maybe she told you that to get a little jealousy, a little attention, women do that sometimes, stupid as it is. Blow it off and give her the Mack Daddy of all, she wont be thinking about those past men anymore::::)))))))
2007-07-12 13:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine some complete stranger calling you about your ex girlfriend out of the blue and wanting to know if you had sex with her? Man, that would be a werid phone call to get. If my husband decided to do something like that and go phoning up my ex-boyfriends to ask whether I'd had sex with them, I'd be embarrased by his tacky behaviour. If I knew he was going to do that, I would not give him the information to allow him to do that.
Just give it a little time. It's hard to get it out of your head right now because it's news to you, but eventually it won't be news anymore and you will think about it less and less. You can ask her not to bring the subject up; that may help. Remember, what matters is that she's with you now and she's faithful now. Be glad she's being more open with you now and she felt comfortable enough with you to tell you something that I guess she's probably been afraid to tell you. That's a good sign for your relationship, actually.
2007-07-12 13:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
And so you want to turn yourself into a neurotic man who will eventually wreak his marriage.
These men were all before she met you and surely you had other women before you met your wife. Yet she is not obsessing about them. It would be insane to do so, you cannot change the past.
One of the few questions that you should never ask your sexual partner is about their past sexual partners. Do you want your wife comparing you to her past lovers, do you want to compare your wife to yours. Do you want to compare your wife's love making skills to a porn star like Jenna Jameson? This is the door that you are opening when you worry about her past lovers.
As long as they are past and not current lovers then I wouldn't worry about them. The relationship between you and your wife is here in the present and has been an on going one since you committed to each other. You cannot hold her and she cannot hold you responsible for what happened before you made a commitment to each other.
The best thing you can do is to forget the other men and never ask a question like this again.
2007-07-12 13:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And what would calling them do? She is with you now and the past doesnt matter. Its what the present and future is. Let it go, there are bigger things to worry about!! And how can they be affairs if she was not with you? Did she say she cheated seven times? Or she was with seven different guys?
Depending on her age, that is not bad at all!
2007-07-12 13:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by A C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An affair is when you are MARRIED and you CHEAT on your spouse...
If you wife had sex with 7 men before you then that isn't an affair.
Let it go...did you think you were her first?? I don't get it. If you called those men they may not even remember who your wife is or say "are you kidding me"....
how old are you?
2007-07-12 13:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait.. are you from the 1800's or india or something? You really expect the majority of women nowadays to come to you being a virgin and never being touched by another man?
Sweetie- wisen up. This is the 20th century- it happens. People have lives before they meet you.
This sounds like your problem- no hers. You need some counseling for your selfesteem and jealousy issues.
And i wont even go there regarding you calling her exes haha... holy freaking psycho behavior.
2007-07-12 13:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know, so what! Those men were before you and what matters is that she found you and settled down. It's not like she's going through a little black book to find their numbers to call them up! You should respect her honesty. She obviously trusts and loves you very much or she would never have told you.
2007-07-12 13:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing? Geez man she had a life before meeting you, so what?
What she had with 7 men or not is none of your business because you were not part of her life then. She chose to share it with you (who knows why) and now you are acting all nuts about it.
She is your wife because she loves you. Why make drama where there isnt any?
If by chance you are kidding...huh gotta wonder about you still!
2007-07-12 13:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋