My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and we have a decent sex life making love 2 to 3 times a week..Of course he doesnt have a problem discussing our sex life but he seems uncomfortable talking about masturbation,fantasies and if we are watching tv together and see a good looking woman i will say to him "what do you think of her"..These things i have mentioned he wont talk about and its not a problem just wondering if other men are like this..I thought all men liked talking about this stuff..I know what your gonna say masturbation and fantasies are a part of talking about your sex life but these few things he isnt comfortable talking about..So like i said are other men like this?
2007-07-12 08:01:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Like if i say to him when we see a good looking woman on tv i will say to him "dont you think she's hot and he will say to me.."why do u always ask me this stuff"Its like he isnt comfortable telling me what he thinks of an attractive woman.
2007-07-12 08:05:37 · update #1
Well tipper i was his first serious relationship and when we met he was 25 and still a virgin maybe thats why he is like this but like i said this isnt a problem and it doesnt bother me i was just wondering if other men are like this.
2007-07-12 08:12:04 · update #2
He is not wierd.
He may be embarrassed and afraid of being judged.
He may have had jealous girlfriends in his past who lectured him about checking out other women and/or made him feel guilty about having fantasies that creeped them out.
2007-07-12 08:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all guys do like to talk about it but only with other guys. Second, if you ask him "don't you think she's hot" what is he suppose to say. if he answers yes then he thinks you will think he likes the other chic better if he answers no and you know she is then he's worried that you'll know he's lying. Now if you were to say "Damn, she's hot, don't you think so?" you might get an answer. Now about his masturbation and fantasies, most men have really sick fantasies and he's worried that you might think he's a closet pervert. Masturbation isn't something most guys are comfortable talking about to anyone. Now if you were to start the conversation and tell him how you masturbate he might loosen up.
2007-07-12 08:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband isn't really comfortable talking about masturbation. I caught him once and he acted like a kid getting caught by his parents. If I try to talk to him about it he gets mad. I guess because he's just not comfortable discussing it. Now about other women, he has no problem saying what's on his mind. I even point them out for him. Like when we go somewhere and I see a hot chic, I am like look honey or check out them boobs. We have conversations about it. I guess some men are different. He may think that he might hurt your feelings if he says something about another woman.
2007-07-12 08:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I have mixed feelings about this... when I dated women comfortable with themselves, and they would ask me those kinds of questions, I didn't mind answering whether or not I thought someone was sexy... but when I was with insecure women, those questions always got thrown back in my face later on, usually during a fight, or else they would feel bad when I answered, as if I was comparing them...
Sometimes guys see those kind of questions as a lose-lose situation... like that lose-lose question "Have you noticed I've gained a few pounds?" If you say yes, you get yelled at for thinking she's fat, if you say no, she says you never pay any attention to me...
I know not all women are like this, but there are a lot who are...
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2007-07-12 08:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by aspicco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont believe the above answer on the subject of the "no help - no intercourse" You shouldnt 'use' intercourse as a weapon against your husband like that, as, rather so youthful, the two one in each and every of you ought to nevertheless have the enthusiasm and want for it. a minimum of you merely paintings weekends? provide and take some issues. for instance - my husband never does the clothing washing, dishes, or any house household projects.. yet I never ought to p.c.. up after him (eg grimy outfits bypass straight away in the basket, shoes continuously bypass back, cups continuously get rinsed), and, I dont ever ought to prepare dinner (identity somewhat bypass out for dinners @ acquaintances / eating places, even nevertheless he preffers a house cooked meal.. he knows I hate cooking) So - my element is, in case you are able to merely spend 0.5 an hour to an hour an afternoon doing the chores whilst he isnt abode, and then on the weekends make him take you out rather - then you definately wont resent him whilst he sits there and you clean. No guy needs a nagging spouse, and there will be no longer something worse then him attempting to kick back in front of the television, and you're working around slamming doorways / dishes on the bench etc to make your element (possibly you dont, yet some ladies do) merely enable him comprehend you dont concepts cleansing, yet you merely dont desire to experience like merely because of the fact your married now, your continuously cleansing up (after him!)
2016-10-01 11:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have a husband but i do have a bf and i talk to him about masterbation and his fantasy but he doesn't mind. But when a girl comes on tv or when someone at his work or school have a crush on him i will joke around and be like so i seen ur g/f today or have you talked to your g/f today he'll get really really mad. But i mean if i'm joking whats the problem. Why are guys so uptight about things like this. But yet guys can talk about masterbation, fantasy and who they like to do or don't wanna do when its around their boys.
2007-07-12 08:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not weird I think it depends on the person . He probably was like that from parents or somthing happened when young ! Sounds like you two have it good though !
2007-07-12 08:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body is different and some like it and some don't. I guess you husband just doen't want to talk about this openly, I would leave him alone.
2007-07-12 08:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Babu 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They think it is trick questions and they dont want in trouble.
2007-07-12 08:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by gizmo0013 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Geez, let the old guy have his personal thoughts...YOU DON'T HAVE TO KNOW EVERY SINGLE THING IN HIS HEAD!
You sound like a nutcase..............
2007-07-12 08:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋