men of the world why is it than when a man works his hardest to provide for family gets no love at all?

Answer 1

Casey, It does happen.

Jmarine4life, i may be wrong but im going to assume that your wife keeps coming to you complaining about one thing or another wanting you to spend more time with her, saying that you don't do anything for her and just maybe seems to be always looking for proof that you love her.

Problem is a lot of women don't understand that men want thier families to be healthy and happy and feel that the primary way for us as men to show this is going out and working as hard as we can to provide a good life for them, and that if the family sat back and thought about it they would realize that 90% of everything you do in your life is to make sure they are happy.

Answer 2

It has to do with how men and women are wired differently.

Men are brought up to be responsible and masculine, which include serving our country and providing for our family and our fathers teach us about work ethics. Even our mothers, who might complain (see) about their husbands, teach us to be more or less the same men as others.

WOmen, on the other hand, are filled with emotions, which is not based on logic. A woman who complains about unhappiness would be hard pressed to give you a list of things you can do to make her happy again. No matter what you do just ain't it. When a woman says she is not happy, nothing you can do to reverse it because she wants to hang on to their unhappiness to justify something drastic.

Incidentally, it is women who have some stability begin to find that part of their life "unhappy". They don't understand that stability comes from the long hours their husbands work and the modern day workplace is no Hawaii but filled with stress, competition, and threat of laid offs. If you don't have a 9-5 well paid job and come home to hold their hands, women just say they are unhappy.

Now and then there are military wives complaining around here and they have affairs and divorces because they are so lonely. But they want their happiness to be the soldiers' number 1 concern even though the husbands are sweating bullets in the field.

And you know the consequences.

Answer 3

Because he puts work first. When a man comes home he generally doesn't want to do anything, or did that when the relationship first started, and when he realizes it it's too late.

When a good husband who works and has a family comes home from work he can do some of the following things to ensure hsi family is reminded that he does it for them:

- bring home a gift every once in a while for his wife, and children. be a treat like icecream, or a fun movie to watch, or a bunch of roses for his wife, and a inexpensive candy bar or toy for his children.

- Make plans and keep them, working men dont make plans, so whent he weekend comes up and they want to do something, their children or wife have already made plans, not nessecarly what thy wanted to do, so tehy feel they aren't doing anything they want to do.

-snuggle and huggle the wife, and the children even if they are teens, many adult teens stil lhug their parents.

-during movie time, offer to make the popcorn, or get yoru wife a drink of soda, or icewater, or whatever, and sit and hold her the entire movie, or hold your kids on your lap, or if your kids are older, let them pick the movie, even if you dont want too.

- Women work really hard, at home, even if they are working too. Women do the things men dont evne think have to be done, including but not limited too, cleaning the shower/bath tub, dusting, cleaning the couchs, coffee tables, behind the toilet, inside the refridgerator, cooking, making goodies, grocery shopping, doing laundry, cleaning cob webs, cleaning the dog, mopping the floor, cleaning out the stove, and microwave, doin gthe dishes, cleaning out the vacuum, wiping down the television, cleaning out the fireplace, cleaning in the couch cusions, weeding out the garden, cleaning up the kids rooms, hanging up clothes, ironing clothes, cleaning ou tthe filter in the dryer, cleaning the stairs, wiping down the windows, cleaning the blinds, cleaning off lampshades, getting the bugs off the screens, and off the window sills, picking up the things around the house, and much much more. that the husband tends to forget, that life isn't just what you see, msot women will not clean infront of theri husbands. so husbands almost NEVEr see the extent. and they hardly notice the wifes, intentions.
so unless you're prizing your wife, for all those little things she does, dont expect much in return....

Answer 4

You write like you are hurting a great deal. You are working hard and think that no one cares or at least the one you want to care is not connecting in a way that you want.
Many men are working hard and being appreciated by their partners and vise versa and that is not happening for you. There are many possiblities for answers to your question, culture and family history have much to do with your question.
My hope is that you know that your worth as person is not defined by another person. My suggestion is that you find a person who you trust that you can talk to without being intoxicated in some fashion, friend, counselor, clergy.... Feeling abandoned is hard and you sound like you know a great deal of loss. Thanks for your sacrifices and please know that you need to take some time to heal.
Just a thought.

Answer 5

I don't agree with your general premise. If, however, you are talking about yourself, consider this: your family may want from you things that don't involve money. For example: caring, affection, willingness to listen, willingness to participate in activities with them, a concern for their emotional growth, taking time to be with them, being able to give them your full attention while you are with them. I can imagine that living with someone who devotes most of their waking hours and energies to things or activities outside the family would leave me dissatisfied with the relationship.

Perhaps you would learn something important if you took the time to sit down with each member of your immediate family and ask them what would make them happier and more satisfied with the relationship (if you are talking with a child you probably should phrase the questions differently, but you get the idea.)

Answer 6

Women actually appreciate physical expressions more than expensive stuff,though they like that stuff too. When a man works all the time to provide,he's always tired. he doesn't hug her,tell her he loves her,their sex life declines. A woman who feels loved can be happy with very little.

Answer 7

My man works hard to provide for us. I also work hard to take care of our children and the home. We love each other for who we are and not so much what we do.
I must admit I get upset if my husband would rather work than spend time with me because its extra cash.

Answer 8

Everyone can not express feelings ,so in family they loves u and respect u because they know they r because of u .so don't think negative and just love them and live for them . If everyone live for each other it will become one happy FAMILY.

Family is like sport ,every player can try to win then result will come positively otherwise they think like u then team never willl be win .

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear that.

Get your mom/sister/cousin/friend's wife to buy a book for your wife by Dr. Laura called 'The Proper Feeding & Care of Husbands'. It's kept my marriage strong. Honestly, some women don't even realize what they're doing.

Answer 10

I heard this all the time when I worked at the prison, guys would ***** about their wife wanting more money for kids, clothes, the house, whatever, then when they tried to work a parttime job, or pull some overtime, their wife would ***** cause they were neverrrrrr homeeeee....whats up with that, if you aint getting no love, maybe you should rethink your work and relationship involvements....a man has got to have respect in his home.....if he deserves it of course!