2007-07-12 07:48:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what kind of cheating? sexual?, emotional? I would say you two need to talk. find out what was at the root of it. forgiveness needs to be done. healing needs to be worked out. Questions are stirred up? why? what did I do wrong? was it me? what could I have done better? though these questions arise, it does not saying it was your fault. He is the one that did the deed. Trust needs to be restored, and unfortunately it takes alot longer to rebuild the trust then it did to break it down.... sorry for your situation, may God be involved with the healing
2007-07-12 07:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by Fugitive Peices 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-12 18:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have him get a STD test for sure. Make that a condition of any further contact of any kind.
Only you can discern if you can trust him now (get the whole story and ask lots of questions). If you have kids, I would try to give him some benefit of the doubt for their sake.
Sorry that some people can't read...she is not saying it has been going on for 15 years.
2007-07-12 14:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make any rash decisions. You need to calm down and then talk to your husband. How did you find out? Is he remorseful at all? Don;t just pack up and leave or kick him out unless he's being abusive. Think it through. Maybe this is something that can be fixed. Maybe not. But you will never know unless you talk to him about it.
2007-07-12 14:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with yourself and decide if you can live with that or not and if you can ever trust him again. There is something wrong in the marriage or maybe you both have just lost touch with eachother. mistakes happen and sometimes you can learn from them. If both of you are willing to work on the marriage I say give it a go but if he doesn't try get rid of him and find someone who will make you happy!!
2007-07-12 14:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by fmadison3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not GIVE him a second chance, he needs to earn it. If he wants to stick around, then you OWN him. You are the boss of him. Every password and email account is open to you. You have the right to inspect his phone, his voice mail, and know every number he dials. You OWN him. If he is going someplace other than work, he must tell you. He should expect you to show up any place any time. You OWN him. He needs to earn you back. See the difference.
2007-07-12 15:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some marriages survive these thing and some don't.but I will say this ,your relationship with your husband will be different from now on.Maybe better, maybe worst,but definitely different.
2007-07-12 15:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look in your heart and see if you can forgive him. I know people who have been able to move on from it but it is hard. If you decide to forgive, you have to really forgive him and not bring it up at every opportunity. I hope that everything works out for you. Good Luck!
2007-07-12 14:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, crack him across the back of the head with a frying pan, honey, and tell him to knock that stupid $hit off! You have got to quit being so nice!
2007-07-12 14:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him and he still loves you try joint counseling. If you believe it's over then you may want to get counseling for yourself and your children if you have any. Sorry to hear it happened, not all men are like that. Good luck.
2007-07-12 14:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Lostandconfused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋