when some one send you an invitation to a wedding and they say monetary gifts are preffered.
They behave like because they invited you to their wedding you must give a gift.
Person's fail to realise that when they invite someone to their wedding it is to celebrate their special day with them not to hoard gifts.
I know that gift giving is traditional and very nice, don't get me wrong.
2007-07-12 09:42:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I don't get the bridal registeries either.
2007-07-12 10:06:23 · update #1
Cookie I am not against giving a gift, it's a good tradition. I am trying to say let people decide what they want to give. I too would give money as a present but that decision should be mine to make.
Also who wrote the rules stating that we should at least pay for our plate.
If things are that way then it no longer is a wedding but a reservation at a fine restaurant.
i hope you understand where I am coming from.
2007-07-12 10:14:03 · update #2
Questions about asking for money in the invitation, and putting registries in the invite are posted on the Weddings section of Yahoo Answers almost every day. And, the response is always "Don't do it, it is tacky and rude".
There should never be mention of gifts, registries, cash or any other sense of obligation in a wedding invitation. NEVER. If someone prefers money for a gift, they tell their immediate family and bridal party, so they can spread the word if someone asks. Bride and Groom also should not register at any registries if they prefer cash. No registries is a pretty clear indication to guests that you dont need any more "Stuff".
So, yes...I think it is extremely rude. I either would not attend...or I would attend and not give a gift. I'm not paying to attend your party, and you shouldn't tell me what to bring. You are asking me to be a guest and to share your celebration, not pay for the event. Gifts are chosen by the giver, given from the heart and should be received with gracious thanks and appreciation for the gesture, not the monetary amount or the size of the box.
2007-07-13 01:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's rude as well as bridal registries
To Jon's Girl - That is not true to "pay for your plate" only in NY and NJ do we do this because we are looked upon like cheap if we do not. that is not etiquette. Down South weddings are celebrated differently , very nice but much less expensive and elaborate
2007-07-12 16:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the bridal registry i just find absurd. the monetary gift thing has two sides to it. in certain cases such as where the couple is leaving the country immediately after the wedding, the may not be able to take with them what ever non-monetary gifts they recieve. therefore it makes sense to mention it, however its how you do it. we receiced an invitation in which the couple put it nicely they said "your presence alone at our wedding is reward enough but if you do wish to bring a gift, monetary gifts would be prefered" or someting to that effect.
2007-07-13 09:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by cathrine r 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do find it rude that it was printed on the invitation. That's tacky. It is ok though for them to "prefer" money. Some couples already have a house full of stuff before they get married.
2007-07-13 13:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there
i have family that live overseas that have done this to us (send us a card and they had asked for money) i thought it was very rude as i didnt know these people for a bar of soap but luckily we did send them the cash as the cheque was lost in the mail and at least we could resend it again without paying.
if i ever got married, i wouldnt have a big wedding anyway. it would save myself and my partner a fortune!
2007-07-13 04:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by gardennnome 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very rude. I mean, it's up to the person to give a gift or not. And if they don't, it's not the end of the world. They're doing a favor for you just being there. Plus, isn't being MARRIED enough? I mean, you've just been bonded to your love for the rest of your lives. Who need material crap?
2007-07-12 16:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Puss In Suit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they are asking for a way that they can best fill the needs of them getting married....like some people it really helps them to get some extra money or gifts starting a new home together....
2007-07-12 16:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by answergirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If monetary gifts are preferred...how much is a generous enough amount without being considered cheap?
2007-07-12 18:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by cwby20002000 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, that's rude in my opinion. Like, what if you can't afford to buy something? It's not very considerate to ask for gifts like that.
2007-07-12 16:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by inugurl09 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe they put that in their wedding invitation!!!! Not only is it rude to ask for cash, it is extremely rude to put in your invite. I'd decline and send nothing.
2007-07-13 08:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Pick up your darn bananaphone! 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋