I'm 13 and have a good relationship wityh my mom But for the last few months she's been kinda weird, different. She broke several promises she had made to me and lied 3 times, about things important to me. I got devastated, if I can't trust my own mom, who will I trust? When she realized how hurt I was she apologized, desperately, cried a lot, hugged me tight, asked for forgiviness and pleaded with me to keep trusting her. Now, I'm really confused, I'm terribly hurt but also terribly sorry for her. I thinlk I'll simply forgive and forget, I'm about to consider this as one of those weakness, one of those mistakes everybody makes sometimes.
I'll never use this as a justification for me myself to lie, break promises, be mean or do bad stuff. But, now my question: if it was me the one to lie to her and break promises? Would she forgive me from the depth of her heart? Would she accept my apologies and keep trusting me?
2007-07-12 07:25:44 · 15 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think your mother is trying very hard and maybe going through something that you dont understand and will when you have kids . You just have to move on and accept her apology . Try and be a good kid and not to stress her too much that may just add to her troubles . good luck .
2007-07-12 07:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a very smart intellegent girl to know about the closeness that all adults should have with other adults but here you are 13 years old. Your mom sounds like she may be a tad depressed about something and maybe she wants to make promises to you and shes not able too. Your mom will always forgive you for things you do wrong, i know this because i am a mom of 2 children and as angry as they make me i will always love them deeply.
Every one makes mistakes even moms, i have promised my children things as well and haven't come through, let me tell ya i was hurt to having to do that it made me feel like a bad person. Maybe shes scared that your 13 and going into teenage years she won't be able to be there with you all the time so shes making promises to try to fill that. You seem like a wonderful child and what i can suggest is print this question out and let your mom read it, i think she will understand shes dealing with an educated wonderful awesome daughter. Keep up the good work with expressing your feelings and i hope it all works out
2007-07-12 07:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each and every each and every now and then we lie and could ruin a promise for different reasons. this is no longer a solid element yet in existence each and every each and every now and then we are thrown a curve ball. occasion your mom became into taking you on holiday. properly if she isn't getting her over the years examine or no longer able to get the day off paintings then she would be waiting to be breaking her promise to you yet, can no longer have sufficient money to loose her job which helps you so this is perplexing that might actually assist you once you bypass away out the important factors. you are able to have faith your mom and till you're a determine you will no longer comprehend a mom's love is unconditional. She will possibly no longer continuously like what you do or agree yet will continuously love you no matter how previous you're. you ought to forgive and discover out why she did what she did.
2016-10-01 11:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is your best bet. Just stop expecting her to keep her word about things. Don't hold it against her though, some people just aren't good about keeping their word on some things.
And no, from the people like that I've known, they don't forgive others for the things they do themselves.
I'm sorry for your troubles. Don't let it make you not trust other people though, some of the world tries to be more honest. I'll hope your mom gets her act together.
2007-07-12 12:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say you sound very mature for your age! yes she is your mother, I think you should forgive and forget!! Maybe if it happens again then dont' forget and maybe dont even forgive. It sounds like your mom is truely sorry!! She is your mom and you don't want this inncident to ruin the bond you guys have. You are lucky to have someone you can be close too, many kids out there don't have that. I would just make sure she knows that she really hurt your feelings and if it happens again you won't forgive her so easily next time. Good luck!
2007-07-12 07:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by baby1august 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She would forgive you from the bottom of her heart, yes. She would always accept your apologies and trust you again, yes! Parents make mistakes too and the fact that she apologized to you is a recognition that she is an honest parent that can accept her mistakes. You seem to be a great kid and your mom seems to be trying to bo a good mom. Good luck!
2007-07-12 07:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should forgive her and try to forget about all of this. People go through phases sometime where it seems like they have a different, mean attitude. This can happen with friends, your family, and even other peers. People aren't perfect in their emotions and actions regardless of their attitude or position of authority. (your mom or dad for instance) As much as it still hurts inside of you, you have to drop it and move on.
2007-07-12 09:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Parents sometimes forget that they need to respect their children in the same manner they would like to be respected... In life, those closest to you have the most power to hurt you... Just wait until you fall in love with your first b/f and he leaves you or is caught with your best friend.. He will hurt you.... It is going to happen.... Communication is the key to getting through hurt and moving on with those close to you... So keep talking and start forgiving.... You will need her
2007-07-12 07:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by Joey_Pit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a parent myself and already having been through my teens years I don't think that if it was you, that she would totally trust you unless you earned it. I think you should forgive her, but you just may not be able to completely trust her. Just don't set yourself up for heartache. Look out for #1, yourself!
2007-07-12 07:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you believe that she was telling the truth when she said that she was sorry then there is no reason for you to stop trusting her. It takes a while to gain back trust and let her know where you stand.
Do what you feel is right.
good luck
2007-07-12 07:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋