Once you've been betrayed or hurt by the opposite sex.... do you put the walls up towards all others?

Question

I think this question is pretty simple and to the point. If you have put up walls, what did it take to tear them down?

Answer 1

I put up walls and my husband never left me when i did all the things I could to push him away before he did me and now I trust him with all my heart and know I will never let the past rule me now because it makes you miserable.You can never truly be happy if you let those people who are long gone run your life now believe me it aint even worth it.

Answer 2

YES!! you do no matter what if you have been betrayed by the opposite sex- they will come down when you meet the right person- and once you do meet the right person you will forget about all the things that made you put up the wall in the first place.

Answer 3

There's a line from a song that says "Even a heart that is locked away can still find a way to break." I think this is true. No matter how much you try to put up walls, you're still going to get hurt in some way. It's just life. Might as well live it now, right? It's the only one we've got.

Answer 4

Putting up walls is being afraid. Trust must be before they come down. You can tear them down if you want to. I think it's better to live with out walls and be hurt a thousand times than miss the one opportunity to be happy when it comes along. One can get over being hurt. But being sad is so sad.

Answer 5

I have been hurt a few times and I have put up walls it sucks because this isn't good. if you can't let others in you might let something good pass you up because you were trying to keep out the bad. you know that saying it is better to have love and lost than never loved at at...well it's true. love is worth all of the hurt and pain you just have to pick yourself up when you fall down and eventually the right one will come along.

Answer 6

People will betray you, others will build you up. Everyone builds walls - you just need to know where to place them.

I put up walls between me and the person who hurt or betrayed me. They don't get to do that twice.

But, I never hold what one person did against the rest of the world. I just learn to be more careful and move on.

Answer 7

Once you've been betrayed by somebody, it's hard to trust others again.

For me, I was walked over one guy, thought the next guy would be different, and it happened again. I honestly don't think I dated bad guys, I honestly thought he would be a loyal guy. But he wasn't. After seeing how many guys that seem great and loyal end up betraying the person that loves them... its very hard.

I don't know what will tear them down. Trust.. which will be hard to earn.

Answer 8

i think that there is an automatic feeling that you need to put up walls in order to protect yourself from pain in the future. the thing that will break these walls down is the right person. when you meet someone that makes you feel safe again, the walls will come down and you will be able to let them in.

Answer 9

My husband left me early last year and we were divorced within 6 months. I dated another guy for about 5 months but broke it off because it wasn't fair to him that I couldn't be more emotionally involved. So now I'm not dating anyone and probably won't for some time. I'm still healing and not up to opening myself to the opposite sex. Everyone tells me it just takes time and I'm looking to the future with that in mind.

Answer 10

Sadly enough, I will never completely trust anyone again. I divorced my philandering husband of 20 years. I let the walls down, I love my b/f and he hasn't given me a reason not to trust him. But I won't be made a fool of again. Just be more cautious but don't give up !!!