Advice please...?

Question

My fiance and i have been trying to have a baby for a little over a year and a half. I have had one miscarriage so far. It took me eight months to get pregnant the first time. That miscarriage was hard on me and now i think that i will never have a baby. If anyone has any adivce for me i would really appreciate it.

Answer 1

I totally understand your pain Sweetie. I had a miscarriage last year and now we're trying again too...it's been 5 months and nothing yet.

My advice would be to keep trying. You know you can GET pregnant, that's the good news. For some couples, conceiving means more work than simply tossing out birth control. With each pregnancy, you start the clock over...so how long ago was your miscarriage? Was it a year and a half ago or sooner than that? If it was within the last few months, it can take your body some time to heal. Being fertile right after pregnancy or miscarriage DOES NOT apply to everyone. My miscarriage was in December, and I didn't start to totally feel like my old self until about a month ago. I feel it may happen soon now because my body needed the time. So if your miscarriage was sometime this year, just keep trying and give your body the time it needs. When it gets to be a year from your miscarriage date, then go see a fertility specialist to see what he/she can do to help you along.

Good luck and hang in there. ((((Hugs))))

Answer 2

I feel for you...I also miscarried when I was first pregnant and it took awhile for me to get pregnant again. Miscarriages are common, some say up to 25% of first pregnancies end in one but that statistic did nothing to make me feel less devastated, and I know what you are going through.
Remember that there are lots of techniques nowadays to help people concieve. You have passed the mark where most drs would refer you to a fertility specialist if you need one. Most ob/gyns say that if you are under 35 you can see one after about a year. The fact that you got pregnant once, even though you miscarried, is actually a good sign that you CAN have a baby. After all, you concieved one, now maybe a specialist can help you do it again and allay some of your fears.
I have had lots of friends who succeeded on clomid and one of my cousins had invitro done three times, each successfully. All went through lots of tests to see if there was something wrong that could be corrected and all worked out wonderfully. I would go see a fertility doc...you might get some specialized help if you want it or even just some reassurance. I'm sure you will have a baby, a nice happy and healthy baby the second time around...so try not to worry!

Answer 3

Either in Redbook or Good Housekeeping this past month, there was an article about a couple who kept trying to have a baby despite genetic problems from the dad. When you've read their story, tell me you don't have the fortitude to stand up and try again. If I remember, they had 9 miscarriages. They'd pay any price to have a child. Will you?

I know miscarriage is hard. I lost a child halfway from unknown reasons. That was 15 years ago and I still cry. But don't let it keep you from trying again. If you don't conceive soon, go see a specialist. But if your dream is to have a child, you'll give it more effort.

It's my opinion, but baby deserves both a mom & dad, committed to each other, committed to their child.

Answer 4

ok, first of all, your much more likelly to have another baby, because first of all, you have all ready had one, plus unfortunatelly you had a miscarriage, sorry for your loss, so if you think about it your really not having any problems getting pregnate. the best advice is just relax dont stress your self out over it, and it will happen again on its own time. and with you probably sooner. i know woman who are 40 years old and are still trying to have a baby, so remember theres woman out there much worse off then you.. me and my wife have been where you are, so i do know where your coming from. , but just be positive, i believe every thing will be fine for you

Answer 5

sounds like you and your fiancee are putting a lot of pressure on having a baby. RELAX!! miscarriages are one of the hardest things anyone can go through, but try and have faith. it'll happen when it's time. if in a year or so nothing happens see a specialist. until then, you and your fiancee should just enjoy each other.

Answer 6

Take it in stride, stress hampers your ability to ovulate and conceive. Everyone tells me to "stop trying so hard" but I know it is hard to not try when you have already experienced a little piece of that great joy. I understand your feelings personal experience hampered me for a while after my MC. Good luck to you and lots and lots and lots of baby dust. Now smile and go out there and get yourself a baby! Woo Hoo! Think Positive!

Answer 7

Why is it that people who want babies have so much trouble when others who shouldn't or don't want them have them so easily? There really isn't much advice I can give except stay strong and positive (as much as you can), eat healthy, take vitamins and exercise daily. When it happens it will happen, try not to stress too much about it because when you stop worrying it almost always happens. I know easier said then done!

Answer 8

See a dcotor for a fertility test and keep trying. If you find out you can't have a baby think about adoption.

Best of luck and sorry for your loss

Answer 9

at least you know you can get pregnant..thats really good! if you got pregnant the first time you will be pregnant again..just try to relax and hopefully you will be soon!!