Question about abortion?

Question

I am not having an abortion. But I am not Anti-Abortion either. Nor do I plan on having one if I were to get pregnant. I am at a point in my life where I am getting married in 2 months and old enough and in a good enough job where I feel I could raise a baby. However when I was in college or even in my senior year of High School I had thought that if I got pregnant I would consider it.
So what I am asking if purely for education sake and maybe you can educate a few others who might have the same questions.
What does having an abortion feel like?
How did you feel afterwards?
Do you regret having one?
Any other information would be great too.

Please only people who ACTUALLY HAVE HAD ONE or KNOW the correct answers because a friend went through it. I dont want any pro-life people throwing in their comments about how horrible it is and what not. You haven't been there so please leave your comments to yourself. This question isn't being asked to get opinions but to be educated.

Thanks manicxhispanic. I'm glad to see there are others out there who come here to get educated about different things in life instead of critisizing people over nothing like Jessgirl.

Knowledge is power

Thank you very much to everyone else who seriously answered my question instead of critisizing

Seriously people stop telling me to google stuff. Google does not have real stories from real people like this place does.

Answer 1

I had a medical abortion rather than a surgical abortion. A medical abortion is where you take pills to induce a miscarriage, and can only be done early in the pregnancy (up to 8 weeks I believe).

You take one pill at the clinic that stops your body from producing the necessary hormones to continue the pregnancy, and then you take another set of pills 24-48 hours later that cause your uterus to contract and expel the pregnancy tissue. I didn't feel anything after the first pill although I did start to bleed. With the second pills they recommend you take both vicodin and ib profen - it was still incredibly painful for me though. I was basically on the bathroom floor crying for a few hours. My understanding is the pain is not this bad for most women though, it usually feels slightly worse than a period. There also was a little bit of nausea and the bleeding continued for a week or two.

Afterwords there definitely was a sense of loss. I don't regret having the abortion because I know it was the best decision for me at this point in my life. If anything I regret getting myself into the situation at all. It is a difficult decision to make. I think the fact that the decision to abort was made with the father and that he was very supportive throughout the whole ordeal definitely helped. I can't imagine having to go through something like this alone and feel bad for any woman who doesn't have someone to help her through this.

Answer 2

I think its human nature to have regret and "what ifs" over any major decision in your life. I think if you had one, and were miserable, even years later, you would blame it on the abortion. I think if you had one, and led a happy, fulfilled life after, you will always question it, and whether you could have provided a great life for that child.

I dont think its anything anyone is proud of, granted there are a lot fo stupid people out there, who do things over and over, and never learn from their mistakes.

There are also a lot of people out there who are often suprised and overwhelmed at what life throws at them medically, emotionally, etc and have to make really really tough choices and do the best they can at the time with the mindset, support, capacity, and experience they currently have. And then if they make mistakes, to learn from them.

Now that I am a mom, it throws a curve at me also, if there was a ever a medical reason I needed one, or a friend or family member, you could be potentially taking a mom away from a young child. Which scares me horribly.

Answer 3

You will still get those nasty comments from people who have never had one....just part of this section.

1) You don't feel anything because you are givin an anesthetic which makes you numb
2) I felt like I had bad period cramps and I was very tired, I bled a good amount but nothing that scared me or anything.
3) I absolutely DO NOT regret having one. Best decision I made for myself.

I am getting married now in 2 months as well and we are pregnant with our first. For some reason even though I answered exactly what you asked I will still get thumbs down from people.

Answer 4

first of all im glad that u r in a secure place in ur life that if u were to get pregnant u would b ready. when i was in college i wasn't but i got pregnant anyways. i had that baby. then about a year ago i ended up in a bad situation. i could take care of my daughter. her father and i weren't together and i had a one night stand. we used protection and unfortunately it didn't work. i found myself pregnant again. I had to do what was best for me and I had an abortion. First of all when they give u an abortion, they put u in twilight sleep but u can feel it. i started coming out of mine towards the end and i could feel it scrapping. i remember screaming so loud and bad. then afterwords in the recovery i got really sick and threw up a lot. but then once i got all the medication out of my system i felt fne. do i regret it? no not really. it was wut was best at the time. and now my daughters father and i r married he is in the us army and we r going to have our second child in 3 weeks. so if a friend of urs went through it and she isn't handling it well tell her to call the clinic they should have counselors there that will help her get on with her life. honestly if she wasnt ready then there is nothing from with it. the best thing for u to do for her is tell her she can talk to u, even tho u have never been there u can b a friend to her and let her vent. shes going to have the blues for a few days. there will b an empty spot inside of her. but she will b alright. just b thre and if she feels like cryin cry with her hug her tell her she did the right thing and give her as much support as u can. hope this helps

Answer 5

For me abortion wasn't really painful physically. I'll never get over it though. It's the hardest decision I've ever made but I don't regret it. I pray for my child every night and I just know he or she went to someone who could take care of a child. I actually think it was my step mom. A week after I had the abortion she said she was pregnant. It's just weird because she was on birth control they weren't trying or anything. Every child that is meant to be born will be born. That's how I feel anyways.

Answer 6

I had an abortion at the age of 17. It was completely against my will. My boyfriend then (husband now), my mom and his mom all ordered me to do it. I did not want to do it at all but I was being threatened to be kicked out of the house and broken up with. Which now, I would have chosen my child over that any day. But then I was so young and stupid. To answer your questions, you don't feel it. They put you to sleep. But it only takes about 20 min. I woke up sick to my stomach. I regretted it then and still do to this day. Part of my guilt was that I feel even a four-week old fetus is a child. Some people don't believe that, so that determines part of how you feel. But I would never recommend anyone to get it unless they absolutely, without a doubt, 100% knew that's what they wanted. I knew I would regret mine b/c I didn't want it in the first place.

Answer 7

Well, you asked a controversial question. Why do you only want answers that you want to hear?

To answer your questions

1. What does having an abortion feel like? I don't know, but I do know that someone in my family wanted me aborted when my mom was pregnant with me. I do not like that.

2. How did you feel afterwards? I felt mad towards the person who wanted me aborted.

3. Do you regret having one? I never had one. Life begins at conception. Any other answer as to when life begins is conjecture.

Answer 8

My boyfriend's mother had 2 abortions. She told me that they make it the worst possible experience ever for you. If they can, they put you to sleep while you undergo the procedure, unless you chose to be awake. If they put you under, you don't feel anything during. If you are awake, they give you a local anesthetic and you feel heavy cramping. Afterwards, she told me you feel like less than a person...like you've just had your heart ripped out of your chest and stomped on. She didn't regret having either one, but said the experience was so horrible, that she could NEVER do it again. She said not a day goes by that she wonders "what if". I personally have done research on abortion, because when I got pregnant, it was a topic of discussion between my boyfriend and I. If you are less than 5 weeks pregnant, they can do a medical abortion, where you are given 2 pills--1 to terminate the pregnancy, another to cause you to have contractions to cleanse your body of the pregnancy. They can do a surgical abortion up to 27 weeks (may be shorter in other states) where they vaccuum the pregnancy from your uterus by inserting a tube through your cervix.

Answer 9

Unfortunately I did have to have one for medical reasons. The procedure itself was like a bad cramping. The shots afterward made me feel bad and drug out. My belly was tender for a while afterwards. I thought about it for a long while, and it was tough mentaly, but I eventually got over it for the most part. I couldn't have dairy products due to the meds. I do not regret having it done, because the baby would not have lived even through the birth.

Answer 10

Hi, I am a guy but I can answer this, Years ago A girlfreind of mine had one (it was mine) and I was all for it! but as the years have gone by I regret this decision, there isnt a day goes by that I dont wonder what everything would be like with this child its very sad really. I can explain deeper but unless you really want to know I wont go into it. I hope I have helped.
Peace, Kenny