I'm going out tonight w/o my husband. I'm not telling him, I'm not asking him and I'm not answering my cell phone when he calls me. I'm also gonna come home at 3 am so damn drunk, I wont be able to walk up my stairs to bed.
This is one of several scenarios that he does to me, and just once, I want him to know how it feels. In a way he already knows I am going to do this, I told him that someday I would return the favor; well, tonight I am doing it.
I know its childish, but I say, "whatever" to that. He obviously don't care when he does it to me, so why should I care? Maybe a taste of his own medicine will wise his a s s up a bit.
2007-07-12 11:56:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I honestly think it's just going to start a "one up on you" war.
But if you want to go through that drama it's up to you.
I do agree you shouldn't do anything you don't want your partner doing. Double standards or two different sets of rules don't "fly" with me. However, I do not believe two wrongs make a right either, and I believe whatever we do comes back to us 10 times over (usually), and it doesn't matter what excuse we use for doing it. I've found that it's a waste of my precious time and energy to conjure up ways to get back at somebody, when I could be spending all of that time and energy on something positive for ME! Good luck, though....but if you do it, be ready for Karma to come knockin', Hon. She always does. Only you can say whether it's worth it or not.
2007-07-12 12:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the old saying goes that two wrongs don't make a right. All of this could only make matters worse and the point is that he needs to respect you! I would be better than how he is treating me because he will only use it to his advantage to go out himself again. I know how you are feeling and I would be mad and angry to but.........he would have to stop his behavior if he wanted me to stay in his life. Doing what you are about to do will not fix the problem you are having with your husband. I would stand up to him and let him know that if he ever comes home again at 3 am and drunk that his clothes will be packed and sitting on the front porch! Infact I would take preventative measures and call a marriage counselor and make him go to know that you mean bussiness. Remember that when you do this you have to make a believer out of him and stand on your word. Partying and drinking will ruin a marriage and this has got to stop! If your husband is driving home in the middle of the night he could get into an accident and you would lose everything you both have......it isn't worth it sweetie so put your foot down now and take charge ....instead of going out this might be the time for the both of you to communicate. Best wishes.
2007-07-12 14:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it will work, maybe it won't. What if it doesn't change him and it just gets worse? You are right...it is childish. Playing all these games is just not what a marriage is supposed to be. There is something deeper going on and you need to find out what it is. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-12 12:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta do what you gotta do. But you are incorrect, it won't wisen him up....in fact I'd be surprised if he cared at all. However, make sure you drink plenty of water while getting trashed. This will help you remain hydrated throughout the night and will lessen the hang over.
2007-07-12 12:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have said I was going to do this before too but have never done it. I just don't like being sneaky or underhanded just because someone else is. I would prefer to be a good person despite what they do.
2007-07-12 12:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are in a marital tug-of-war and it's quite childish, really. You must both be very young!
What you plan to do is simply to act as dumb and as irresponsibly as he does.....What the heck for? Do you really think it will change his attitude? I don't think so....
Perhaps you should consider a more mature path for yourself. Try to evaluate if you love him in order to try to patch this marriage up; or if it's time to call it quits. Good luck.
2007-07-12 16:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge may make you feel better temporarily, but all it really does is lower you to the level of the person who wronged you. Tell him what you think about what he is doing, but don't stoop to bad behavior just to get back at him.
2007-07-12 12:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your validating his actions. Not to mention your stooping down to his level.
I would never do this to someone. I would sit them down and talk to them about it. Look at it this way.
Would it be right for you to cheat on him if he cheated on you? I know, drastic, but honestly- do 2 wrongs make a right?
It won't wise him up at all. Men are pride full creatures. He will think its OK.
2007-07-12 12:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by ksewell999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that if he does it to you, then he deserves it back 10 fold. That being said, it is also infantile of you. I know where you are coming from and I certainly do not blame you for wanting to give it back to him, but then what???
Suppose he does something worse trying to one up you?? Where will it all end?? It's just something to think about.
2007-07-12 12:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the most childish thing I've ever heard from an alleged 'adult'.
But...."Whatever".
See you back here for the results. Maybe.
2007-07-12 12:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋